Are you on the search? Are you still looking for your purpose in life? It's
probably a lot closer than you thought. Watch closely and let me just uncover
this for you.
Sooner or later, you're going to ask yourself this question. "What is my
purpose in this life?" That's just going to come up. You know, after all the different
things you can do in your life and watching other people and seeing what
this person's doing, seeing what this person's doing and seeing what this
person is doing. It looks like everybody knows their purpose in life except you.
But let me let me calm this down a little bit. We're all still searching for
the thing we're going to do. But let me just make it easy on you. There's a lot
of people wondering what their purpose in life is. But I'm going to help you out so
you can dial in on it sooner than later. Here's something I wish I would have
known. I wish I would have known that the purpose to life and purpose what my life
is really comes down to one thing. Contribution. What is it that I can
contribute to the human race? What can I contribute to my community?
What can I contribute to my family? My marriage? You know whatever organization
I'm part of, what is satisfying and can really help us feel like we actually
have value and have purpose is that we're contributing. Like we are doing
something that matters. But what does that look like, right? What does that look
like do be in a place of contribution? Here's a little secret I've learned
along the way. To serve other people. I know it sounds crazy. But it's so true,
isn't it? It's so true that really the purpose of life is to help others. Really
go help somebody. Teach somebody be with somebody. Gelp him solve the problem, help
him with the project. You notice that whenever you go do a service project, how
good you feel afterwards? That's the secret sauce right there. It's the secret
sauce of everything in life. To be able to have purpose. Means that we have
contributed and and helps somebody else out and where they're at
and that makes us feel awesome. Both let's like create a list here. So you
know that you probably are already fulfilling your purpose in life, you're
just not giving yourself credit for it. Now, let's... Let's create a list. So here we
have the first one it has to do with contribution. And lots of different ways
to contribute in serving others. It can be a service project, it can be a career
choice. It can be a activity that you do once a month,
once a week, once a day. But in any form when it comes to contribution, you are in
a place of service. And as you search for all the different ways that you can
serve others, you begin to find your own unique way to contribute. You know, your
own style of how you can contribute. But along the way, you don't have to be
wondering or wandering if you're fulfilling your purpose in life. If
you're serving people, you are living a purpose-driven life. You really are. Now
for me, what happened to me was is what I decided... And I... Well first, I figured out
that it's about serving other people. I then had to start thinking, "What way
could I serve others? How could I be of a benefit to other people?" And the job that
I had at the time. I was the warehouseman. Sweeping floors in warehouse. Putting
boxes away. And I didn't feel like I was living my life's purpose. Sweeping floors
and putting boxes away. I just didn't quite feel like that was my whole
purpose of life, right? But as I started to search like you're searching. Figuring
out what your purpose in life is. I also helped the contractors who would back up
to the dock of the warehouse. I would help them load the supplies onto their
truck. And I realized that while I was in my job,
doing my job. I wasn't really thinking about the
people that I was connecting with or being around. And I made a decision back
then that as I would go help the contractors load the supplies up in
their truck, that I would be intentional to influence that contractor to have a
better day. And I only get like 10-15 minute, you know, to help that particular
person load all those supplies onto their truck. But I could just be the guy
at work and who just loads up stuff and "Okay, have a good day."
And it's over. But what if I was more intentional? What if my purpose in life
was to literally really make these people's lives better? And I'm not only
going to do the work but I'm going to contribute to the moment. So, I remember
the day it happened. I went to work and I was like today it's going to be different.
Like this sense this is my job. I can still live my purpose. And that's to help
people's lives be better. So, the first contractor that pulled up to get his
supplies I greeted the contractor in a totally different way. Just all excited
and happy and looked him in the eye, engaged in a conversation with the
contractor before I took off to go grab the materials. I moved faster, I helped
the person load the supplies. I talked to him about his business, about what he was
doing and I gave some encouragement. You know and gave some some hope for the day.
And then I said goodbye and the contractor drove away. I felt like I was
on purpose. Part of finding your purpose in life is being in a purpose way like
what you do has purpose. I really believe finding your purpose in life is really a
mindset because I could still do the exact same job but not engage with the
person and just kind of do the work and get my paycheck and move on
and that was it. But I changed. I changed. Like my purpose in life is to make
people's lives better. I'm going to contribute something here. Same job, same
thing, same supply, same everything. But it's the way that I'm going to approach it.
I really believe as we go to search for our purpose in life, we can actually make
it way too mysterious, way too ambiguous, way too out there like a some hidden
thing that we're supposed to find. When actually it's the way that we're acting.
It's the way that we're engaged this our intention of how we're interacting with
people right now. Right now, we can live a life of purpose. You don't have to wait
until you find your own unique way to do it. Just everything you do is on purpose.
