Hello my wonderful friend. In today's video I'm going to be answering the
question how to know if you should ask a girl out. In this video you will learn
some of the best ways to avoid rejection, some of the best ways to avoid making
things really awkward, which nobody wants and you will learn how to make sure
that you are able to find your dream girl. Ultimately the kinds of people we
date are the kinds of people we marry so this is a very very important step. If
you want to find your dream girl you want to make sure you are approaching
this right. So I'm going to be teaching you how to set yourself up for success,
but before we get started I want to mention that is if this is your first
time watching one of my videos be sure to subscribe and ring that notification
bell. My name is Melannie. I'm a dating coach for Christian men. I help men find
and attract the girl of your dreams so you're not going to want to miss any of
the videos I have coming so be sure to subscribe and ring that bell. Alright
let's get started stacking the deck in your favor so that you can find that
cute dream girl, not have a whole bunch of awkwardness and end up being and
feeling rejected. Step number one is to ask yourself "Do you want to ask her out?"
The reason I bring this up is in the Christian culture there is so much
pressure, really in the world at large there's so much pressure, but especially
in the Christian culture there's so much pressure to get married and to be dating.
And I have seen so many awesome guys feel like they have to ask girls out
because they're getting so much pressure from their church leaders or their
family or their friends to hurry up and get married. Another thing that can cause
guys to feel pressured into asking girls out is if the girl is interested in you.
It will make a lot of guys feel like they have to ask her out. I am going to
teach you one of the best life lessons I have ever learned and it is, make sure
you're paying attention, no pity dates. Okay? No pity dates. Do not go out with a
girl unless you really actually are interested in getting to know her and
find her attractive. Yes physical attraction is important. I've done a
video about that on the past. Yes, do you want to go out with this girl? That is
the first thing you need to know. You do not- As humans we're all entitled to
certain things and one of those things is to decide who we are interested in
and to set the appropriate boundaries there. So, do you want to go out with this
girl? Are you doing it because you feel obligated or pressured? Or do you just
want to go out with her? And if the answer is yes I want to go out with her,
that's absolutely fabulous, proceed to step two. If the answer is no, you
don't, you kind of feel like you have to or you're just not that interested, well
then don't ask her out. Step number two is to get to know her a
little bit first, if you can. now this requires a little explanation because
yes I know what you're thinking. "Well that's why I want to go out with her, is
to get to know her." And that's exactly why dating was invented and so that is
definitely the goal here. However one mistake a lot of guys make and it leads
them to being rejected even, if she thinks you're really cute, the mistake
they make is they ask too soon. Something you need to know about girls is we need
to feel safe especially in a dating situation. Now there are a lot of girls
who are totally okay meeting a guy and him asking for her number and going
out like right away. There are a lot of girls who are okay with that, but there
are a lot of girls who frankly aren't. For me personally I hate it when a guy
will ask for my number after he just met me or if I've only talked to
him a couple of times. Even if he's attractive I just I don't
know him. I don't know what I would say to him, I don't know if we have anything
in common. I don't like it when guys ask me out right away
and there are a lot of girls who feel the same way. She wants to get to know
you a little bit and make sure that she actually wants to go out with you. And
honestly from your perspective as the guy it's really beneficial to you to
make sure you're able to talk to her several times first if you can. Obviously
that's not always a possibility, sometimes you're just chatting in line
at the store and you may never see her again, in which case it's okay to ask for
her number or something. But it's important for you to have some
time to get to know her as well so you can decide "well do I actually want to go
out with her? Do we have anything in common?" What would you do if you were to
go out? Often there's a lot of pressure "well what do I ask her to do?" Well this
is why it's good to get to know her a little bit first. So that you can know
what she enjoys doing and decide what you would enjoy doing together. Leave me
a comment and let me know if you've ever been in this situation: You pick her up
and you get in the car, start driving away to go wherever it is you're going
and you suddenly realize you have no idea what to say. That is such an awkward
situation to be in. And by getting to know her a little bit first, that will
help prevent that situation from ever happening because you'll know some
things you can talk about. Seriously though leave me a comment. All you
have to do is type yes or no, have you ever been in that situation? It is a
painful situation... It's painful. [laughter] So step number two is to just take some time to
get to know her if you can. This will make the whole situation less awkward
and it will also help prevent rejection. Speaking of awkward there is nothing
more awkward than going out with someone and then finding out it is a terrible,
terrible mistake and then having them wonder why you don't want to go out
with them anymore and all kinds of awkwardness. So this is really an
important step that a lot of people miss. Step number three is to be aware of
signs of toxic women. Now again this is another
step that a lot of people miss over and think is unimportant. But guys, I can't
tell you how many really good guys fall for a girl whose toxic without even
knowing it. And they get involved really fast, because that's what toxic girls do,
and the next thing they know they are stuck with a toxic girl. And I don't want
that for you, you don't want that for you. So it is important to be aware of those
signs. If you see any of those signs then yeah don't ask her out. If you don't see
those signs then that's a pretty good indication that it's safe to ask her out
and get to know her better. I've done a video on the signs of a toxic girlfriend.
