Tripp here from www.trippadvice.com teaching you how to get the girl while still being
your genuine self.
Today we’re talking about how to overcome shyness.
Are you shy when talking to girls or in general have social anxiety or fear of speaking your
mind?
Or are you scared to talk to strangers?
If you said "yes" to any of these questions then you’re having a hard time meeting girls.
If you learn how to overcome your shyness, it’s going to be easy to spark up conversations
with the girls that you like.
And if you continue to struggle with shyness, you’ll prevent yourself from having amazing
experiences with people that you meet.
Today let me show you the exact steps to overcome this terrible feeling inside of you.
The first step in getting over your shyness is to stop labeling yourself as shy.
Let’s completely remove this word from your vocabulary because it’s the first thing
that’s holding you back.
When you label yourself as shy, you see yourself as shy.
Let me give you a hint: every powerful change you can ever make starts with your thoughts.
They’re the most powerful thing that you have.
So don’t call yourself shy or weak or a loser because that’s exactly what you’ll
be.
There’s been studies done that show when you learn how to change the way you deal with
negative emotions, you can train yourself to become better at dealing with things such
as social situations.
The fancy term is called “cognitive reappraisal”.
And with this method, you can work with your emotional response to certain situations and
change the reaction.
For example, right now you’re thinking about all the things that’ll go wrong when you
go and talk to a girl or the crappy things that you’ll say or that no girl will ever
like you and that there’s nothing good about you.
But the trick is to reframe these thoughts into something positive that you’re going
to impress her.
That you have a shot just like any other guy to attract this girl, that there are a lot
of things that are amazing about you.
Once you start to positively reframe your thoughts, the next step is to talk to as many
people as you can, as much as you can.
A catch-22 I know, because by trying to get over your shyness, you’re doing the exact
thing that makes you shy in the first place.
Here’s what you can do; make it a habit.
A real habit to talk to people everyday.
Not just your friends or the people you know, but strangers.
Here’s the trick; you gotta start small.
It doesn’t need to be long conversations and you don’t even need to start off by
approaching hot girls.
Instead, work on saying hello to someone walking by you on the street, talk to the barista
at the counter, chat up the person next to you in line somewhere.
The key here is you have to make it a point to do one thing every single day.
As you do this, you’ll build up more and more courage to talk to people you don’t
know.
And you can start as small as you want.
But you have to do something.
Lastly, a lot of guys are nervous to talk to girls because they don’t believe there’s
something to bring to the table.
So what you can do to combat this is to bring value to conversations that you have.
What you can do is make a list or think about all the things that you can do to bring value
to a conversation.
Is it an interesting story, a funny joke, are you just offering unique information about
yourself that might inspire someone?
Can you teach someone something?
Can you make someone feel good about themselves?
Those are some of the examples of ways that you can bring value to a conversation.
And once you’re bringing value, you’ll know for sure that people want to talk to
you and therefore get rid of your so called “shyness”.
Go ahead and check out www.trippadvice.com for your free gift where I’ll show you more
techniques on how to be an amazing conversationalist with women and get them attracted to you within
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Go there right now www.trippadvice.com and I’ll be talking to you very soon.