Thank you for joining us for TLC Thursday!
My name is Christal Fuentes. The Founder of The Ladies Coach.com, and your Host
and Coach for today
I don't know what was going on this past week, but you all were blowing up my
email and private messages, with your questions about the "men" in your life.
Here were just some of the questions I got
Now that was just a few of them, but as someone who talks a lot about healthy
relationships and how to build that foundation of love within, in order to
sustain quality relationships around us. I think it's important that we
understand as we start evolving in our journey and begin to build a more
positive connection to ourselves, we need to start taking a strong hard look at the
people we are sharing our lives with, because here's the deal ladies, and I'm just
going to be very blunt about this there's a big difference between dating
a man and dating a boy. Now let me explain, because this statement might
sound a bit rough it wasn't meant to be disrespectful. I just think it's
important to distinguish the differences between the two, because we're getting
with people who we want to give our all to, and envision this beautiful forever
with them when they just aren't capable of sustaining that kind of love. Why? Well
would you expect an eight-year-old kid to have the maturity and self-awareness
to understand the depth of an intimate relationship? Probably not! But the truth is, most of us are walking
around as wounded kids, trying to adult and have flourishing relationships. Not
knowing that the kid in us doesn't have the capacity for a deep and intimate
type of relationship. Notice I say "we" because the truth is, if you are
attracting boys then it's quite possible... Really possible you are also allowing
the little girl in you to take lead. Trust me ladies you are not off the hook,
and we will talk about our participation in the destruction of our relationships
in upcoming weeks, but for now let's talk about the differences between a man and
a boy.
Number One: A full man knows his worth and in turn, knows the worth of his partner.
He's not going to settle for anything short of what he knows he deserves, and
that's exactly what you want. Why? Because he will also know the value of who he's with.
Number Two: A full man will not play games.
This on-and-off-again crap I hear going on a relationship only happens when you
are in a relationship with a boy not a man.
Number Three: A full man is certain
of who he is, and won't feel the need to suppress, restrict, or belittle his
partner. If you are with someone who tries to control you, manipulate you, to
get what you want or feels the need to say hurtful things, it is a sure sign of
unresolved fear that a boy wouldn't even know how to process.
Number Four: A full man will take responsibility for his wrongdoings.
Humility and vulnerability
is at the core of a full man, and a boy will backlash and turn the table on you
without taking ownership of his actions.
Number Five: A full man will see a
grander vision for the relationship, and will want to share his world with you.
A boy can't see a grander vision, and will rarely discuss plans with you in them.
Number Six: A full man is the true definition of confident. A boy is
arrogant and cocky. Remember we've discussed before the differences between
confidence and arrogance ladies. Confidence comes from trust and
self-love, while arrogance and cockiness is a compensation for the lack of love within.
Those are just some of the differences between a man and a boy, so
my question for you ladies is, who are you dating? Again it's important we start
becoming aware of the people we are trying to make house with because if
you're with a boy he may play house for a little while, but a man
makes a home. Does this all make sense? Make sure you head to TheLadiesCoach.com
for more resources that can make your life a little easier, and please
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Until next time ladies.