Hi folks
I'm Bob Schrupp, physical therapist
Brad Heineck, physical therapist. Together we are the most famous physical therapists on the internet, in our opinon of course. Three best techniques to stop
somebody from groping you or stop a groper.
They are the best three techniques that there are and
I taught my daughter before she went off to downtown Milwaukee to go to college, so I'm serious about it
You're just not some novice. I mean
you've taught martial arts for 17 years. I took it for 17 years.
I taught about 10 years.
But for my second degree, black belt my emphasis for that degree was
self-defense typically with females and I did a lot of research on it and this information is dead-on and it works
And I've got two daughters too, so I've definitely got some interest in it.
We have a video coming up that you're actually gonna be showing a weapon. The single best in a weapon.
Look for that one, and I'm actually getting one for my daughter
Maybe my daughters and and my wife, too
So they can protect themselves. By the way Brad did also put together this book
It's a Kindle book: "Martial Arts Manual for Stretching, Strengthening, and Treatment of Common Injuries". It's not for self-defense
But it's preparing basically for martial arts. Try to keep your body healthy
and it shows all the basics and whatnot. It's down in our Amazon preferred list.
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Okay, so should we should be started?
The reason we're doing this is because as
therapists we want to keep people healthy and safe and because of my background we thought just throw this in as a public service
but it seems very timely with everything on the news is going on we got all these
officials and we know other people that they get groped and it's like how do you prevent this, and if you approach it properly
there's some real effective techniques to stop it before it happens.
Like with everything you want to do prevention almost to some extent
prepare yourself before it even happens. Now as I mentioned before my daughter went to school in Milwaukee from
small-town Wisconsin to literally downtown Milwaukee. Big city.
I'm thinking I'm getting like I don't like this idea and not only that she's going to school for mechanical engineering
dominated by males in the workplace, and I'm thinking
it's probably 95% men, and the school is 80% men. I don't know what the workplace is
Anyways, I'm thinking
She's got to know everything I know and more. I've been teaching her this not just in one day
but over the last few years of her high school. First of all before you
can understand and be effective with these techniques if you understand the psychology of
the groper or the person who may attack you
makes all the difference in the world. This is a simple analogy.
Pretend you got a lion here, a lion would be the groper. That lion looks over a herd of gazelle.
They are looking for
easy prey. They want prey that is not gonna put up a fight.
They want prey they can be
successful with and not have a problem. As I was telling Brad, I read an article about this,
this guy is a criminal
and he turned his life around, but they asked him how does he pick out his prey and
he was telling about people that came along the street, and he said the ones that are doing the Vic walk, the victim.
So instead of walking confident
They looked like
You know life is bad
it just looked like someone, you and I can pick him out right away.
The head is down. You're looking down. Awareness is right there, instead of being aware of your surroundings.
They don't look confident. Right so number one rule. Here's the first one is
First impression and the impressions is: what do you appear like?
Are your eyes down, is your posture down, so you need to have good posture.
When you're walking, you're walking like you know where you're going.
I've talked to my daughter about this. You're walking downtown Milwaukee here in a place that you don't feel safe
and you need to be up walking, aware of your surroundings and looking confident like you own that sidewalk. You know where you're going.
That's it yeah. They're gonna pick on tourists too more than someone local.
I can always tell a local person. It's easy to tell someone that doesn't know or like in her case just moved to town.
Might not what know where she's going. So that contact now if you pass someone on the street
You're gonna make eye contact with the person and you're gonna give them that look of confidence
And if you don't like looking into their eyes because they're creepy you look at their eyebrows or their forehead they cannot tell the difference
And then it eliminates that creepy eye feeling and you go past them and as you walk past them
You're going to look behind you to see where they are. Yep just in case you've got someone
that's gonna come back and get you from behind. So that complete awareness. It's very important. Eye contact surprises me, Brad.
To some extent because I
usually don't practice that. Well didn't you ever hear the saying you know you could see by the look in their eye.
You can read a lot. You really got to have a strong look in your face now
People that already know each other like these people that are these politicians and stuff
They're always meeting people now if they're gonna shake someone's hands, and they shake everyone's hands and with my daughter
I've taught her this since she was old enough to shake hands, shake
my hand and if she gives me the limp noodle like a weak handshake like a lot of females, do she knows better.
