Welcome to hero TV. Today, I've got Chad
Hymas with me and we're going to be
talking about how to overcome challenges
in life.
How to overcome challenges in life? boy
what a topic. For me, I, I don't know that
I'm an expert on overcoming challenges
in life but I can share you or I can
share with you what has helped me to
overcome challenges of mine as it may
seem obvious to some of you and now
that's watching this video or to you in
particular, watching this video.
As you can see, my challenges are rather
visible to the eye. The fingers are
curled and the hands are bent and my
legs don't work. This wasn't always the
case. I mean, I look back and I think
about the perfect life and I don't know
one exists. But in my mind, as I look back,
when challenges didn't, didn't exist
I'm sure they did. But, I,just for some
reason I look back at the perfect life
and when the legs worked and things are
the way that I planned them. And then
when I had the accident and lost my legs,
and lost my hands, and lost 95% of my
body, I don't want to make this video
about me but I want to make it about the
principles that have taught me to
overcome challenges in life. And so,
here's the first thing that my father
said in the hospital when I woke up
from a coma and it's had a tremendous
impact on overcoming challenges in life,
and you don't have to be paralyzed
physically to apply the principles that
will help you overcome challenges that
you're going through right now. Here's
number one, my dad said, "son, what if you
could be more productive, and be more
happy, and be more successful, and have
greater influence on your children's
life and on your spouse's life than you
ever could have
when these challenges that exist". And my
response to him was, "I can't play ball
with my kids because I can't catch." You
know, I can't run with my kids and teach
them how to ride a bike along the side
of them as they're using training wheel,s
so that one's out, so I can't be a dad,
that one's done. I can't go fishing
because I can't put the worm on the hook
or the fly and go out on the Provo River
and fly fish. Can't swim if I fall down,
and can't even get out there and as far
as using a bobber, I'm not going to put
the worm on the hook to do that the hams
don't work and I'm not going to use my
mouth because I never like to watch some
fear factor anyway, so, so I'm not doing that
And so I,
kept saying these things and my dad's taught
me right my track he's talking, "stop!
stop right there! just stop! all those
sentences that you just said, every one
of them, you started with the word I
I, I, I, I, I"
he said,
this meeting
that we're having right now in the
hospital, this meeting is not about you
at all. And so, it is today with this
video to you. I want to thank you for
watching this YouTube video. I want to
thank you for watching this on whatever
link you're watching this on but I want
you to know that this video is not about
you and your challenges.
My dad said, "this meeting is not about
you son. If you want to overcome your
challenges take you out of it. start
using the words I, me, and my, less and
insert you, we, our,s and us." Here's what
happens, your focus becomes on other
people's successes, their needs, their
fears, and their challenges, more than
your own and that's how you overcome.
At least that's a piece of how you overcome
challenges. So I'll repeat that again.
Start using the words "I", "me" and "my" less
when you send out a text, when you talk
on the telephone to one of your loved
ones, when you write a birthday card, you
know, when you, when you, send out a
Valentine Valentines note. Whenever you
communicate with somebody just person to
person try and use the words I, me, and my,
less and less and less and insert you, we,
are, and us. Those four words you, we, are,
and us. Automatically, your focus, your
mindset, everything around you, your
spheres, your circumference, your light,
becomes less about you and more about
others needs, their own fears, their own
successes, their own victories, and your
challenges, become less and less
significant.
That is the first principle
in overcoming life's challenges.
It helped me to stop focusing on this. Now
here's the next principle that my dad
talked to me about as it pertains to
overcoming life's challenges. He said, I
would need to be willing to break
patterns. Change some habits is what he
was talking about. Now in my life, I don't
think I had any problem
patterns or habit to me certainly not any
bad ones. I wasn't doing drugs, I can tell
you that. I wasn't an alcoholic, I wasn't
smoking and for those of you that smoke
I'm not saying you're bad person I'm
just saying it might be a habit you
might want to kick. I was loyal to my
wife. I wasn't looking at bad stuff on
the Internet.
I mean in my mind, where my dad brought
that up I almost took offence because I
pretty dang close to being perfect.
I'm not saying that with an eagle, I'm
just saying that facetiously.
