hey michelle have you over indulged on anything lately oh my gosh lindsay i just had to eat a box
of cookies earlier and i'm kind of regretting it are you oh my gosh guys in today's episode
we're gonna show you a very high level way to talk about your regrets about things that you have over
indulged on specifically food but all their things too and how to build connection based
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i'm good you know what my tummy hurts a bit i mean i had to eat a full box of cookies didn't
i you just had to do it michelle i just had to do it like what a good question here's a
good question what are the what is the type of cookie that just disarms you completely like
you cannot resist that type of cookie what is it oh well there is a there is a cookie well
there are two places near me now a new one just opened up i would say your classic chocolate chip
is for certain chocolates okay okay yeah but like there are just some really really really
good cookie places near me that are dangerous do they do delivery that's really true they do they
do what about you what's your favorite i know you're like you're an ice cream person and i
would say that if i had to choose i would say that i'm a cookie person even over ice cream
yeah i would take ice cream over cookies good ice cream chocolate and peanut butter you know you
know but if it's gonna be cookies chocolate chip two but big big thick chunks of chocolate but not
soft chocolate chip cookies the harder ones like the crunchier kind you know how there are soft
ones that taste kind of store-bought i feel like but then there's like the homemade really good
chunks maybe some peanut butter chunks in there too so peanut butter is clearly the peanut butter
overlaps yes um yeah well guys don't worry i didn't actually eat a whole box of cookies though
sometimes i would like to i mean guys but today we're going to be talking not only about cookies
but about this fun structure so lindsay what did i say about the cookie yes this is interesting this
is all about emotion and emphasis right you said i had to eat a full box of cookies didn't i right
the i had to is what we're focusing on today had to right and it's not was i saying like had to in
the way of like something that was a task or like that i not really i don't know no it's not like a
work project or something right it's more like you just let's say you were tempted you you could not
resist that's how i interpret that is that how you interpret it michelle yeah it's like well i mean
just let's just go over the structure i mean what is it like i mean this is a fun structure that
talks about personality so it's you had to or i had to right but it's not again talking about
something that was necessary for you to do so we're going to get to that more in a second so
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stuff michelle so now let's get into it what are we trying to show here okay so well this is a way
i think sometimes that we can show frustration or regret right like so i had to drink all that milk
right like and now my stomach hurts or something but you have to put this dress on
hat or it doesn't work right yeah yeah yeah yeah and i wonder if we can maybe we'll talk later in
this episode about like criticizing someone like oh you just had to finish the milk right
um maybe that will come come up a little bit later right so right but or for example i had to buy
that expensive car i just had to buy it i wanted it so badly right but i don't think it's like oh
i had to like there's the i had to in the way of like oh just like oh i couldn't resist but i
think that this is more like oh i had to buy that expensive car and now i'm having trouble paying my
bills let's yeah so we're okay so now i understand where we're where we're getting at today it's this
whole idea of you're kind of self-criticizing right and you're it's kind of a hindsight
type of articulation right michelle right right it's like oh i i just had to do that it's
yes there is the like oh i just had to buy that dress it was so beautiful like i couldn't resist
it but i thought this is more expressing this like frustration regret hindsight you
know outside yeah the hindsight is 20 20 concept right what was i thinking right why did i go and
do that now there's this result right my credit is blown up because i just had to buy that car
exactly exactly so if i'm saying instead of saying something like oh like my my tummy
hurts i shouldn't have had all those cookies like i instead i could say i just had to eat
like i just had to do that so this is just a way to do it with more a little bit more personality
more self-deprecating it's self-deprecating yeah it's kind of like you're mocking yourself
in a way yeah right you're mocking your own decisions that's right yeah very high level
very high level lindsay do you i mean do you think that you ever use this it's hard to sometimes like
know if we use it right that's a good question yeah probably i would or maybe i've just thought
it so i didn't use the words to articulate it trying to think of something you know i just had
