00:00 THOM: Bible speaks of many many men having
more than one wife and we believe that it was right for us to do.
00:11 COMM: 60 year old Thom Miller has recently
married 19 year old Reba with the full support of his wife, 44 year old Belinda.
00:20 THOM: My ladies. I have been blessed by God
to have two women that I love their spirit, I love who they are, I love their laughter.
They are both different. I am in love with both of them.
00:32 COMM: The trio who believe polygamy is supported
by the Bible are preparing for the birth of Thom and Reba’s child.
00:39 THOM: Keep our baby safe Lord, keep our children
safe.
00:42 REBA: The baby would have two moms; which
I am okay with.
00:46 BELINDA: Thom is the love of my life and Reba
is the blessing of my life, you know so it all works.
00:52 COMM: But while they might be happy together,
their lifestyle raises a few eyebrows.
00:57 MAN: I think it’s wrong. This guy is sick.
01:02 THOM: Jesus said to him ‘Rise up. Take your
bed and walk.’
01:05 COMM: Thom is now a pastor but he didn’t
always live a religious life.
01:09 THOM: I was raised in inner-city, Cleveland
in the projects and found no good way of getting out and I bumped into people that were doing
the wrong thing
01:19 COMM: He became a Mafia enforcer. But when
he was imprisoned for 7 years for stabbing a man in a bar fight, his life changed.
01:27 THOM: I have been indicted 52 times. I am
not proud of that but that’s who I was. Sold some guy’s Bible in prison and read
it in - I was in solitary confinement for like two and a half years. I read the Bible.
I didn’t meet a pastor, I met God that said ‘Yeah, even you. Even you can live differently.’
01:44 COMM: Thom was released from prison a changed
man in 1991. 7 years ago he married his first wife Belinda, who has 7 children from a previous
marriage. And it was she who suggested the idea of introducing another woman to the family.
01:58 THOM: Belinda and I had been looking for a
sister wife. We were open to the thought and tried to find somebody that was likeminded
spiritually.
02:07 BELINDA: I wanted to have more of a family.
I wanted to be complete and having another lady in the house not only makes our family
as a whole, but individually it’s a beautiful thing because it’s like having a sister
around.
02:24 COMM: This year Thom tied the knot with 19
year old Reba.
02:28 THOM: I’ve known Reba for a long time but
then she moved away and hadn’t seen her for years. Belinda and I were operating a
food pantry that we have at a church and Reba just came running across the parking lot.
I caught something because she hugged me and it was like, that was a normal hug I wanted
to keep hugging her and I realized ‘Wow, I am really appreciating her as a woman.’
02:52 COMM: But Reba’s family did not approve
at first.
02:55 REBA: First my family thought it wasn’t
right and didn’t think that it was right for me to be here and be with him because
of the whole him being married. But then they eventually started coming around and they
were like ‘You are happy, that’s all we care about. As long as you are happy, we are
happy.’
03:13 COMM: The trio live in the same house. And
organize sleeping arrangements so that each wife gets individual time with Thom.
03:21 BELINDA: We do like every three days, one
of us will sleep in what we call the master bedroom and the other wife will sleep in the
other bedroom and just the way it is. There’s no like, “Hey! I’m upset because it’s
you know your night or my night.” We’re pretty much worked all that out, you know
we’re comfortable with that. In our relationship we do not share a bed. It is one on one. Thom
is either with me or he is with Reba.
03:47 THOM: It is that balancing act, in the balancing
of time. You know I have to balance my time with my wives and I have to tried my best
to do that.
03:54 BELINDA: Jealousy for me is not an issue because
I enjoy the type of relationship that we do and I am confident and secure with my husband.
04:03 THOM: But I also have the responsibility to
let them know they are loved and it’s my job to constantly remind both of them that
even though I am in a relationship with Belinda and Reba, they’re both still singularly
important to me and they are.
04:19 COMM: But they do spend most of their time
together and get mixed reactions when out in public.
04:24 THOM: We get stared at a lot. We get attention.
We don’t wear a big sign and you know, I’m married to two women but they can tell. Sometimes
someone will see me kissing one of them and they thought that I was married to the other
one and I’m like, “No. By the way we are all married. They are both are my wives.”
“Really?” and I have had people say you know, ‘Why would you want more than one
of them?’ Look at them. They are beautiful women.
04:50 MAN: It’s kind of sick honestly. 45 years
old and 60 is a big difference.
04:55 WOMAN: That’s only 15 years.
04:56 MAN: Yeah but I mean let alone, 60 and 19?
04:59 WOMAN: They’re both his wives.
05:02 BOY: Is he Mormon?
05:03 INTERVIEWER: No. Christian.
05:09 VICKY: Thom Miller is the type a guy, he is
the go to guy. He’s there anytime you need him. He doesn’t treat people any different.
You know, he just loves people. He’s good to everybody. In terms of him having two wives,
it’s not something that I would do but that’s the lifestyle that him and his wives wanna
take. Whatever you do, that’s between God and you and I love them unconditional. They’re
good people.
05:40 COMM: The trio’s next challenge is to raise
the child that Reba will soon give birth to.
05:45 THOM: Definitely, I’m excited to, there’s
gonna be a little human that’s a part of us, you know the family. We’ll have stuff
for the baby. I am ready for the baby.
05:52 BELINDA: We kind of make jokes about the baby
and where the baby will sleep ‘cause the baby is gonna have two separate master suites,
if in case, Mommy Reba needs a break then mommy Belinda can have the baby for the night.
06:04 THOM: We’re just a normal family. We just
enjoy life, were enjoy, we love each other, we love our kids, we love our family. It’s
just a normal life.