INFJ are considered to be loners.
They enjoy plenty of time in solitude, however, once they decide to interact with people,
they want the relationship to count.
First, they are very picky on the kind of people that they let in.
They make friends based on shared values, authenticity and honesty.
In as much as their sensitive, quiet and warm empathetic nature may attract numbers, they
still prefer friendship based on mutual understanding rather than having a large circle of surface-level
acquittances.
INFJs need deep compatibility with the people they surround themselves with.
Due to an INFJ rarity, however, they are often misunderstood and underappreciated.
There are not many people who are able to give them the safe space they need to be vulnerable
without judgement.
As a result, there are particular types of people INFJ’s can never tolerate.
So, let’s look at 5 types of people the INFJ cannot tolerate.
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Confrontational People
INFJs are very conflict-averse.
They would prefer to avoid confrontations at all costs.
If you are the kind of person who loves arguing just to make a point, you are definitely not
their cup of tea.
INFJs value harmony to the point that they would rather sweep issues under the carpet
or ignore them instead of confronting them, most of the time.
Most often they love peace even if it means a false sense of peace.
Unfortunately, this trait is very unhealthy.
It's one of the reasons for the infamous INFJ door slam; they allow people to step all over
them and when the anger gets too much, they eventually lash out.
Shockingly keeping emotions bottled up doesn’t mean you’ve dealt with them.
Often times issues that are dealt with in this manner end up reoccurring.
The INFJ must realise that there are moments when confrontation is inevitable for harmonious
co-existence.
Realistically, conflicts cannot be avoided altogether.
Either way, the INFJs prefers their peace and if you choose to be confrontational,
you’ll probably be the next person out of their life.
Shallow and Superficial Interactions
INFJs are very deep thinkers by nature.
They desire depth in relationships both in their communication and interaction.
They want their relationships to be founded on a deep bond and not just out of convenience.
INFJs normally want to be around people whom they can learn from, get inspired by and grow
with.
It is also very important for them to share values, interests, passions and beliefs with
the people in their lives.
When it comes to communication, they want friends they can dive deep with.
Considering they dislike small talk and surface-level conversations, INFJs prefer people with whom
they can discuss deep meaningful topics with.
Their charismatic, caring and warm nature may draw a lot of people towards them, but
that doesn’t change who they prefer to be around; authentic, honest and nothing less
than real.
INFJs remain picky on who they allow in.
Their intuition acts as an incentive in helping them see beyond the surface when identifying
genuine people.
Someone might think that this high standard for friendship might make them miss out.
But no!
This is the INFJ, that's exactly what they are looking for; close intimate and authentic
relationships.
When it comes to communication, they want people they can dive deep with.
Unnecessary Negativity
INFJs are perfectionists by nature.
They work so hard on their dreams and do not stop at anything.
Their sense of idealism and perfectionist tendencies helps them to work tirelessly for
their goals.
However, no one is beyond reproach.
A little constructive criticism does not harm.
Does it?
Unfortunately, the INFJ does not take criticism lightly, especially if it's unconstructive
or overly negative.
Critical words can bring them down, especially when presented in a harsh way.
INFJs ought to realize that they are not perfect as they would love to be.
Neither can anyone be perfect.
And any feedback can be viewed as an ingredient for growth.
The INFJ may end up turning into a people pleaser during their interactions with their
potential critics.
The irony of this is that INFJs give brutally honest feedback themselves.
They don’t sugar coat their words to please others or beat around the bush, they say it
as it is.
Manipulators and Exploiters
INFJs loath manipulation.
Through their intuitive radar, they can see through people’s deep intentions.
INFJs can generally separate a genuine person from a manipulative one.
Lies and inconsistent information that does not add up doesn’t work for them.
They also generally want a win-win situation.
Their greatest desire and life goal is to do things for the common good of humanity.
INFJs don’t understand why people would want to succeed at the expense of others.
They are not motivated by money, fame or praise, instead, they desire to make a difference.
For them, they want a harmonious society where everyone is valued.
That’s why they often find themselves in humanitarian causes.
They don’t believe in using people or walking all over people to succeed.
Manipulators normally want to use emotional control, deception, pretence and to take advantage
of others, which the INFJ is usually keen to spot.
These are the type of people the INFJ will not hesitate to slam the door on.
Nosy Neighbours
INFJs are highly private people.
Their quiet and reserved nature leaves people with a lot of questions.
Naturally, people want to be informed about other people’s lives.
But the INFJ will not give you that benefit.
They are even considered a paradox by those who don’t fully understand them.
The INFJ dislike nosy neighbours who keep poking their noses in their business.
They know that it might not end there, the nosy neighbour might go to the extent of spreading
their information whether good or bad.
Being introverts, INFJs would prefer their life to be unnoticed and private.
They find nosy people quite overbearing.
An INFJ will require you to leave after some time if you are visiting them.
However, a nosy neighbour may shamelessly continue staying in an INFJ’s space to gather
gossip.
An INFJ will find any intrusion on their privacy to be insufferable.
Attention Seekers
The introverted INFJ dislikes unnecessary attention.
It’s not like they are shy but they prefer not to draw too much unnecessary attention
towards themselves.
They dislike being put on the spot, but sometimes they find themselves in the spotlight, nonetheless.
They need downtime to recharge when being in the midst of a large gathering, especially
if they’re the centre of attention for the crowd.
Things like big surprise birthday parties will not be something they would enjoy.
Attention seekers on the other hand crave being in the spotlight and can do anything
to attract more interest.
It’s not that the INFJ won’t find themselves in the limelight, they will, but they would
prefer to avoid it whenever they can.
The INFJ may really shun hanging out with an attention seeker for this reason.
INFJs are known to be sensitive, warm and gentle.
However, they are very picky on the qualities they seek in the people they let into their
lives.
They approach any kind of relationship idealistically.
If you’re peace-loving, enjoy authentic relationships and dislike being too critical,
you might get along with them.
But if you are a manipulative type, very nosy or love too much unnecessary attention you
are definitely not the person for them.
To INFJs, relationships are meant to be very intimate.
Unfortunately, that intimacy cannot be achieved without shared values and beliefs.
If you are lucky enough to be in an INFJs life, you will do well to remember this.
The INFJ may initially struggle to release people from their lives when they identify
toxic traits, however, when they decide to show you the door, you are never coming back in.