Hey you guys welcome back to he'll survive and thrive I'm so glad that you guys are here this weekend
I want to just briefly kind of talk about
Investing in yourself. I talk about this all the time either within my videos on the podcast
It is absolutely essential
Every single day to be investing in yourself
it is more than just eating the right foods and
Working out and going to a spa
Hanging out with your friends
That's definitely self-care. Absolutely
But what is so so important is investing into your mental and emotional well-being
Because let's just be honest. If a mentally you're if mentally you're not doing well motional. You're not doing well. It doesn't really matter
What's gonna happen with your physical body and quite frankly? It probably won't be up to par
You probably won't have the best relationships if you're not mentally and emotionally
Okay. So taking care of yourself in this way is absolutely essential towards living a great life
I mean, we all know that in this day and age it is still
astonishing to me that people will go about their day and be very unconscious to
Themselves they're so focused on other people whether that's their children, of course children come first
but whether it's the family whether it's the spouse whether it's the partner whether it's the job whether it's the boss whether it's the
Stranger on the street and what they think of you and yet we never ever worry about our own self-talk
you know a lot of people are still so so asleep to the fact that they have negative self-talk and really
Understanding your emotional state and understanding emotionally what is going on with yourself?
It is it's just essential. It has to happen every single day
Otherwise you're going to wake up
you know in your old age and just think God what did I do with my life and you know
we have this one life and making the most of it every single day and
Really practicing living in the small moments is just it's crucial. It has to happen
so one of the things that I often talk about with my private clients is really
Being mindful and mindfulness is something that we all know of in this day and age
I mean if you don't know I think you're living inside of a rock but to be mindful is just to be aware
And the awareness that you have goes deeper than your thoughts. Absolutely
It's essential to be aware of what you're thinking but quite frankly we have so many thoughts in every single moment that to be aware
Of every thought that goes through your mind
I mean it's a full-time job, and I think you would have to and you know
Sit there on a mountaintop and be meditating for
12 hours a day in order to really
Catch every single thing that's going on inside of yourself and being able to correct
It is
A ton of work and it's it's emotionally draining and for normal people like you and I that just can't happen
We have lives. We have jobs we have
Distractions we have phones. We have TVs we have kids we have responsibilities. We have bills, etc
And so all of those things are going to take away from us being
Consciously aware of what it is. We're thinking
Where mindfulness comes into play is just your ability to really slow down, of course
We want to be mindful of what we're thinking
But we also want to be mindful of where we are in each individual moment as much as we possibly can
So while you are doing the mundane things of life whether it is hanging out with children paying a bill going to the gym
walking to your car
Doing the dishes
Drying your hair
Mindfulness and happiness is really about being aware of what it is you're doing in
Every single moment and and being in that moment of what you're doing now
There are some moments that aren't gonna be very pleasant and just accepting that
This is the moment that you're in whether it sucks or not
and I don't want to say embracing it because who wants to really embrace pain but just
accepting that this is the moment and
This too shall pass and that was something that I always said to myself when I was going through
and I still do what I'm going through difficult times is this will pass this is not here to stay it is a
Season it is a time. It is a second of your life that you're
Experiencing and it's not going to be with you forever. And I think that when you look at a difficult time in that way
it doesn't seem so catastrophic because
We all want to avoid pain that's kind of the way we're wired is to avoid pain and seek pleasure
But you can't have pleasure without pain
you would never know what pleasure is if you hadn't gone through something that was uncomfortable or
Unpleasant or something that you didn't like to do
it's just like you can't really enjoy that relaxing day at home doing nothing if you've never
Experienced a hectic day, you know usually when we really enjoy those relaxing days to ourselves
It's when we've had a multitude of busy busy days where we can really value that day of
Hanging out with ourselves
Hanging out with friends doing nothing or doing whatever it is that we want to do because we've had so much on our plate
Days before so you couldn't have had that
relaxing joyful day if you hadn't experienced a lot of probably
You know stress or a lot on your plate the day before that so being mindful. Like I said is is really about
honing in on
your senses and I say this so so often when you are in the moment of doing something whether it's washing your hair whether it's
Doing the dishes whether it's driving to work being mindful of where you are
Stopping your your mind as much as you can from
Replaying a tape over and over again and worrying about tomorrow and worrying about where we're going and oh my god
I'm sitting in traffic and I need to do this and my car is dirty and whatever and
Just being in the moment of where you are, you know, whether the sun shining on you whether you can feel, you know
The steering wheel whether you can feel water whether you can feel the heat or the cold
Just being so aware and using sight and sound and touch and smell
To be in the moment of what it is you're doing if you could practice that
that's when you begin to find real real happiness because you're happiness is just in this moment a lot of the times our
Minds are so preoccupied and it's real ego-driven
preoccupied with
tomorrow the future what happened to me last week and that's where our minds sit your mind is never thinking a
Thought that is in this moment
being aware of this moment of what you're doing unless you are consciously thinking so
95% of the thoughts that you think every single day come from your subconscious mind. Your subconscious mind is
Is completely closed off and just for the sake of making this easy
Your subconscious mind is where your emotions live. It's where your long-term memory lives
It's where your programming lives
so everything you have ever experienced in your life is stored in your subconscious mind and when you are awake your
Subconscious mind it kind of shuts off
It's almost like the door closes the minute you get up in the morning because you begin to be
Conscious of yourself so you can't really access
That subconscious mind and begin
reprogramming
While you are awake, that's why I always say it's so so important to listen to a guided meditation
Listen to affirmations. You should be doing that as you fall asleep because as you follow the Apollo sleep your conscious mind
Begins to go to sleep and your subconscious mind actually wakes up. So that's where our dreams live
And that's where you can really start reprogramming yourself is while you are sleeping
Same thing when you get up in the morning when you get up in the morning, your mind isn't fully awake yet
So that's when you should be absolutely
Downloading your mind with some good stuff whether it's affirmations, whether it's just listening to a guided meditation
you don't have to lay there if you have to get up and go to work, but just listening to anything that is powerful and
positive and uplifting
That's going to feed your mind and get you ready for the day
So listening to this information is no different than eating a bowl of fruit versus eating three waffles
It's really the same thing. You're feeding your mind. You're feeding your emotional state your mental state
This is where you begin to feel emotion and mentally healthy when you're able to
recite affirmations that are giving yourself the thoughts that when you're consciously awake you're not able to think
Yet
So as you begin kind of going through this journey right called life whether you're you know
Just gotten out of a relationship whether you're just trying to find some happiness whether you're trying to motivate yourself
This is the stuff doesn't matter who you are where you live? What age you are what you're going through
That everyone needs to be doing every single day. It's no different
like I said
then feeding your physical body with
nutrition and good
foods and
Drinking lots of water and taking care of yourself and going for a walk and giving your body
Physical exercise so you can so it can be its most you know, powerful and healthy
Healthiest, it's no different than that
Getting enough sleep. This is the same thing, but it's all for your mental and emotional well-being
So I hope you guys have enjoyed this
I just wanted to kind of come on here and give you a little bit of an understanding as to
Why it's so so important to invest in yourself every single day if you are interested in private coaching
I will link that down below. I also have a new online course that's available via my client portal
I will link that down below as well. It's all about emotional healing
reprogramming, so if you've ever wanted to do private coaching with me, and we're not able to
Here's your chance to get the basics of what I teach my private clients every single day
So I hope you have enjoyed this and I'll see you next time