Hey everybody welcome back this is me Meera and
you are watching me on Skillopedia. Well today we're going to talk about a very interesting
topic which is almost a favorite of all of you out there. What I want is, I want you
guys to up your game when it comes to communication skills. Well why do we talk about communication
skills in general because it's a mixture of both spoken language as well as body language.
Now what happens is you probably are stuck in a situation sometimes, it could be a meeting
or it could be a presentation, it could be just bumping into an old friend or it could
be talking to a native speaker and you were supposed to respond in such a situation but
you are just lost sometimes and you cannot gather words, you cannot form sentences properly.
Now why does that happen? Why do you think that happens? And that is because if sometimes
lack of practice and in general it's the coordination between our body language and our mind game
that is our spoken language. Today we are going to learn to update and to upgrade your
communication skills step-by-step, right? Because that would really help you. So let's
get started guys and we are going to make sure that by the end of this video you would
have had steps, tricks and tips that will help you to up your game. Well guys let's
get going. Most of the times guys we often face a situation where there is a communication
gap because of which most of the times we do not understand what the person has just
told us, maybe you were on an international call and you just understood 30 percent of
what was told to you or what was spoken. Maybe you're just watching an American series and
for half of the times you were like okay this is Greek to me I do not understand this, I
don't know what they are speaking about. Now why does this happen? This happens because
there is a gap. And why is there a gap? Because we are not used to speaking to native speakers
or we are not used to listening to them. Well you don't have to worry about that because
we can definitely bridge this gap, how? What you can do is, you can download an app called
“Cambly” and on this app you would find a native speakers from the US, UK and they
are there available for you 24 by 7 depending on what time you are available they are ready
to converse with you, talk to you, clear your doubts, correct you and most importantly they
are certified and they will speak with you in their accent which is natural to them,
right? Now what happens when you do this? You get used to certain things, you get, you
start listening more carefully and your understanding becomes much better and here is an opportunity
that you can make use of, because you need this to bridge that gap. Now I recently went
on “Cambly” and I had a conversation with this particular person his name was Derek
and I spoke to him a little bit about small talks since I really wanted to know as I usually
get stuck. Why don't you take a look at what happened and listen carefully and you will
understand exactly what I'm talking about, yeah? So let's check it out. So let's quickly
go to the app which is right here, it might take a while but, as you can see yes, so there's
a menu over here and we are going to go on tutors. All the green buttons here suggest
that all these tutors are live and ready to converse with you right now. So let's take
a look at who we are going to call? Let's call David over here, I'm just going to call
him, say yes, “Hi!” “Hey, hi David.” “Hi, how are you?” “I'm great, thank
you.” “My name is Meera, yes I'm calling from India.” “Excellent, where in India
are you?” “I'm basically in Mumbai.” “Mumbai, um-hmm.” “Right so I'm, I'm
a tutor and a trainer myself.” “Although I wanted to just check out the app before
I suggested to my students because I want them to use “Cambly” and I want them to
practice on “Cambly”. “So I wanted to ask you something, shall we go ahead?” “Yeah!
Go ahead.” “All right, okay so I usually face a lot of situations where I have to indulge
into a lot of small talks.” “Hmm, okay.” “Right, could you, could you give me any
tips how to go about small talks or any phrases which I can use?” “Just general small
talk, I suppose in England probably the, the biggest source of small talk is the weather,
we're always talking about the weather probably because it's, it's always changing you'll
find complete strangers talk about weather things like that so that's a yeah something
that's a common topic for starting conversations.” “If I have to give you a situation, I'm
meeting a colleague of mine after a while and we just bump into each other in the aisle,
so any phrase or any suggestions how I can go about it or anything that I need to ask
him or her?” “I suppose you, yeah you just start off so how are you hi nice to see
you yeah um we sometimes say almost jokingly off fancy seeing you here if it's yeah if
it's a place where you almost expect to see them sometimes yeah okay depends I suppose
what yeah if it's just, just an acquaintance or somebody you know.” “All right so I
think that's about it for today I will be back very soon with a topic that I get to
speak to you about but for now that's all from Me” “Okay, okay very nice to meet
you.” “You have a great day ahead though.” “And you too.” “Yeah thank you.” “Appreciate
it, bye-bye.” So guys how was it? I'm sure that it was pretty insightful because he shared
so many things, he shared phrases with us, he shared why it is important to talk to a
native speaker and that is exactly what I wanted you to know. Well now this app doesn't
come for free but we got in touch with them and you can use a 7-day trial for just $18.
