- To get a better understanding of attraction,
especially in today's world, it's really important
that we increase our understanding of polarity
between masculine and feminine energy.
Because those energies are what cultivate attraction
and it doesn't matter if you're a man or a woman,
because we all have both masculine and feminine energy.
And if you aren't leading with one energy,
if you really balance between both energies,
it can be tough to create that polarized attractive energy.
So if you would like
to attract a masculine man into your life,
it requires dialing up your feminine energy.
How do I know this?
Because in my dating life,
I actually learned to date with more of a feminine approach
and I constantly would attract masculine women.
And while there were beautiful, they were attractive,
my energy is naturally masculine
and so two masculine energies coming together,
we would often butt heads or we would repel one another
and it never worked out.
But learning the difference
between masculine and feminine energy
and how to lead in a dynamic way
with one energy or the other
depending on what would serve myself,
was a game changer in relationships.
And so today, we're gonna talk about
three ways to amplify your feminine energy
so you can attract the masculine healthy man you want.
Check it out.
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Hey there, my name is Mat Bogs
and I'm the founder of the Love and Relationships Division
of the Brave Thinking Institute,
where our mission is empowering you
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Now, when it comes to masculine and feminine energy,
understanding the nuances,
the differences, and some of the practices
for how can I lean into one energy or the other
is really valuable when you want to attract
a type of person in your life.
So let's say you want to attract
a masculine man in your life.
A healthy man, who's done his work,
he's grounded and he wants a relationship
and you want a man who's masculine.
You want a man who takes the lead.
You want a man who plans the dates.
You want a man who takes initiative.
Here are three things that you can do.
The first practice is to feel your body.
You see, masculine energy is cognitive,
thought oriented, head energy.
It runs up here.
Feminine energy is based in the body,
it's connected to the emotions,
it's centered in the body,
and centered in the present moment.
While masculine energy is future oriented,
feminine energy is present oriented.
One of the easiest moves that you can make
is to move your awareness from your head
down into your body.
Just for a moment, try this out.
Notice the tippy top of your head.
Bring your awareness at the top of your head
and notice how you can sense the top of your head right now.
Now, move your awareness all the way down
to the soles of your feet,
right in the center of the soles of your feet.
Notice how now you become aware of the soles of your feet.
You have trillions of cells in your body
and you can't be aware of all of your cells all the time,
but noticing how you can move your awareness.
Move your awareness right now to your belly button.
Notice how four seconds ago
you weren't aware of your belly button and now you are.
Where your awareness is centered is your connection point
to what energy you're using.
So most of us tend to ride in our bodies
and throughout the day in a particular location.
And for a lot of people,
if you have masculine energy, it's up here.
You're riding around in your thoughts all day.
You're making strategic plans.
You're trying to accomplish goals.
You're setting a vision for the future.
If you wanna activate your feminine energy,
move your awareness from your mind
right down to your heart center.
And do that with me right now,
bring it right down to the heart center
and take a nice deep breath in.
And bring yourself to this present moment,
bring yourself into your body.
And that alone begins to amplify your feminine energy
and begins to attract masculine energy.
As simple as it may seem, it works.
Number two is enjoy receiving.
Enjoy receiving
and this is often very challenging, difficult move
for lots of us to shift into.
If you wanna amplify your feminine energy
feminine energy is receptive energy,
masculine energy is providing energy.
And if you struggle with the I'm not good enough paradigm,
if you struggle with that belief,
it can be easy to shift into provider energy
because you're trying to validate your worth.
You're trying to say no, I can do it
because you're trying to validate that you can do it.
You're capable.
An example of this is I was dating a woman
who was beautiful, sexy,
and very much in her masculine energy.
Because at that time of my life,
I was leading my romantic life with feminine energy.
So it was no doubt, no wonder why we came together
and yet I was a masculine guy at heart.
So I go to pick her up,
to take her to the airport one morning.
She was going on a trip.
I go up to her apartment
and she's got her two suitcases there
and I go in and I'm like,
"Oh, hey, can I grab these for you?"
She's like, "No, no, no, I've got it."
She grabs her suitcases and she marches down the hallway
and I'm following her down this hallway, down the stairs
behind her empty handed
as she lugs her suitcases down to the car.
I'm thinking,
I could be helping her right now with these suitcases
but she was so much about proving herself
that she was capable, she could do it,
she didn't make any room for receptivity.
A game-changer for me, a mentor in my life
when I was really early in my early 20s
early in my career, took me to lunch.