to go three weeks without cleaning my apartment and now it's a total mess maybe something like
that yeah i would use it i just can't think of any exact examples michelle is there something
that you've regretted doing or you use this structure oh i mean i'm sure and it probably does
have to do with eating a lot of cookies um eating yeah oh oh you know what you know what i'll say
like okay here's a time when you might use it like staying up too late to watch a tv show
that's it like oh like i just had to stay up and watch that last episode and i just had to stay up
and binge watch three episode and now like i got four hours of sleep right like that like immediate
kind of regret or frustration with yourself yeah i just had to stay up on friday night and
this is true and watch i saw arachnophobia was available on netflix and it's a movie from my
from the 80s i used to watch it as a kid so i just had to finish the movie i had to stay
up and finish the movie and then of course you feel the spiders all over you as you're
watching the movies oh this sounds like a terrible movie i think it's great
sounds terrible um but yeah but exactly but in a way it is still like we were saying oh it's not so
much about that you couldn't resist but it resists something but it actually that's packed into it
like i couldn't resist it and now i regret it yeah yeah right i'm not telling you like oh lindsay i
just i had to watch that movie like i couldn't resist it but i'm i'm using it in this way of
i couldn't resist it and now and now there's a result yeah now you regret and i think this is
perfect for talking about over indulgences in terms of food like you said michelle
but not just cookies not just snacks usually like a second helping of dessert right or you know guys
we're in the holiday season right now so we're all making these mistakes all right we're going
to the dinner or the thanksgiving dinner we put on the turkey pants after because we just had to
have that second piece of pumpkin pie right and now i'm wearing my turkey pants and i i feel sick
right exactly i mean i think it could also be useful i mean i think talking to a friend is the
most normal you know like natural way to use it um you might be able to express certain feelings um
like to a co-worker maybe um oh yeah just like i just had to you know work on that presentation for
four hours and now i didn't eat lunch or something like that um so you can but i think it's kind of
casual well sorry well i was just gonna say i think we might also use this when we choose
to cut corners right if we choose to do something the easy way like i just had to i don't know like
uh have someone else write my paper for me and now i've gotten an f or i had to avoid doing it myself
or something like that where we try to take the easy way out at the beginning and then it ends up
being a big problem a bigger issue yeah backfires yeah yeah yep right i think that's definitely good
um i mean i i mean let's talk about this like i think like i said i think it's casual but i think
you know in formal situations it could be used as a sort of a source of humor but in general i
think it's funny i think it's more interesting and a more humorous way of saying why did i do
this so i agree yeah lindsay let's do some role plays okay i know our listeners love the role
play so here they are guys oh i'm so tired here we go you had to stay up all night watching netflix
yeah that's the example that i gave which i didn't realize i had written that but now so this is what
i want to talk about using it on other people now so now i'm i'm saying it about you so we've mostly
been talking about using it for self-deprecation now what do you think in this way is it like funny
offensive does it teach a lesson what do you think i think if it's cl if you're close to someone
and you can tease them like a partner or a very close friend oh you just had to you skip sleep and
stay up and you just had to hit continue on the netflix thing right next playing next next next
you just had to do that and now look how you feel saturday morning you feel awful right okay
okay if it's someone you know really well and not okay if it's someone you don't know so well
right but even if you know them really well i think they could be it could be like frustrating
almost even more like if you like then it almost i don't know it it really depends it depends are
you actually using it to tease like are you actually using it like are you really using it
in a lighthearted way or is this some part of you that is like like it feels a little annoyed about
this like feels you know like great now you're tired and now our day is ruined you know like
oh yeah so like i think you have to think about your true intent and like as to whether or not you
really want to use it well also i think the other person already knows that they made a mistake
so you're kind of rubbing it in when you're saying oh you just had to stay up and ruin our saturday
right they already feel bad enough for that so you know you're rubbing it in when you when
you do that yeah exactly exactly all right let's do another one all right here we go
uh wow you have a lot of homework i know i had to enroll in science for this semester oh gosh did
