Heya playa, do you feel like your life just isn't working out the way that you want it
to? Maybe you're not in a relationship or you're in a relationship that you just don't
care about. Maybe you don't have a job or you're at a job you just don't love. Either
way, the direction you're heading isn't the one you want to be on so what do you do about
that? Well, in this video I'm going to share a few tips on how you can change your perspective
so you can learn to appreciate the most out of life. For those of you that are new here,
my name is Josh and every single week I make videos sharing tips, ideas and stories teaching
you how to be your best self so if you want to learn and grow, hit the subscribe button
and make sure to click on the notification bell. Life is an interesting beast. You only
get one shot at it and things just aren't working out for you and you haven't found
a path you want to take you might feel like you're just living day to day where you're
not happy, not excited, not motivated to do anything. And that is a sucky place to be
in, don't get me wrong. And in some cases, the best thing to do is to seek out therapy,
is to go to counseling, is to speak to someone about what you're going through. But there
are also small things you can do on top of that to help you kind of shift your day to
day mindset and shift you towards being grateful for what you do have. For example, what's
your morning mindset? When you wake up in the morning do you feel that sense of dread
because you have to live another day of an unhappy life or you feel like there's potential?
There are things you can do to change your life around. If you're living with that sense
of dread then yeah, that's the first thing you need to tackle because you're not really
appreciating, you're not really noticing the positive things you may have in your life.
They're getting overlooked because you're more worried about the things you don't have.
Now I don't say that to discredit any struggles you may be going through, but I think it's
important to take notice of the small wins that we can actually look forward to. For
example, is there a roof over your head? Can you go to sleep knowing that you're safe in
your own home? Do you have food in your fridge that you can wake up and eat if you're hungry?
Is there a bathroom with running water that you can use if you want to brush your teeth
or wash your face? Now to you, these things might not matter because they're part of your
day-to-day. They're not really part of your overall bigger picture. They don't affect
how you choose to live your life, how you choose to carry forward in your day, how you
choose to interact with others. But I would argue that they do. Having an easy-going morning,
a morning where you can kind of prepare your day and get things going without having to
worry about these little tiny things is going to make your life a little bit easier than
other people who don't have access to those things. So if you feel like that first thought
in your mind is always going to be that negative sense of dread, try to make that second thought
the appreciation for what you do have. Taking that active goal and looking for positive
things is actually going to influence you to look for more positive things as the day
rolls along. One thing to remember here is that a negative mindset doesn't just exist
at the beginning of the day, negative thoughts tend to sprinkle throughout your different
interactions with people, the different activities that you do, even in your quiet alone time
when you're sitting there thinking by yourself, that's when negative thoughts tend to spring
up. So if negativity is always in full force, how do you go about defeating it and stopping
those negative thoughts completely? Well, I think instead of stopping the negative thoughts
you instead should overpower it with positive thoughts and one way you can go about doing
that is by keeping a gratitude journal. This can be a collection of the things you're grateful
for in life, there are a few ways you can do that. One is keeping an actual gratitude
journal, something you write in every single day. The moments that you're grateful for
and the things that you're happy about. Another way is to just keep an app with a note on
your phone where you can write different things that pop into your mind, different moments
that you're grateful for, people you're happy about, situations you want to learn more about
and explore. For example, I remember back when I was in college and I wasn't really
sure about what I wanted to do with my life, I didn't really have a clear direction and
because of that I felt an overwhelming sense of anxiety, I still kept a little notepad
with a pen. And every single day, every time I saw something that just gave me a spark
of joy, it could be a person walking down the street, it could be two people laughing
in a conversation, it could be the grass under my feet as I walk to class, any of those positive
things I would write down. And just having a list of all the things that kind of brought
that sense of joy in my life made me feel better about myself. And these weren't even
things that were happening to me, I was simply observing the world around me and in that
observation, I saw that happiness was possible. Sometimes it wasn't reaching for the highest
goal, sometimes it was just stopping to smell a flower or stopping to have a conversation
with someone on the street. And the cynic in you might be thinking, yeah that's great
that everyone else is happy but I'm still struggling so what can I do to help myself?