And as we're going through this drive-through
he said, "What would you like?"
And I said, "I'd like this or that."
And I ordered my food.
And then when we got to the place to pay,
I pulled out some money to give it to him
and he says, "No, no, no, I've got it."
And I argued him.
I said, "No, no, no, no, let me pay mine.
Like, it's all good, let me pay mine."
And he looked at me straight in the eye and he says,
"Mat, receiving the gift, honors the giver."
And that struck right to the center of my being.
Receiving the gift, honors the giver.
And I received his gift,
I allowed him to provide lunch for me
and it was a great lunch in that never left me
and it's so much the truth with masculine energy.
His desire to give to you, his desire to provide for you,
you receiving that gift is really the biggest gift he wants.
He wants to be honored as the provider
and that is what feminine energy does.
Feminine energy creates the space and then enjoys receiving
what the masculine energy is trying to provide.
So dial that up, practice that in your daily life.
Practice receiving small things from a small gesture
to bigger things like a big favor
that someone wants to do for you.
Practice just allowing and receiving
and watch what happens to the masculine energy.
Watch what happens to a man's face
when you joyfully receive.
You will see some amazing smiles happen
on the man who's trying to provide for you.
And number three is magnify your allowing.
Now, if you notice
receptivity, embodying the present moment,
and then allowing are all feminine attributes.
These are all feminine practices.
Masculine energy wants to control
and wants to direct the energy.
Masculine energy says, here's the plan, here's the strategy,
here's what we're doing.
I'm gonna control and direct.
And again, this isn't male or female.
You can be a woman with masculine energy or feminine energy.
You can be a man with masculine or feminine energy.
But the practice that you're engaged in
amplifies one energy or the other.
If you wanna amplify feminine energy, practice allowing.
Which what that means is
you take your hands off of the controls.
Which can be very, very difficult to do
especially if you're type A, if you're a driver,
or if you're an entrepreneur or a business owner.
Because how you create success is through control.
How you create success is through
dictating and directing how it's gonna be done.
But if you notice the most successful leaders,
the most successful people have learned how to do both.
They learn how to direct their energy, share a vision,
and then release control.
They have to,
they have to be willing to empower teams.
They have to be willing to empower other people,
'cause there's no way they can get it all done themselves.
The better that you can release control,
which is a feminine energy,
the more success that you can create in your life
and in relationships as well.
So when there's a plan coming up,
he's gonna take you on a vacation
or he's going to plan a date or whatever it may be,
notice the urge to jump in and control the result.
Notice the urge to jump in and inspect or micromanage.
All of that energy is that masculine energy,
release it and just say,
okay, I'm gonna receive what you're creating.
I'm going to allow these things to happen
and I'm gonna go with the flow.
That comes right back to being in the present moment,
that comes right back to being centered.
Here's a quick story of this.
There was a woman who went on vacation with her boyfriend,
they went to Hawaii.
And she was really working on being in her feminine energy
and she was in her body.
They arrived to Hawaii, they rent their car,
they're driving to the hotel and her boyfriend
is listing all of the itinerary for that week.
Honey, Monday we could go scuba diving,
Tuesday we could do this, we could do ATVs,
we could do all this stuff,
and we could go to the beach and blah, blah, blah.
And she's puts her hand on his and says, "Babe,
look at the ocean right now."
And he stopped talking and he looked at the ocean
and it was gorgeous
and there was beautiful white sand beach
and there was nobody on it.
And she goes,
"Can we go take a walk on that ocean right now?"
And he was like, "Sure."
He pulls over and they both get out of the Jeep
and they walked down into the sand.
They've got their toes in the sand
and she's just feeling this moment
and the wind in her hair and the sun on her face.
And he is enamored with her,
not just her beauty, but her energy.
She was able to drop him right into this present moment
to experience and receive the beauty,
the power of that moment.
And he took her in her arms and he kissed her and he's like,
"I love you so much."
Like it was so amazing.
What did she do in that moment?
She embodied her feminine energy,
she brought him right into the present moment
and often that's such a gift for the masculine.
It's such a gift for the masculine
to be with a woman who is in her feminine,
who knows how to bring him into the beauty of the moment,
the presence, the joy, what this day has in store.
So, feel your body, enjoy receiving
and magnify you're allowing,
and that helps you dial up your feminine energy
and it becomes incredibly attractive to the masculine.
My question for you is
what practices have you found help you anchor
and dial up your feminine energy?
Go ahead and post those in the comment section below.
I appreciate you.
Thanks for watching.
I'll see you soon.
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