you mean like science level four i assume that's what you meant or four seconds i think i meant
i think i meant four science classes oh okay okay you do okay so you're a little confused with the
notes guys but no problem either way it's okay it doesn't matter saying the same thing right
i'm challenged this year with my science right so like i like again you're using that about yourself
now so you can say whatever you want about but you're expressing regret with that with with like
just with that structure with that intonation you are showing that you regret it yeah and i think
you're also showing with something like this when you've got when you've bitten off more than you
can chew let's just say that you know literally or metaphorically you're kind of admitting that
you're sort of an achiever right i just had to enroll in tens like a humble class it's a humble
brain like i just had to do it because i like to challenge myself but you know so it's there's
there's a lot that's coming out of this episode in terms of describing our personalities guys
that native speakers do but you're never going to find this in any textbook that's for sure
right michelle right oh no you are definitely not going to find this in a textbook this is
very very unique i think i mean other ways like other ways that you can say this and express
this regret like as we said i mean there's nothing wrong with saying this it's just a
you know like for example so why did i like why did i have to bake three cakes
yes or eat ten cookies right so perfect that's one way guys um or the second way would be
saying blank was so unnecessary for example four science classes this semester was so unnecessary
what else michelle any other example those are the other two those are the two ways that
i i think that people also any other that you can think of no i was just gonna give
that other sample sentence so for example binging on those shows on netflix was so
unnecessary right so good yeah yeah so yeah again i think this is more self-deprecating
uh do you think this could connect you to someone oh i think maybe if you've both made the mistake
you know sometimes friends will sort of play off of each other and one person wants to stay up late
and watch netflix say well let's open another bottle of wine and you know get the snacks out
get the donuts out and then hit continue on that netflix right that could bond you oh we have to
watch that next netflix episode right that's true saying we right we've talked about like i and you
but like you can also use it for he she we they have to you know like but you know it might just
uh when you're using it on other people so if it's not i and we and all right then you know you have
to consider it more but if you use we uh you know i i don't know this makes me think of a time that
uh i was my my sister-in-law were going out we were gonna have a family dinner and we were all
going out for pizza my sister and i as law and i met for lunch and we said oh well we can't have
pizza because we're gonna have pizza later tonight oh no and we instead we ordered each of us grilled
cheese and tomato soup now oh that's very filling and good and also but also it's very pizza like
like it's not pizza but it's cheese bread tomato oh and that's true and we were like and then we're
eating it over like why did we just order like i mean it's not pizza but like the same a similar
idea and so that would be a time where we could say like oh we just had to and like let's imagine
we weren't but like if later we didn't want the pizza we would say yeah oh we had to basically eat
pizza for lunch that's so funny i never thought about that that grilled cheese is a lot like pizza
it's true it is but did you eat the pizza did you show up today i think i did i think i did
but yeah but i still always laugh about that one we just had this moment of like i think we just
ate and we're eating a different kind of pizza i love that yeah it's true guys so this so was that
a bonding moment it sounds like that was kind of yeah i think it's still a joke yeah yeah so this
can be and this would be the perfect opportunity to use that we just had to order something that
seemed just like pizza right that today's just like pizza so guys use this as a way to bond
especially when you get in trouble along with someone else right you get yourself into trouble
that could be fun that could be fun so guys this is this is a really really fun one um this is a
super humorous uh expression way to way to tease someone tease yourself be careful with it of
course as we said but yeah lindsay any other any other thoughts before we head out yeah guys you
know our whole goal for you is looking for that connection moment right connection not perfection
find the way to connect bringing out this kind of language when you have over-indulged or you and
someone else have over-indulged this is a great way to connect so use it don't be afraid now to
try it out right michelle um yeah and go to all it is english.com fluency score to get your score
and resources for your level all right sounds good michelle talk to you soon all right bye