what should you focus on more learning NLP techniques and processes or focusing
on cultivating NLP skills stay tuned hey this is Damon from NLP gym
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processes will work sometimes at their worst they won't work at all at their
best it'll be haphazard so I often tell my
students to really focus on cultivating NLP skills know what skills am I talking
about I'll get to that in a moment I was just
recently in New Orleans I went home to visit that's where I'm from and I also
had just taken a Brazilian Jujitsu a few months ago and I didn't want to not
practice for an entire week while I was vacationing and visiting with family and
friends so I found two different in two different locations my parents live
outside of New Orleans and then there was actually in New Orleans proper so I
went to two different places and it was Brazilian Jujitsu so it's the same art
that I practice and a lot of the things were the same basically how we warm up
and they teach a technique then we we practice it on each other and then we do
some sparring one thing I notice in both of the classes that I went to was they
emphasize more learning technique I found this very interesting because in
the class that I take here in California I felt like the instructor didn't focus
enough on teaching us new techniques I felt like only know a few techniques and
he keeps sort of reteaching the same techniques over and over even when it's
far to say that when he is competing which he's a top competitor
old competitor that he only uses about three techniques and I thought to myself
well what's the point in having all these techniques if you're only using
like three so when I was taking these classes in Louisiana I was very happy
because I was learning all these new techniques but I noticed something very
interesting that I'm just a white belt and I was very strong against the
students in this class and both these classes I went up against some of the
higher belts and I don't want to say I beat everybody because that wouldn't be
true but I performed quite well in fact at the second class that I went to I
think I performed so well that the instructor who was a black belt wanted
to spar with me and kind of whip up on me a little bit just to show me that
there are serious class and there have serious students and I had no doubt
about that but he kind of whipped up on me a little bit not he didn't hurt me
anyway it wasn't anything bad but he kind of put it on my learning from that
was that the skill is more important than the technique because without the
skill if you can't control the fight then you can't set up the techniques you
can't even make the techniques work because the techniques that we were
being taught in these classes none of these guys who were in these classes
were able to pull any of those techniques on me they just reverted back
to their very standard chokes and armbars and and that those sort of
techniques I didn't do it do any of the fancy stuff really because they couldn't
control me that way I controlled most of the sparring sessions that I did it
started to make sense to me because in the class that I take here in California
we do a lot of sparring which means we get better conditioning and we we get
that practice of cultivating the skill of body movement and how to move our
weight and how to manipulate the other person's body weight against them it
made me realize that all the times that I've resourced coached for NLP trainings
and the times that I've taught NLP trainings what I hear most from students
is they want to learn more techniques they want to learn more processes and I
keep telling them the same thing it doesn't matter if you learn more
techniques and more processes if you don't have the skill there's nothing so
magical about the techniques and processes
they won't work most of the time if you're not able to gain rapport with
someone and if you're not if you don't have the sensory acuity and calibration
skills you won't know when something is working and when it's not working so
those skills that I was talking about or basically you need to know how to get in
the rapport with someone you also need to know how to be in congruence with
yourself if you're if you're using NLP on yourself so what creates rapport well
it's those matching and mirroring matching someone's breathing calibration
skills and the sensory acuity that goes with that so you develop that since your
acuity and if you're not sure what I'm talking about just go to my website and
LP - gem calm I have some free training on sensory acuity and calibration you
can download it right from the website and start using it immediately so when
you cultivate that skill of sensory acuity and calibration you're able to
get in rapport with people very quickly so you can if you're a coach you're not
going to be able to help people change if you're not a rapport with them if
you're want to persuade or influence someone if say if it's like a sale
situation it's not going to happen unless you can develop rapport and keep
that staying rapport with that person the entire time that you're moving them
through whatever process it is that you're moving them through if you're
using NLP on yourself if you can't tell if you're congruent about something if
you don't if you're not able to recognize resistance coming up in
yourself and you just push yourself through a process or some technique that
you're using the change isn't going to last the change you're going to revert
back because you haven't dealt with that resistance so you need congruence with
yourself if you want to be effective at using NLP on yourself
for lasting change and if you want to help someone else make changes or you
want to influence someone you have to be able to recognize what's going on with
them you have to be able to get in rapport and you have to be able to
calibrate their States so that you know that they're in a state of rapport first
of all and that if you're doing the change work you need to see them
something happening in them physically that lets you know that it's working and
that sometimes things will come up objections will come up and if you ask
the person you say you know are there any objections to
this change or what we're doing here they may verbally say no but their body
says something else and you need to be able to pick up on that so again if you
don't have the skills sometimes NLP processes will still work
even if you don't have the skills but it's going to be haphazard it's going to
it's most likely not going to work and this is the complaint that I hear people
say all the time oh you know pee doesn't work well if you just pull out a process
and try it once chances are it's not going to that's
like saying I can teach you one jujitsu technique and then you're gonna go beat
everybody that you wrestle with it's not going to happen you need to cultivate
the skills and when you cultivate the skills that you can make almost anything
work I've created processes and techniques on the spot no because I had
the skills to do it I had the skills to make it work I could make it work so and
that's not to diminish the processes processes and techniques are important
the processes and techniques are what they are because out of necessity to
change or out of mapping how our personality works and how change works
that's where these techniques and processes come from it's sort of like a
map to guide you through the way to get to where you want to go but if you don't
have the vehicle if you don't have the fuel it's not going to happen what my
recommendation would be here is just focus on three main techniques or three
main processes anchoring is a great one mapping across is another great one and
then like I said the sensory acuity and calibration skills those are techniques
and their skills so when you're practicing like matching and mirroring
you're also cultivating sensory acuity you're cultivating calibration skills so
those are great to practice as a technique and process while you
cultivate the skill so if you master I mean really master three techniques are
three NLP processes you're going to be so much more effective than if you know
20 if you've memorized 20 processes Brousseau used to say I fear I don't
fear the man who knows 10,000 kicks I fear the man who has practiced one
kick 10,000 times so take just three processes or techniques
really practice them practice them daily on yourself and with other people and
stick to those until you really master them and you're gonna cultivate that
skill along the way and then only then start moving on to learning more and
more techniques and processes I promise you this is a much better way to go
about it and you will find much much better results if you do it this way
than if you just try to memorize a bunch of NLP processes check out my website
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