Well I'm sure that if you like it you will continue it but you must try it because it
is very important in order to understand native speakers and speak more fluently and be, become
better at your communications game, right? So make sure that you make use of this app,
oh the link will be in the description box below. So go ahead and take a look at it and
see how you find it. Now what else is important? It is important that you're able to convey
your message in a way that people understand you and your message. Can you do that if you're
super, super nervous or anxious? No you must learn to relax and calm down before you begin,
before you start. Your conversation and your response really depends on the state of your
mind. So just imagine this situation, right? When you are learning how to swim or when
you were baby and you were learning how to swim, most people get extremely nervous and
in the water and end up, you know with water in their mouth and nose which makes them even
much more nervous and afraid, but have you ever seen babies or have you ever seen experienced
people the way they are calm and relax they literally just float on water. Now we need
to learn this and apply it similarly when we speak in English to native speakers to
avoid things like these, like really fast speech where nobody understands anything or
something that is really slow where you get even more conscious. Quick relaxation exercise
coming right up for you, well just follow me with this one, okay? We're going to take
a deep breath, we're going to exhale. Now I want you to relax your shoulders and your
face, so if you're really tense just relax and take this time to gather your thoughts
and choose a natural speed for yourself make sure that it isn't too slow or you're not
running, it's not too fast this helps in getting rid of the butterflies in your tummy, right?
And this helps you think about the right sentences, the right word, the right, you know the phrases,
right? This will certainly help you calm down and this definitely creates a positive impression
on others. Plus a good communicator is always someone who has calm and confident at the
same time. Now I will ask you to do something, I will ask you to be as fearless as a baby.
Now you're thinking, why is Meera making us look like babies when we're looking at talking
to adults, right? Why a baby? That is because these beautiful creatures are born fearless
they make mistakes and that is how they learn you cannot learn any language or any act any
skill without making mistakes guys. Now most of the times we go blank when fear pops in
of making mistakes, right? And that is, that is because most of our sentences, that is
a reason why most of our sentences go wrong and our message is not conveyed properly it's
understood. So be ready that you will make mistakes instead of getting nervous about
it, about making a mistakes, you would be prepared to get corrected by others which
is absolutely fine you know? You can always say it again if you were wrong and you can
rectify it just the way you have been doing all your life when it comes to your family
members. Well things such as, “Oh, I meant to say…” And then you correct your own
sentence that is the key of improving your communication skills by simply letting yourself
make mistakes and improvising, correcting yourself and this will automatically increase
your confidence because you're not fearful anymore about it, right? That is why you will
not hesitate to speak in front of others and this will really help you. Do you want to
know my favorite method, yeah? That's imitating. Yes you heard me, I usually watch a lot of
talk show, talk shows and hosts and I literally try to copy their action their style sometimes
I copy a whole speech if I want to of course in front of the mirror. Come on now we all
have once imagined ourselves winning an Oscar or Emmy and we imagine ourselves giving a
grand speech on the grand stage, right? Well that's a great way to actually learn to better
your communication skills, don't you think so? Instead of just academically studying,
this will change your overall personality and that is exactly what we are aiming for,
right? So I suggest go ahead and shadow, imitate someone just to improve, right? Not to continue
acting like them but slowly you will find your comfortable style, you're comfortable
communication style with the help of these talk show hosts or comedians, right? They
are, they are doing great, and you can always make sure that you catch on them. Don't these
steps really sound handy and simple and easy? Well they are. Now make sure you apply these
maybe one at a time, one, one step in a week and then the other in the next week and come
back and tell me in the comment section about your experience, right? Well that's all for
the day. I will see you guys very soon until then make sure that you're smiling spread
a lot of love this is me Meera signing off of the day guys, ciao.