I actually have done two videos on this. I will put links in the description
below to both of those so you can check those out. Again remember the goal here
is not to date just anyone. It is to be able to find your dream girl
and be able to ask her on a date. So knowing these signs is going to be a
huge lifesaver for you. Now we are to our last step. You've
already decided "yes I want to ask her out. I'm not doing this because I'm
feeling pressured or whatever." You have number two, taking a little bit of time to
get to know her better. And yeah you're like "wow I really want to get to know
this girl better. I think it'd be fun to take her out." And three you're aware of the
signs, you've made sure that as far as you can tell at this point she's not a toxic
girl. So now we are to step four which is how do you know she wants to go out with you?
Imagine approaching a girl being pretty guaranteed that she's interested in you
and she wants you to ask her out. That changes everything, right? You don't have
to feel so nervous. The whole fear of rejection and the whole reality of
rejection is kind of void because you're already pretty guaranteed that she likes
you and she wants you to ask her out. Now this may sound too good to be true
but it's actually not. It just comes down to knowing how to read women's body
language. I have done a ton of videos on this, you guys ask for this a lot.
I don't have time to share all the signals with you in this video however I
will share two of the most obvious. But for further
reference you can check out Top Five Signs that a Girl Likes You. You can
check out Most Obvious Signs that a Girl Likes You. You can check out Hidden Signs
that a Girl Likes You. And you can check out How to Know if a Shy Girl Likes You.
Like I said I've covered this a lot. There's tons and tons of information
that will help you just know if she likes you and if she wants you to ask
her out. I will put links to all those in the description below. The more of these
you are aware of the easier it will be for you to just know "whoa
she likes me." And lets face it that's a really good feeling. But I do want to mention
two of the most obvious signs that she does in fact want you to ask her out. One
of these signs is that she mentions she's single. Now you want to be careful
of this. You don't want her to be one of those weird people who's always like
"I'M SINGLE!" or who's always telling you about their ex, you know? So you know, be
careful about that. But if she finds ways to like casually mention that she's
available she wants you to know that she's available.
She wants you to ask her out. So pay attention to that. Another really obvious
sign that she wants to go out with you is if she says "hey we should
totally do that sometime." If she is suggesting that you guys spend time
one-on-one then that's basically her telling you "yes, ask me out right now."
Again as I mentioned the more signs you're aware of
the easier this will be and it brings a whole lot of relief because you can
almost guarantee that she's interested in you. So be sure to check out the links
for those videos down below. And there you have it an easy 4 step process to
know if you should ask a girl out and to stack the deck in your favor so that you
can find and attract your dream girl. Now that you know how to know if you should
ask a girl out how would you like to know how to get a girl to fall in love
with you? some of the traits that make her just like melt. I have a free guide
for you: 17 Traits Christian Women Want Most in a Man. There's a link in the
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this video? Did you have a specific girl in mind? Or were you trying to make
sure that you're prepared for the future? Drop me a comment and let me know. Thank you
so much again my amazing friend and have an amazing day. [Blooper beep] And something you
need to know about girls is- I have a hair in my mouth so I can't focus. Ok we're good.
And there you have it the fi- [laughter] Yes you do. Pretty valuable stuff right? I have a-
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