I said if you're gonna shake someone's hands, you shake it firmly you look them in the eye, and you greet them with confidence
My name is Brad Heineck so and so. I'm not somebody to mess with
You don't have to say that because it may not be that situation.
With these politicians when you shake their hand you grip it tight you look them in the eye
And you smile with confidence and I always tell her if it's a man you grip it twice as hard
And you squeeze their knuckles. I was just telling Bob
I had a woman do that to me a few years ago
We both know her now through business she did that to my hand and boy. She's a CEO of a company.
There's a reason she got there. Sure she's a confident woman.
So anyways handshake is critical so parents out there
You must teach your children to shake hands properly
Confidently, with the confident voice. Now their benefit about this is not just it's going to keep them safe
but out in the working world it's gonna gain them work because at an
interview if
The handshake, the posture all these things we just talked about are gonna get you a job as well as keeping you safe. My son
just went through this. He met the head of a program at UW Eau Claire and
The guy said the first thing I looked for was whether or not you were looking me in the eye
He's in computers and a lot of these computer kids
They're just in the computers, not into people
And he goes the first thing you did is you shook my hand and you looked me in the eye he said
I know you're gonna do well. And a groper is gonna
See they're gonna pick up on this body language big time so again number one.
Eye contact, body posture, good body language. Number two handshake very firm, confident voice now, number three. Let's say
that didn't go well or
despite that the person..Bob's gonna be the groper.
I'm gonna be the one getting assaulted, so to speak. Hi Bradley.
Now someone puts your hand on you that is already an assault. It's improper.
And there's no reason anybody should have that there and you've got to tell your children this. I've taught my daughter this.
Put your hand back there Bob
The only way you're gonna stop that you're not gonna grab them by the wrist and you have to do this as soon
as possible. You don't leave that hand there for more than a second you're gonna grab one finger
with all of your hand, grab that finger, and you're gonna bend it back until it breaks
Don't worry. It's not breaking. It's not gonna break. I'm kidding, but that's what's in your mind. You're gonna
Bend it back without thinking nice, and you're gonna get up. You're gonna "stop that"
And if you do that immediately that person gets a very strong signal that you're not that easy prey.
So the verbal stun not only grabbing and bringing the finger back and Bob it doesn't hurt that bad
He always says that, let me do it to you once
(It doesn't matter which finger?) Well I think this is the one that's sticking out
Yeah, wherever you can get ahold of yeah
The pinky finger is probably the easiest because its weakest
So, but it's not always the easiest one to get a hold of. That's good question
I'd say probably one on the outside. Lonnie was asking which finger to use
Not the thumb.
Could use the thumb, but the other ones are much more vulnerable. So the pinky is the weakest one and it's gonna prove
just as much pain
I see it Brad as you almost put your hand on there like you're complying
And then you grab the finger and that gives you a chance to grab that finger
But you don't mess around, you get in that face right and you start bending it backwards
And they'll let go real quick, and then the next thing I said it's a verbal stun. Now the words
I use I would rather use like it has to be short. It has to be sweet. What did you say to me?
I said stop it. Or leave me alone
you should know the words ahead of time, practice it so it's
automatic to you. The reason you want the words short and
to the point is so they get the cue. They're gonna
automatically back off because of the verbal stun
But if there's people around you or in another room and they hear leave me alone
They know something inappropriate or hands off me, right
Hands off me so pick that in your mind right now and write it down on a piece of paper
Ten twenty times so that it gets implanted in your mind, so it happens. You don't have to think about it
You know what's there, you grab the finger, you're up
eye contact, looking strong in that verbal stun leave me alone
And those are the three. No punch? No punch. I was in karate for
seventeen years and I know how long it takes to be effective with a punch or kick and then obviously get out of there that
It's gonna take years to become effective in a real life situation punching and kicking
So with these you prevent it. You don't let it get that far
Sincerely hope none of you have to go through this and I certainly hope my daughters don't have to go through this
But I hope this helped you out. Thanks, Brad. If nothing else you're much better off getting the job
That's right
Thanks, everybody for watching. Except for the finger bend, don't do that.