paym Bish's professionals it's Linda
Rainer of Linda Raynor comm guiding you
to a career in life you'll truly enjoy
now if you are someone who tends to over
think overanalyze and worry a lot in
your everyday life then this video is
for you I'm going to be talking to you
about why it is that you tend to do this
overanalyze and how to stop doing this
because it's actually hurting rather
than helping you in your career and in
your everyday life
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as a career strategist I've had the
honour of being able to help numerous
ambitious corporate professionals just
like you to land their dream job offers
and if this is something that you're
interested in working with me one-on-one
then I can give you details about that
at the end of this video
overthinking and overanalyzing is
something that I have seen time and time
again I've seen it because I myself used
to be guilty of overthinking and over
analyzing things but I've become much
better at it and much more aware and
then I also see it with my private
one-on-one coaching clients who tend to
think of the worst case scenario
sometimes and love to ask what if
scenario questions for situations that
likely will never even happen and if
you're watching this video you are
likely the same way for example maybe
you have a job interview coming up and
you love to not only think about what
questions they're potentially going to
ask you but then you also worry about
random other situations that might come
up for example you might ask yourself
what happens if I get this job offer and
then another one comes at the same time
or what happens if I take this job and I
don't even like it later on you know
these are questions that you really
don't have any real solid answers to
because they haven't happened yet and
there are only possible scenarios so
we're going to talk about the three
reasons why you tend to overanalyze and
overthink and then the four steps on how
to overcome it so let's get into it the
first reason why you tend to overanalyze
is that you think worrying is productive
so this is the most common reason why
most people tend to over analyze and
over think is because deep down inside
of you you have this belief that over
thinking and over analyzing is actually
productive and is actually going to help
you it's somehow going to prepare you
for all the different scenarios that
you're coming up with in your head
that's what you believe but the truth is
far from that and as long as you
continue to think that you're over
thinking and over analyzing pattern
productive it'll never stop so let me
tell you what's actually happening to
you when you do this you think that you
look productive that you are productive
that you're being smart about everything
when you overthink but the reality
what's actually happening at work for
example in front of your co-workers in
front of your managers your boss is that
you actually don't appear to be someone
who's productive someone who's an over
analyser over-thinker actually comes
across as someone who has low confidence
who doesn't have the ability to make
their own decisions and someone who is
overly stressed out because of course if
you're thinking about the worst-case
scenarios you're not looking relaxed
therefore people start to lose their
confidence in someone who's like that
because it just feels as though you're
not able to come to your own decision
and the worst case scenario is that the
consequences of your overthinking and
overanalyzing habits can prevent you
from getting promoted because again
leaders need to be able to make
decisions and if you're not able to make
a decision then unfortunately you're not
a leader now potential reason number two
why you tend to overthink is that you
are afraid of regret now this for me
personally was my reason why I tended to
overthink and overanalyze because I was
afraid of regret I was afraid that I
would make the wrong decision and then
regret it for hours later
but what you have to remember is that
living in this way being afraid of
regret is putting yourself in a box and
that's what I did to myself I was
completely anxious when I had to make a
major decision because I was constantly
afraid of these types of regrets I was
afraid that I wouldn't be happy with my
decision and we're going to talk about
how to overcome that but that is likely
a reason why you are someone who thinks
of the worst-case scenarios - because
you're afraid that whatever decision or
path you go on you're going to regret it
and that's just not the way to live
now reason number three why you
overanalyze is potentially because
were taught to think this way maybe your
mom or your dad or someone else in your
family growing up taught you to
overanalyze taught you to over worry
maybe you weren't so much someone who
tended to overthink but you got punished
for not considering all the possible
scenarios of a situation maybe your mom
was an excessive warrior and she
basically gave that energy to you she
taught you how to also excessively worry
so there's lots of different ways how
this may come about in terms of becoming
a pattern in how we live our everyday
lives but it is a possible scenario that
someone you knew growing up taught you
to be this way but here's the good news
if this was something that you learnt
and you were taught then it's also
something that you can unlearn and that
you can teach yourself to not do any
longer and I'm going to show you exactly
how with four steps so the first step in
order to eliminate over analyzing and
overthinking is to feel your way through
your decisions first note that I said
feel not think instead of thinking your
way through which is what overanalyzing
is all about it's just constantly
thinking thinking thinking you want to
feel instead of just using your head you
want to use all of you that's available
to you to make a decision you want to
sense what it feels like with you or to
choose option A versus option B you want
to feel your way through and this is a
technique that a lot of successful
people use in their everyday lives in
their careers and businesses to make
decisions it's called relying on your
gut so in order to know if a decision is
the right one or not
you want to feel your way through and
you want to ask yourself do I feel a
sense of opening and relaxed calm with
this particular choice or option that
I'm making or do I feel a sense of
tension a sense of tightness a sense of
constriction with that decision if you
don't feel fully relaxed
calm about it then potentially it's not
the right scenario or path that you need
to pick but if you feel good about it
inside it feels like the right decision
for you you feel common relaxed from
within your entire body then there's a
good chance that that's the way to go
step number two let go of your fear of
regret this is truly one of the biggest
fears that hold us back from taking
risks from making choices in our lives
in our careers that potentially could
rise us up to the next level many people
are afraid that they're going to regret
making such a decision whether it's to
take a different type of job in a
different career path or if it's to move
to a certain city or country that's
completely different from where they're
at right now there's a lot of fear
around those types of decisions and if
people only rely on their fear then that
can hold them back from rising to that
next level so where to begin with
releasing this fear the first thing to
do is to acknowledge that you actually
have this fear of regret and then the
second thing is to make a decision you
simply just have to make a decision to
say I will no longer make my choices
based on fear of regret I'm going to
make my choices based on whether it
feels right for me and is in line with
my values if you can start to live by
that belief that will shift your entire
perspective on the decisions that you
have to make step number three is to
trust in your own internal guidance
people overanalyze and overthink because
at the end of the day they don't trust
in themselves they don't trust in their
own abilities to make their own
decisions and that is something that
really needs to change you need to trust
that you have all the tools and all the
knowledge within you to be able to make
any sort of decision wisely and if you
don't know the answer of course you're
going to ask questions but you're not
going to think about all the things that
are going to go wrong you're going to
think about the things that will go
right as long as you do the right action
steps what you emanate to others is what
others will reflect back to you
you trust yourself if you believe in
your own ability to make your decisions
and you make them and even if they end
up being the wrong decisions you can
always change course you can always move
directions you can always improve on the
decisions that you made and finally step
number four on how to overcome and over
analyzing and overthinking is to not
give yourself too much time to make a
decision so you might think in order to
stop yourself from over analyzing you
need to take time to make a decision to
feel your way through and talk about all
the steps I just talked about but the
truth here is no in order to become
someone who stops overanalyzing you need
to give yourself less time to make a
decision because then you can really
rely on your gut you can rely on your
own internal guidance to make that
decision rather than overthinking and
thinking through all the different
scenarios and all the different
possibilities that could happen that's
what happens when people take too much
time cut yourself off give yourself just
the right amount of time make your
decision and move forward with that so
there you have it those are my three
reasons why you tend to overanalyze and
my four steps on how to overcome it
I hope that was helpful to you now if
you are someone who is currently on the
hunt for a new position and you haven't
been having much success with your
interviews or you haven't been getting
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