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Brad Browning AKA Breakup Brad here, and in this video I’m going to be explaining how
to make your ex boyfriend or ex girlfriend fall back in love with you again.
So, if you are hoping to get a second chance with your ex, and you want them to fall head
over heels for you and beg to have you back… keep watching this video all the way to the
end.
Fact #1: You have a massive advantage, and a reason to be optimistic.
The simple reality is that you KNOW your ex has already fallen in love with you once in
the past... when you first started dating, when you were in the “honeymoon phase”...
your ex was probably madly in love with you at some point, and that gives you a huge advantage
over anyone else who might be interested in your ex.
This is great news, of course, because it means you know for sure that you and your
ex are compatible, and you just need to become the same person your ex fell in love with
back when you were together.
Fact #2: Romantic attraction is not a choice.
A lot of people fall into the trap of trying to talk their way back into their ex’s heart.
That’s never going to work -- in fact, most of the time, it makes matters worse and will
make your ex even less attracted to you.
HOWEVER, because attraction and love aren’t something we choose to feel, they’re also
emotions and feelings that we simply can’t control or overpower with logic
and reasoning.
Fact #3: There are scientifically proven ways to help your ex fall for you again.
Thankfully for you, you’ve found someone -- yours truly, Breakup Brad -- who has been
helping people from around the world re-unite and reverse their breakups for well over a
decade now.
I’ve worked with more than 110,000 clients overcome situations like the one you’re
facing right now, and I’ve seen what works and what doesn’t.
I’ve also looked into the psychology and science to learn a number of surprisingly
effective ‘hacks’ that can help you quickly and effectively change how your ex feels about
you and the possibility of a future together.
Obviously I’m going to be sharing a few of these strategies right here in this video,
but when the video is over, please visit BreakupBrad.com and watch my full how-to video for free…
and consider being my next coaching success story by signing up to get my ongoing personal
guidance to help you win back your ex.
Learn about hiring me as your personal breakup coach by visiting BreakupBrad.com/coaching
after this video is over.
Step #1: Let your ex go (for now).
The unfortunate reality is that at this point, your ex has lost their feelings for you…
at least to some extent.
And like I mentioned earlier, there’s no magic word you can say to change how he or
she feels for you.
In fact, trying to do or say anything in the immediate aftermath of the breakup to try
and get your ex to change their mind is going to backfire and make matters worse.
That means no begging, no pleading, no apologizing repeatedly, no sending gifts or writing long
love letters.
Step #2 - Wipe the slate clean & start fresh.
The second step towards making your ex fall back in love with you involves re-setting
their mental image of you.
In essence, what’s going on in the back of your ex’s mind right now when they think
about you and your time together as a couple is overwhelmingly negative… or at least,
they’re thinking about you as “the past” rather than a part of their future.
That’s something you need to change in order to win them back, obviously.
There are several ways you can do this, but one of the most effective ways to do this
is just to start acting more confident and independent.
I know this sounds, on the surface, like silly psychobabble… but I promise that once your
ex sees the “new you,” many of the negative traits or actions that you were portraying
directly before and after the break up will begin to fade away and he or she will begin
to look at you in a more positive light.
Remember, you possessed a bunch of positive traits and qualities when your ex fell in
love with you back in the early days of your time together, but ever since the breakup
-- and probably in the weeks and months leading up to it -- you were displaying negative traits,
and doing things that your ex found unattractive.
This could have been totally subconscious and unintentional -- in fact, it almost always
is -- but now you need to slowly and carefully bring those old traits back
to
the surface.
pa Step #3 - Plant the seeds of desire and attraction.
When you’ve begun to change your ex’s negative perception of you -- something you’ll
already be well on your way to doing by employing the first two steps I just described -- it’s
time to slowly send him or her psychological messages that demonstrate the fact that you’re
still that attractive, bold, and charismatic person your ex remembered when you first met.
This phase is where things begin to get tricky, and where a lot of people falter or make mistakes.
To begin with, while the goal is to drop hints about your exciting new life, and show off
the qualities and traits that your ex was attracted to in the first place, you can’t
be too obvious or move too quickly.
As I’ve mentioned in many of my past videos, subtlety is key.
There’s a few different ways to help plant these “seeds of desire” in your ex’s
mind, and one of my favorite techniques is to use text messages that remind your ex of
shared happy memories.
I’ve actually made several videos about this exact topic in the past, where I share
some examples of these “Happy Reminder” texts… click right here to watch my recent
YouTube video on this exact topic for more.
When you send these type of texts to your ex -- where the goal is to bring happy shared
memories to the top of your ex’s mind, and make them feel a longing for those “good
ol’ days” -- always make sure you get the timing and context of the message right.
You want to find a logical, justifiable reason to send your ex a text about it… it should
feel to your ex like you are only sending the text for a specific reason, otherwise
your true intentions may be obvious to your ex which will completely destroy any positive
impact the message would have had.
After you’ve started to plant these seeds in your ex’s mind, and effectively begun
to shift the way he or she feels about you, it’s time to set up an in-person meeting.
This is really important, but it’s also something you need to be careful doing, because
you need to do this correctly….
Really, the important thing here is that you need to pose as just a friend initially.
If your thinks you want to get together romantically when you propose meeting up in person, they’ll
likely say no.
Even if they really do want to see you, they will probably be thinking that seeing you
could be emotional or lead them into doing something they think they shouldn’t do -- like
get physical again, or ask if you want to give the relationship another chance -- so
you want to make sure your ex doesn’t think that this meet-up is a “date”.
In order to do this, come up with some kind of “reason” for meeting in person.
There are several excuses you can use to achieve this – for example, you could tell your
ex you need travel advice because you’re planning a trip to Spain this summer, or you
could ask about interior design ideas because you’re remodelling your new apartment, etc...
Choose an excuse that’s applicable to your ex and your situation that won’t seem weird
or out of place.
Finally, when you do meet up with your ex, you’ll need to show them a good time.
Make your ex laugh.
Tell entertaining stories.
Flirt like crazy, and build real, natural attraction again.
You can even pretend that he or she is someone you’ve just met, in order to keep things
feeling “new” or “exciting”... because remember that right now, your ex is sick of
the old and your aim is to re-ignore the “spark” of attraction.
And finally, one last tip here before we wrap up this video before it becomes even longer
than it already is….
Remember to ALWAYS keep any interactions with your ex fun, upbeat, and interesting.
NEVER get dragged into any drama or conflict, never engage in serious discussions about
your relationship or breakup, and never let your true intentions -- your desire to get
back together -- become obvious until you’ve sealed the deal and you’re officially together
again.
Until that point, keep it fun and upbeat and crank up your flirting game to the max.
Let’s finish up with step #4, shall we…?
Step #4 - Get my help if you’re facing a tough or unique situation.
Once again, I’m finishing up another YouTube video with a blatant sales pitch… but please,
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guidance working through a particularly challenging or unique scenario you may be facing.
As long as I’ve got a coaching spot available, I’ll be happy to take the time to learn
about your situation and help you ensure you get the best possible chance of rescuing things
with your ex.
Learn all about my coaching and sign up today at BreakupBrad.com/coaching.