NLP getting what you want stay tuned
stay tuned NLP look at this hey I I can't do
anything these guys keep coming up to us yes my friend is the best in world I just
pull out my camera and like they start walking up to me this is Damon Cart from
NLP gym and I'm in New York so NLP getting what you want if you haven't
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videos on a regular basis how can it open help you get what you want the
first problem that people have when it comes to getting what they want is they
lack a lot of clarity about what they want and NLP can help you get very clear
about it and more than just being specific about details and my first
Centipede training I did it with Robert Dilts and an orientation he said if you
don't want anything NLP can't help you NLP is based on
getting what you want the psychologies and therapies up until
just recently we're focused on really picking apart and understanding the
problem when they were making an LP they used it to they use getting what you
want your desire to move you out of the problem state so there's the present
state and the desired state the present state is you don't have what you want or
you're in problem or scarcity or you're dealing with the problem that you want
to solve and then you use your desire what you want instead to move you out of
it so if you drill down on the problem too
much and you try to analyze the problem and try to understand the problem you're
just getting more and more focused on what you don't want which tends to
create more of what you don't want so if I ask you what do you want what's the
first thing that comes to mind many of you probably thought about all the
things you don't want or all the things you're trying to avoid rather than
answering the question that I asked you which is what do you want your conscious
mind is really good at making sure every day throughout your life you're avoiding
all the things you don't want the problem is is that
your unconscious tends to follow that lead and if you're unconsciously focused
on all the things that you don't want your unconscious doesn't know the
difference between what you do want and what you don't want and it will tend to
gravitate to what you're very clear about and what you're focused on so if
you're focused on what you don't want you will consciously and unconsciously
create more of that if you're very clear about what you do want and you set your
conscious attention and your unconscious attention on that you will tend to
create more of that so to begin with there's something called a well-formed
outcome and this is something you would learn this is like a basic NLP structure
for setting goals and outcomes you learn this in practitioner training but I'm
amazed at how many people don't actually ever practice it or use it or they just
kind of skim over it whenever they're in an NLP training and never go back to it
they never set their goals this way a well-formed outcome basically helps you
to understand clearly what it is that you want and what is the greater value
that you're looking for because it truth is is you don't really want more money a
new car and a new house now you may be saying no no I do want those things and
yes I understand you do want those things but more than wanting those
things you want the state you believe or you want the experience you believe
those things will give you now you can already access that right now if you
couldn't you wouldn't be able to project that state and experience that you want
onto these objects so because you can project it it must already exist within
you when you access that which is the value or the experience you want to
experience when you access that and you focus on the thing that you want that
becomes super powerful and you're able to create it much faster you're able to
naturally attract this to yourself because you're in a state of abundance a
lot of people withhold that feeling from themselves they withhold the experience
and the values that they want to experience from themselves until they
have what they want like they're trying to Dingle the carrot to try to force
themselves to go and get it this doesn't usually work you're in scarcity and
limitations so it's preventing you from actually getting what you want so the
paradox is is to put you into the state of already having it and then focusing
on it still you still need to focus on it
people think that they can just do this this is what the secret and the law of
attraction is based on a lot of people are sold on this idea that they can all
that's all they have to do they don't have to do anything else like they don't
have to take action they don't have to practice to become good or have the
skills that they want to have so people don't often take action because they're
afraid of failing and they're afraid of the disappointment of failing a lot of
times people don't take action because they're actually afraid that if they get
what they want they might disappoint them because it's not what they expected
so they would rather stay in the fantasy phase of just imagining happening having
it and feeling good about imagining happening having it it's so important to
take action take a step forward or a step toward what it is that you want
nothing can replace that because true experience gives you brings in so much
sensory experience sensory experience is what's real if you practice the sensory
experience of it what you'll see hear and feel and you're going into the state
are the value that you want to experience this becomes super powerful
and this becomes a kind of focus now how do you really tap into that sensory
experience you tap into it by taking action by practicing so when you do this
yes you will take action and you will fail at times and getting what you want
you will run into disappointment it will hurt and you will get what you want if
and only if you stay on the path and just know that this is the process of
getting what you want as you bring in as you gather troost real sensory data
experience you will start to understand what satisfies you what doesn't you may
have been on on track to accomplish something and you realize wait a minute
this is not going to give me the satisfaction that I want so you drop it
you keep moving toward the goal you want in the sense you keep moving to the
toward the experience and the values that you want but maybe
the object that you thought would give you that isn't right for you anymore you
realize that's not going to do it so the more action you take the more you
practice getting what you want the more likely you are to drop the things that
aren't going to truly give you what you want and the things that are getting in
your way the disappointments and the failings you can reframe as giving even
more meaning to what it is that you want by meaning you're working for this
you're earning it sure you had a setback but it's nothing
personal it's not about you it just means that you have to try a different
way earning what you want gives more meaning to what you want so you're more
likely to keep it the reason why 50% of people who win the lottery are broke
within ten years more broke than they were before they won the lottery is
because they didn't earn that money so they didn't know how to keep it they
didn't have the meaning that people who earned that much money attached to that
money so that of course they lost it when you fail and you keep going and you
change up your game plan and you change your strategy and you keep moving
forward you will truly earn what it is that you want and therefore it gives it
so much more meaning and you will keep it look at my website NLP-gym.com
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