Hey Dan here and really excited to be answering a question today from Rebecca
about ENFP and INTJ partnerships whether that be in the bedroom or in the
boardroom. Now if you're new to the channel my name is Danm this is Dreams
Around The World and my mission here is to help you become the best version of
yourself all while creating the most awesome life
possible for you and those you love. Now I was excited to answer this question
because it's something I thought of a lot actually, full confession - for years I
had this limiting belief that I needed an INTJ partner.. What was interesting to
me about Rebecca's question is her wording made me think that she thought
it was maybe an unlikely pairing and actually in many circles INTJs and ENFPs
are considered a really, really good partnership and that was my belief for
the longest time - that an INTJ partner would be the perfect person for me to
grow a business with because of some of our complimentary skills. So why is this?
Why are INTJs and ENFPs considered so good together?
Well I won't get into all the jargon of how our functions work and can work
together but essentially as ENFPs we're very spontaneous, we love coming up with
new ideas, new concepts and INTJs tend to be really good at taking something we're
doing and creating more of a system around it. One of my good entrepreneur
friends who is an INTJ is all about the systems,
how can he build his back-end system and set everything up and that works really
well to compliment us ENFPs. Now INTJs are not taskmasters, they're not someone
I would consider necessarily a great virtual assistant or someone to help us
ENFPs stay organized and get everything done. They's someone who will complement
as well in more of a partnership setting and help take what we're thinking of,
take a new concept and together we can execute it a lot better and create more
of a system to get it done perhaps more efficiently and more effectively over
the long run. Now generally if an ENFP and INTJ meet at
the bar, let's say, there's not going to be sparks at first it's not gonna be one
of those relationships where you meet and you're just having witty banter back
and forth and you're just - oh my god, we're best friends forever right off the
bat. What I found with INTJs I've met is tends to be a bit more of a slow burn. It
tends to be a gradual relationship where you really grow and appreciate each
other at least from the ENFP perspective. We're meeting an INTJ
I don't initially have a great spark but over time I really learn to appreciate
them and find that it can be quite a deep relationship. I've also found at
least for myself there's usually been a fairly strong alignment in terms of
values and what's important to us and that generally we're driven by similar
things and not driven by some of the things that can tend to drive a lot of
other types which might be more around status or prestige, around significant
things like this. That may be more just me in the INTJs I've met, I'm not going
to make a blanket statement there, but that's been my own personal experience.
Another positive outcome I found with INTJ and ENFP relationship is more
brainstorming and coming up with new ideas.
Whenever I've spent a lot of time with an INTJ who's had similar interests as
me and we've kept talking about business, it tends to lead to some really positive
brainstorming, there's a bit of a dynamic where of course is ENFPs we talk a
little bit more, the INTJs might be better at organizing those thoughts and
coming back with their own idea and complement anything, but in general
that's really been my experience is together an INTJ and ENFP might be
two - three - four times as creative than say two ENFPs or two INTJs might be
together. On that note if you are an INTJ watching this do feel free to contact me
through my website or the comments below about possible partnerships or ways we
could work together! Who would I be to make this video about the great synergy
and not throw that out there? Now in the romantic side I can't really speak to
that too much one way or the other I think in general it is a compatible
match, INTJs and ENFPs, but when it comes to romance, it really depends more of
what you're looking for in a partner and a relationship. I think a lot of the
compatibility talk with personality type is about really a long-term functioning
partnership which may even resemble more of a business partnership than
necessarily where you're going to have the most sparks or the best romance or
the best sex for that matter, so that's really going to depend
what you're looking for but I would say overall an INTJ and an ENFP should have
no problem having a good romantic relationship assuming everything else is
aligned as well. Now what I don't want you to do is to make the mistake that I
made early on is get this limiting belief that a certain personality type
is what you need and that can be bad in many ways you could meet someone who's
amazing for you and they're not the personality type you think you need and
so maybe you shy away and don't give that person a chance. On the other side
you might meet someone who's not really compatible with you and not really the
type of person you should be with but you're an ENFP and they're an INTJ and
you're like: But Dan said in that video all right let's look over all their
faults yeah yeah they had Nazi propaganda flags in their bedroom but
like they said they got that from their uncle, that's not a big deal, right, I'm
gonna get flagged on YouTube for this - oh well, let's stick it out. So in conclusion
I think INTJs and ENFPs can be really
compatible and work really well together, especially in more of a
productive business capacity. I don't think you should ever limit yourself to
one or two types and just assume that anyone who isn't that type isn't going
to be a great fit with you and people who are that type will automatically be
a great fit for you because that's not necessarily true. Now I'm gonna do a
video soon on the types of people that are really aligned with ENFPs when it
comes to building a business team so if you are an ENFP entrepreneur and you're
thinking who are the two three four people I should hire to build a team
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