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- Good morning, good life.
Welcome back to Amy TV, where we come together
to help you go after the life you want.
One of the reasons why we cannot accumulate
more confidence in our career
is because we let that wretched imposter syndrome
get in the way.
It keeps us from getting those reps in.
We try to convince ourselves that we can't do the job,
so why bother even trying?
Well, we have to put a stop to that.
It is absolutely not the right thing
to be saying to yourself as you are venturing
into a better, stronger, more exciting career for yourself,
no matter what that life looks like for you.
Whether you own your business or you're managing people,
we have to break down the imposter syndrome first
so that you can reach for the sky.
One of the many things that you will be experiencing
in your imposter syndrome journey
is likely working with your team more collaboratively,
which is why I'm teaming up with today's sponsor
of this episode of Amy TV and that is our friends at SHRM.
You guys have heard of SHRM
if you've been here at Amy TV before.
It is the Society of Human Resource Management.
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SHRM has helped me tremendously in my ongoing fight
with imposter syndrome as I, as an entrepreneur,
continue to grow my team.
With the use of their People Manager Qualification
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This has been monumental for me,
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The first two episodes
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All of these tools are extremely helpful
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Thanks again to SHRM for sponsoring this episode of Amy TV.
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First we need to build you case.
You're innocent until proven imposter.
We already know that you are far beyond the possibility
of somebody that cannot show up for this job.
You are the person for this job,
you just need to prove it to yourself.
One of the best things that you can do is write it down,
whether it's just something small that you did today
to educate yourself,
or something big that you've accomplished
that you don't want to let yourself forget.
It can be very easy to lose track of these things,
to just stay on the churn
and keep going, keep going, keep going,
never really recover from imposter syndrome,
but then easily forget all of the reasons
why you are not an imposter at all.
So remember the power of writing something down.
Often, when we take something out of our minds
and put it into real life, pen to paper,
it is all we need to be able to feel like it is real.
My second tip is to cancel comparison culture.
Not a fan of cancel culture,
but I am a fan of canceling comparison.
It is a no win trap.
And I know you're thinking of somebody,
you're thinking of somebody that you've looked at recently
or another brand that you thought,
"Oh, if only I was that.
"If only I achieved this, then I wouldn't be an imposter.
"I would totally be the right person",
or, "I'd totally be the right one
"to go to in this situation."
It is easy to then take yourself down a notch
by looking at someone else's work,
but what is that really doing for you?
You're constantly going to be behind the ball
because you are convincing yourself that you are.
You are allowing other outside sources
to give you a decision on how valid you are,
how good you are, how much of an imposter that you could be.
If you don't wanna be an imposter,
stop measuring yourself against others
who would make you feel that way.
And it could be that they are quite motivating
and they are exactly the right people
you could be surrounding yourself with
and exactly what you need to see
to move the needle in your life.
But keep in mind
that just because they are achieving things,
that they are getting things done,
it doesn't mean that you can't,
it doesn't mean that you're too far behind to be able to
and you've got to cancel this comparison lifestyle.
When you're constantly scrolling
and you're constantly looking out
and you're constantly looking
at what everyone else is doing,
that is stressful!
That is not doing anything.
You are not having good stress by executing on the moments
that are actually gonna make a difference for you.
You are allowing outside circumstances to get you down.
This can do nothing good for you.
I've even found there are moments
that some of the most motivating people
or instances or circumstances that I have seen
can also just get me at a moment
where I'm not feeling my most motivated,
can get me at a moment where I'm not feeling my best self,
and I start to resent them.
It doesn't mean they're gone forever.
I either get rid of social media at that moment
or unfollow those people for the time being
and I can always come back, because I have the decision
of who I spend my time with.
So cancel comparison and that will quickly make you realize
how valid you are and how you're not an imposter at all.
And speaking of that, here's number three,
appoint your own personal board of directors.
I'm a huge proponent for this
because oftentimes we find ourselves in situations,
especially when we're going after the life that we want
and it's a hard road,
that we don't have the support system that we need.
We need to be able to say that we have certain people
in our lives that are gonna help us out,
whether they are IRL or know us personally or don't.
Maybe they're just digital influences,
people who make us feel empowered, make us feel educated,
make us feel better when we are around them.
So I will have different people that I keep in my life.
Somebody I go to for business, somebody I go to for love,
somebody I go to for venting,
somebody I go to for anything you can think of.
I like to give those people in my life a role,
a place where I can say,
"I know I can rely on you for this thing.
"I'm not gonna expect the world of you,
"I'm gonna just go to you for this one thing
"because I know you always deliver for it."
