Heya playas, have you ever told a girl something like... You're pretty. Did it work for you?
That's ok if it didn't because in this episode I'm gonna explain to you whether or not you
should compliment a girl with the help of Coco Chanou. Hey guys, I'm Coco and today
I'm gonna give you a girls perspective on compliments. This is The Josh Speaks. You're
watching The Josh Speaks. When it comes to complimenting girls, there's no perfect way
to do it because it is circumstantial but there are a few things that you should know
before you actually go and compliment her. For example, the best kind of compliment that
you can give a girl is one that highlights one of her positive attributes. Now I know
what you're thinking, one of her positive attributes might be that she's pretty and
sexy but by telling her that, you come off sounding just like all the other guys. Girls
get random compliments from guys all the time to the point where it just goes in one ear
and right out the other. Here's an example, let's say you walk down a busy street every
single day and you see someone handing out flyers. I'm pretty sure that by the 5th day
you'll have already perfected the art of putting on horse blinders and completely tuning that
person out when they try to hand it to you. Girls work the same way. So what's an example
of the best kind of compliment you could give a girl? I don't really remember it clearly
but I think one of the best compliments I've received was just like "You are a great person"
or just "A great human being". I think my boyfriend actually told me that. When you
get a compliment on who you are and your personality, that is just so heartwarming. So I think that
was one of the greatest compliments I've ever gotten. Simply saying someone looks good is
not as powerful as getting directly to their core and letting them know you like them for
who they are. As for bad compliments, well there are plenty of them out there. Guys don't
always understand that the words that they say aren't always interpreted the way that
they mean them. So bad compliments for example could be like "You look so skinny today!".
That would be a bad compliment. First of all it implies whether or not you care if a person
is skinny which is kind of, I don't know. I don't think you should say that. And second
it kind of implies that yesterday you didn't look skinny and today you look so skinny,
oh my god, you should lose weight and look that way all the time. It's not ever ok to
comment on a girl's weight. It's just, no. So don't give compliments about someone's
weight too because it's really superficial and just don't. Another bad way to compliment
a girl is to over-do it. This is when a guy goes completely overboard and is like "You're
like so pretty and smart and like amazing and wonderful and..." Jeez, the problem with
that is that it shoots down your value. She see's that she has you in the palm of her
hand and that you'll do anything for her like a lap dog. Doesn't make you sound too exciting
now, does it? So should a guy ever compliment a girl on their looks? Help us out here Coco.
Yea, I think it's important that you get complimented on the way that you look sometimes. Um because
we do live in a society where looks are really important so when you get complimented on
that you feel good and you feel like you've achieved some goals and it's not about being
superficial but like every single person likes to be told that they look good. Just make
sure that you do it the right way. Don't tell her "You look good today" but just say "Oh,
you're so beautiful" instead of today. Because some days I'm just more done up than other
days and I don't mind getting those type of compliments but there are girls out there
that don't like being told that they just look good today. It's ok to compliment a girl
on her looks but what I would suggest is to compliment her on something specific that
is unique to her. Instead of saying "Hey, you're cute", say something like "Wow, you're
hair looks really cute when it's pulled back like that". We're talking so much about complimenting,
but what if you just don't compliment her. Does that hurt your chances of getting with
the girl? I think it does. Compliments are so important even though you've maybe been
dating for a long time or whatever, it is always important to compliment somebody. It's
not like when you're together you can just think "Oh, she probably already knows I think
she's beautiful." No, just keep reminding her that it's important in order to maintain
a relationship or maintain your chances of going out with the girl. As much as we'd like
to avoid it, compliments are important. It's built into our human need to feel accepted
by those around us. Sure, we may get to a point where we feel like we don't need compliments
but acceptance is one of our most basic human desires and a compliment is one of the most
basic forms of recognition. I don't know if you guys know the pyramid of Maslow, If you
want to get to the top, it doesn't mean you don't need the things underneath anymore.
So if, uh, maybe the girl is in the phase of self realization and you know that it doesn't
mean she doesn't need to be recognized anymore and that she doesn't need to be told that
she's beautiful anymore. Complimenting is such an easy thing with such a huge impact.
So, it really takes a few minutes of your day, maybe even a few seconds to send her
a cute text or to tag her in a cute Facebook post or to I don't know, send her a picture
or whatever it just takes a few moments, a few tiny little seconds of your life but it
will make a huge change in her day. What do you guys think though, should guys compliment
girls on their looks? Leave a comment below so we can talk about it. I hope you enjoyed
watching this video. Don't forget to go subscribe to my channel, I do a lot of advice videos
for guys basically. Um, most of the time because I'm a girl, I can't really give advice to
girls but, yea, don't forget to subscribe to my channel and maybe I'll see you there.
Special thanks to Coco Chanou for being in the video with me. She speaks with such down
to earth clarity which is what makes her such a great YouTuber. Do you guys see how I complimented
her there? As always guys love and peace. Hey thanks for watching. If you're new to
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