I, when he said that I needed to change
habits, I, to help overcome my
challenges, I told them, I don't! I'm not
doing anything wrong in my life. I mean
I'm, I'm, showing up to my kids basketball
games or a little soccer games. I'm, I'm,
out they're coaching them. I mean, I'm
home every night having dinner with my
wife. I'm doing the best that I can. He
said, you need to be willing to change
some habits and patterns about yourself
and overcome, overcome some of the
challenges you're going to face. And then
he mentioned my shoes. He said that my
shoes were a big problem. He said, you
might want to try wearing a different
pair of shoes. I said, what's wrong with
my shoes? he said, he'd been wearing
cowboy boots your whole life. I said, dad
that's because I live on a farm. I mean, I
live on a ranch. We raise up alpha. I mean,
I'm a cowboy, a rancher, that's what we
wear. We wear Wrangler jeans and cowboy
boots. He said, son it's not that those
are bad, it's just that they're bad for
you. Your body is 95 percent numb that's
a challenge and boots are inherently
narrow in nature. Son, if you wear narrow
boots against wide swollen feet filled
with water because your body is 95% numb,
you could be creating a bigger challenge
for yourself and that challenge is
called a pressure sore which is the
number one cause of death for people
that are in my circumstance. he said,
change your shoes why don't you buy a
size shoes that are a little bit big.
So, buy a size too big and teach yourself
how to put them on with your teeth. I
said, hold on dad! stop. Wait. Stop, stop, you
want me to buy a size shoe that's too
big and you want me to put them on with
my mouth? He said, now you're being
teachable. I said, no I'm not. That would
look stupid and it would feel awkward.
Listen, his response. Now I need you all
to hear this. He said, son if it were
convenient
how many paraplegic,
some quadriplegic, would be putting shoes
on with their teeth? I want you to ask
yourself that same question. But I want
to rephrase it differently. If overcoming
life's challenges were easy for
everybody,
how many be overcoming them? all of them.
We wouldn't have a need for prisons,
jails, for probation, we wouldn't have a
need for discipline we wouldn't have a
need for grounding, the kitty-corner we
wouldn't have a need for any kind of
probation handcuffs would be out
overcoming life's challenges would be
easy. Everybody be doing it. So I'm asking
you to break the pattern today. Change
immediately as with urgency. You can see
what kind of shoes I'm wearing today
they're not cowboy boots in fact look at
the color of these shoes look at them.
They're black and white. I don't, I don't
like that color. It's not my favorite.
I like leather boots. That's me. I like
alligator skin, that's just who I am. I
like, I like cowboy boots.
I don't even, you know, know that I'm
necessarily like the brand I'm not
saying adidas are bad, or Nikes. It's
just I like something that, that's more
Cowboy. That's me. you'll notice that the
shoes aren't tied up tight. It took me
two years to try it. Two weeks to master.
I want you to think about that for a
second. Two weeks to try it. Two weeks to
master. There is a problem with what I
just share with you. So yes, I have
different shoes on today. Tell me two
weeks to master how to putting them off my
teeth. Two weeks is all it took. But I
waited two years to kick the habit.
Overcoming challenges how long are you
going to wait to decide to take action
today? And that's the third principle and
overcoming challenges. I want you to act
with urgency. Because the longer you wait
to act the less likely you are to do it.
The longer I sit and wait to change a
habit of the clothes that I wear today
I'm not wearing Wrangler jeans, I'm
wearing pretty boy pants. Don't be
offended by that pretty boys out there. I
just, I like Wrangler jeans. But these are
slacks, but they slide on easier with no
hand. Takes me less time to get them on.
I'm wearing shirts and they're not
buttoned up and I can button them up with
my teeth. It'll take couple minutes. I
left them unbuttoned on purpose
just for this episode. So you can, I just change
that habit. So I just leave them unbuttoned and
sometimes I'll roll them up. How long are
you going to wait to change a habit? and
to decide for yourself to do that. So
just to recap. Get rid of the "I", remember
this, this, conversation we're having it's
not about you. changing, changing,
challenges and overcoming, and overcoming
life's challenges it's not about you.
It's about everybody else will benefit.
Gotta get rid of that.
Remember, this
meeting is not about you. Remember to
change those patterns as quickly as
possible
requires you to set goals and finally,
how long are you in a wait to do that?
Only you can decide that. And the sooner
you do it, the sooner you'll
experience overcoming challenges and
experience the joys and the happiness
and the successes that life has to offer
to each one of us. I'm not different than
each one of you in this room.
I'm no different. Let me rephrase that
word. I'm no different than each one of
you watching this video.
Thanks for watching hero TV today, and thanks so
much chad for sharing your experiences.
Sharing your stories with this. I
definitely found it helpful. And remember
to live on purpose, make a difference,
be the hero!
That's right!