Well in those moments I think the best thing for you to do is to stop and breathe. Focus
on your breathing. This is a form of meditation that I think can help calm your nerves and
calm your anxiety. In fact, let's do it right now, you and me. Close your eyes for just
10 seconds. Take a deep breath, as you're breathing in, think about the air entering
your lungs, now breathe out. We'll do it again one more time. Take a deep breath in, feel
the air going to different parts of your body as your chest expands and breathe out. Feel
the air just kind of leave your body in this simple, fluid motion. Most of the time we're
annoyed or angry or just irritated with the world because things just aren't going our
way, it's because we're out of alignment with our own bodies and I think we're turning back
to that alignment by breathing. By being calm in the moment, it's going to help us analyze
and assess that situation a lot better. Is that to say breathing is going to help you
finally get a girlfriend or actually get a job or maybe even pass your classes? No. It's
simply going to help you look at those situations and realize that over time you will find a
way through them. These moments in your life don't have to define you and a lot of times
we let them define us. We let them determine that we don't have worth, that we aren't worthy
of something positive in life but breathing, taking control of your body helps you realize
that you are. Another thing I would recommend doing to help you feel like you're not on
this journey alone struggling by yourself is by saying thank you to the people involved
in your life. Simply offering thanks for their guidance, for their kindness, for their wellbeing
is going to help you feel like you're not alone. Sometimes people want to be more helpful
and involved in your life but they're afraid they're going to overstep their boundaries
so they pull back. They don't get as involved which might make you feel more alone so, simply
offering them thanks for what they do bring in return is gonna allow them to feel like
they can be more open with you. That they do see a more vulnerable side to you. That
the two of you can actually work together. Being able to recognize that you're struggling
in some kind of way and that there needs to be a change there is a major first step to
take and that second step is being open to the idea of getting help from others so offering
thanks allows you to recognize that you're someone worth helping and allows other people
to realize that you're actually are reaching out to them for their generosity. And I know,
asking for help is hard. Sometimes pride is what's driving the ship and no one ever wants
to be perceived as weak or incapable of doing something themselves but we're a social species.
We're here to help each other. No one is better than anyone else so if someone is willing
to offer you help if someone is willing to guide you or just show you what you need to
do to get on the right path for yourself it's worth looking into. And finally, let's just
be honest here. Sometimes you may feel like there's nothing to be grateful for. Everything
in your life sucks, nothing is going right and you can't find a way out of it. Well,
I think in those situations, the best thing for you to do is to try to gain perspective
on what your problems are in relation to other people. You might see other people struggling
with other things, things that they're having hardships with and at least you can be grateful
that you're not dealing with the problems that they may encounter. For example, let's
say you don't really have the best type of relationship with your parents. You fight
a lot with them, you just don't get along, things are always tense, well, in those situations
you might think that there's nothing to be grateful for but try to think about someone
you know that may not have parents anymore, maybe they passed away, or maybe they're divorced
and moved away, maybe they had such a catastrophic ending that they can no longer interact with
their parents. In that situation you might think well, at least I can be grateful for
the fact that I have my parents there. That there's an opportunity to work on our relationship
to make things better potentially, rather than not having them at all. I think having
perspective and awareness for the things you have access to in your life in relation to
other people is going to grant you the opportunity to practice gratitude for them because they
are things that are active in your life. They may not be in the best condition, they may
not be how you want them to be but everything is small steps guys, you always have the opportunity
to work on the things that are there in front of you. So, don't overlook them. Don't ignore
them. Recognize that change is possible. And remember, if you're not happy with where you
are in life that's ok. There will be days where you feel down and there really isn't
much that you can do to kick out of it but, every single day brings a new opportunity
for you so take advantage of that opportunity by practicing gratitude whenever you can.
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find your path and purpose in life. I think if that's what you're struggling with, that
video is going to be helpful. On that note guys, I'll catch you next time, as always,
love and peace.