Whether that person is having a real conversation with me
or I'm saying it to my favorite YouTube channel
or I'm saying it to my favorite podcast.
Appoint your personal board of directors
because when you do that,
you instantly have a better relationship
with everyone else in your life,
because you're not looking to them
to be good at what they are not good at.
Like going to somebody who wants to protect you
from all bad things in the world,
and then trying to talk to them about your crazy dreams
and the life you want and this difficult path
you wanna go down, does not compute.
You need someone who gets it,
so you can have that conversation with them,
and let the person who wants to protect you
hear what's good that's going on,
hear what you're doing to take the right steps in your life
and you go to them for the other things
that really they're the best at.
People cannot be all things for us,
but we can choose what we need
and find the right people for us.
If you don't wanna be an imposter,
then no problem, just don't be.
Be an expert.
Immerse yourself in your craft.
Become a master.
There is literally no better way to get out of your mind,
get out of the head space that you're an imposter
then to get your head space in a place
where you are mastering something.
You don't even have time to think
there's a possibility that you're gonna get found out
if you're so busy learning and growing and developing
and planning and executing.
This is why I wanted to bring up
SHRM's PMQ program to you today,
because they really do give you a place
where you can continue to grow
and you know that you're doing your very best
to lead your teams and lead those around you
in your best way possible.
You don't have to be the best leader of all time,
you just always have to be self aware enough
to continue to grow.
If you always do that, if you are always telling yourself,
"I can learn every day, from every circumstance.
"I can continue to master my craft.
"I can continue to get better.
"I can continue to not stay comfortable",
then you will easily become an expert
before you even realize that you can give yourself
such a crazy title,
and you certainly won't be giving yourself
the title of imposter.
My last tip, and I know this is gonna be
a little bit of a twist on a motivational video,
but I'd like you to imagine the worst case scenario.
Just let your mind go there.
Just really focus on it.
Let yourself completely go to that place.
What is the worst thing that could happen?
Now take a step back from it and ask yourself
what is the actual likelihood of that happening?
If that is the worst case, like the worst case scenario
and it is possible that it could happen, how likely is it?
What are all the terrible mistakes in a row,
not learning from oneself, that would have to happen
for that to be the case?
Just let yourself think it, let yourself go there
because that is usually, especially for somebody like me
in a scarcity mindset recovery mode,
I don't want that to happen, right?
So I'm gonna do everything in my power
to make sure that it doesn't.
I will observe it, I will notice it,
but I'm not gonna think about it daily.
I'm gonna know it exists, and I'm gonna do
everything in my power to keep it from existing.
What I know for sure is that the worst case scenario
about your imposter syndrome is directly linked
to feelings of fear, to feelings that are keeping you
from taking a step forward, and if we just notice that
and say, "Okay, feelings, see ya, feel ya.
"We're just gonna have to compartmentalize that for now
"and give something better a shot.
"I know you exist, I see you existing over there,
"but I'm choosing something else today."
Recognize what is possible when you do that.
What's so sad is if you think about all of the crazy things
you've been trying to say about yourself
and the things that you think will go wrong
because you can't possibly get it right,
if you were to try to gather all of those thoughts
about another person and say it to their face,
how do you think that would go down?
Probably not great, and you probably wouldn't do that
because even if you're thinking it,
we don't usually put other people under the same scrutiny
that we do to ourselves.
So I challenge you to look at yourself
as an ambitious person that is ready to go places,
and then you sit them down and tell them,
"Ha ha, you's an imposter, honey."
Don't do it.
Don't do it to yourself, you wouldn't do it to others,
therefore give yourself that same great treatment,
so that you will not see that worst case scenario come true
and that conversation will not happen
from whatever person would actually
have that conversation with you
that you imagined in your worst case scenario.
Am I right?
I know, I guessed it, right?
I'm really good at these things.
Subjecting yourself to this poor of treatment
is absolutely not the way to motivate yourself
on a consistent basis to go after the life you want,
and I know that motivation is this big arbitrary factor,
so stop slowing it down
when it is so difficult to achieve already.
Question of the day, which one of these tips
is gonna help you take the first step
toward beating imposter syndrome in your career?
Share that in the comments down below.
And find out more details
about SHRM's PMQ virtual training program
that's going to help you elevate your career as well.
The details are in the description down below.
That's all for today, thank you so much for tuning in.
I appreciate it as always.
Remember, subscribe for good vibes,
kiss the ones you love,
and go after the life you want.
Cheers.
Shout out to Kalisi for waiting to bark
until the end of the episode.
Okay, bye!
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