Tired of feeling irritated so much? Well your life is about to get a whole lot
better because I've got 5 quick ways for you to stop being irritated so much.
First off, you're never wrong about how you feel. How you feel is 100%
consistent with the way your own mind is engaging in some very specific
psychological processes that I could explain to you. But that's not the
purpose of this video. Let's just cut to the chase. One of the things you get to
do is stop blaming other people for how you feel.
Realize that your feelings are based on how you personally are perceiving and
processing the information that comes into you through your world. It's really
easy to blame other people for how we feel especially if they are being
irritating. "Of course, I'm going to feel irritated." Or not. What if it were a
choice? What if it were a choice to be irritated or to not be irritated? Which
one would you choose? Now, you might have some resistance to that because it's
like, "Well, they're being irritating." Yeah, but you still have a choice as to
whether you're going to be irritated. So, while we're on that issue of choice,
let's take a look at what our choices are. In the first tip as we connect with,
"Okay, it's my thinking that's causing my feeling. Not necessarily something
outside of me. Well, do I have any choice or control over my own thinking?" What
would be an alternative? What if you could choose a different response? That's
the second of these 5 tips. and this is powerful. What if you could choose for
example instead of being irritated to be amused. Could you do that? I think you
probably could. I was having a conversation with Vicky about this and
the person that we both know who tends to be a little irritating. Now, that's a
judgemental state and I know. But Vicki asked me, "Aren't you
irritated by this person?" And I said, "No, Actually, I'm quite amused." I had chosen
that response as an alternative. What if you could do the same? Or entertained. I
choose to be entertained by it. Just thinking that changes how you show up in
the interaction. So, picture this person that irritates it annoys you. You know
who it is. Picture having an encounter with that person right after you watch
this video. And you might, right? What would it be like for you to go into that
interaction expecting to be entertained by their antics? Wow, that opens up some
possibilities. And that's powerful to focus on choice because until you see it
as a choice, it's not. And your brain will simply roll with whatever it's already
conditioned and programmed to do. Choose a different response. I haven't done the
statistics. I don't know what all of the parameters are but a certain percentage
of you who are watching this video (maybe this is true for you, just check it out.)
are here because of a co-worker or a boss. It's in the work setting where
you're feeling irritated and annoyed. If that is you or even if it's not, just
consider this tip: Think about what you're getting paid to do your job. And
let's just pick a an arbitrary number. Let's say you're getting 50,000 apples to
do this job. That's your compensation. You get a big ol box full of apples. 50,000
apples. That's your whole salary. Alright, now let's change it up. Let's say
that instead of 50,000 apples, you're only getting 20,000 apples. How would you
feel about that? Oh, that wouldn't feel so good. I used to
be getting 50,000 now you're telling me I'm getting 20,000. That's
worse, right? So, you don't really want to work for 20,000 apples. But 50,000 sounds
good. So, what if your employer were to tell you this: "Okay, we're only going to pay
you 20,000 apples to do the job that we're hiring you to do. But we can offer
you, we are in the position to offer you an additional 30,000 apples if you will
simply put up with him/her." That co-worker, that boss that irritates and
annoys you over half of your salary is simply to
work with that person. You're getting paid to do this. Does that change things
for you? You're not going to feel nearly as irritated and annoyed if you're getting
paid to do it. How do you know that that's not the case?
What if your salary at least half maybe more than half of your salary is simply
for you to put up with this thing? See what that changes in your mind.
Irritability is driven by a lot of factors. And this next tip has to do with
things that have nothing to do with the person who's irritating or annoying you.
In fact, if you want to tune in a little more to irritability and how to stop
being so irritable, click that video just click it now and it will cue it up for
you to watch it next. That's on how to stop being irritable. Let's get down to
some of the root principles behind this. Your irritability is partially driven by
your physiology. So, this tip has to do with taking care of your body including
your brain. Remember, your brain is part of your body. There are 4 sub steps to
this one. Get enough sleep and you know if you are or if you're not. Sleep is an
important way to maintain the equipment. And you'll find that if you're
sleep-deprived, you're much more irritable. You're more
easily annoyed. Well, that's because you're a human. So, get enough sleep. Next,
get regular exercise. And most of the study
I've seen on this suggest that you need to be getting a good aerobic workout
3 to 5 times a week for about 30 minutes. Get the heart rate up, get
the blood pumping. Nice aerobic exercise. That's another way
to manage your irritability. Number 3, eat a balanced diet. Taking some healthy
fuel because that affects how you feel and therefore your irritability. And
number 4, regular periods of Prayer, meditation, mindfulness, centering. However
you choose to do this, it's important for you to have some clearing of the space.
And some of the ways that I mentioned to you are the most common ways that people
practice that. Those four sub steps are what we call brain maintenance and it's
going to help you be less irritable. The last tip that I have for you today is to
get good at positivity. What a surprise coming from Mr. Positivity. I love this
topic because of the power that it gives you... And this is not a trite-fluffy-just
think-positive sort of video. I'm talking about the science behind positivity. Get
good at the processes that make up what I call positivity. Positivity changes
everything because it changes your position or your attitude about
whatever's going on in your life. Irritability is driven by a particular
attitude about someone or something. And as you apply these 5 tips, I think
you're going to get on top of this irritability. Don't worry folks. I'm not
going to leave you hanging. When I said get good at positivity, I am ready to
personally help you with that. Will you please go to the description. Click on
the link that says the positivity power up. This is an amazing course that helps
you to properly operate the equipment of
your own mind. I've got your back on this.