And the purpose is to cause people's lives to be awesome. And you can cause
that today. Not next week or next year. I'd hear way too many people who are
kind of wandering through life and they're looking for their purpose in
life. And it's like, "Oh, my goodness. There's people right in front of you." We
make this way too hard. Way too hard. The other place when you have contribution,
the next one is how we act and behave on the different teams that we're on? A family
is a team. A marriage is a team. At work, it is a team. Your neighborhood is a
team of people. And the way in which we interact with teams can cause us to feel
like we have purpose or we can actually feel like we don't have purpose. If we
are on a team and we are not engaging in the team activities of whatever's going
on, if we're not engaging in the team activities then we kind of pulled back,
we kind of stand to the side. We let everybody else do the work and we're
kind of just there because we're trying to find our purpose in life. You know,
it's like we're just kind of there, we miss another great opportunity to have
purpose. A team functions best when every single person gives their
best. And if I... If I'm part of a family or part of a marriage and I'm not thinking,
"I'm going to give my best today." Well then I'm living below my purpose.
I'm not giving my part, doing my part. So, you literally, if you're
married or if you are part of a family or you're part of a group of people who
work together a neighborhood or whatever organization is and you're part of a
group of people, you can discover your purpose of life right there. Right there
in the moment by how you're engaging with people. You're working together as a
team. And you are contributing to the experience. I mean I totally missed this
1, 2 years ago. I was one of those people wandering around and trying to
form a plan my purpose in life. And I was part of all these different little teams.
I had my family, my marriage, my neighborhood, my church group, my work
group and all these things. And I wasn't fully engaged. I wasn't there. I didn't
see myself of having a purpose on the team. I didn't see it. I just was there to
just do my part and if somebody asked me to do something, then I would go do the
thing that they asked me to do. But I didn't jump in. I didn't jump in and be
part of the whole entire team. But if you're looking for your purpose in life,
you may be missing out on that experience with the teams that you're on.
There's all kinds of teams that you're on. And how do you do this again? What you
do is you're part of the team and you have a voice. You have an opinion. You
have suggestions. You have vision along with everybody else. But you get
involved with what's happening. You will feel like you have purpose. And until you
find your own unique way. That... If that's what you're searching for. You can
have a huge purpose being on teams. And you can have a huge purpose contributing
and serving others. A third part about, you know, being in a life of purpose
is that your quest... And here's a suggestion for you. A quest to make
things better. Put the little quotation marks around that about making things
better. To feel like you matter, what you do is you look for areas in life that
need a little bit of a touch up. A little bit more order. A little bit of some
fixing or adjusting or how could something you've seen like me be made
just a little bit better? Better taken care of,
better watched over, things organized or systemized. Any little thing that you can
make better. Meaning simpler. You just found another purpose for you.
Because every person. I'm not kidding. Every person that I have ever met so far.
Every person I've met has something their life they wish was just a little
bit better. And they all have their different areas of life that they wish
that were better but they have something that they wish was better. And if you are
a person who loves to take what is and make it a little bit better, Wow. You are
going to feel like you have purpose. Because that's valuable to every single person
you meet. Every person you meet wishes at the end with this one thing in their
life that was a little bit better. And if you were in the attitude and the mode of
making things better, you are going to feel deeply inside
like you have a purpose. What if it's your house? What if your house is just
kind of messy and... You know, there's kind of things your house that just could be
put together but you're like, "Oh, I can do that later." Well, actually you can jump in.
Jump in. Organize that thing. Put it in better shape. You know? Fix it. Something's
broken? Fix it. And when you fix it or make it better, what you do is you
acknowledge in the moment, "Wow, this really mattered." If we as the people, the
individual. If we don't give credit to what we're doing, we're not going to feel
like we have purpose. If we don't wanted on a team, we don't
apply ourselves, we're not going to feel like we have purpose. And if we don't
notice how we can contribute just us being who we are, if we don't notice that,
we're not going to feel like we have a purpose. So, searching for your purpose of
life is not far away. It actually is right in front of you. But
we kind of mask it and cover it up because we think it has to look like
this person's life or this person's life. And what can literally destroy your
ability to find your purpose in life is to compare. Comparison. You lose or they
lose. Your you're putting them above you and you lose. Or you put you above them
and they lose. Comparison in that form that unhealthy form just doesn't work.
When I found my purpose in life through contribution, engaging on whatever team
I'm on. And also looking for ways to make things better, I found that my life has
purpose. And because I noticed how I contribute and I noticed my involvement
on with teamwork. And I looked for ways to make things better. Because I engaged
at these three particular things that brought up to you so far. When I... When I
started engaging in these activities and noticing my involvement and
acknowledging my my purpose and how much I matter, it opened up my mind to
see how else I can serve. What else could I do to make a difference? It doesn't
have to be some gigantic thing. And I think that's where some people get a
little messed up because I got messed up on this too. And you may probably are
getting messed up on this too. It's if we think it has to be this gigantic thing.
Well then, all the little things we do are going to be discredited, stepped over,
unnoticed. Not are you going to see it. And here, you're just living this purpose...
Purposeful life and all these different areas but you can't see it. Because
you're over here with the pie-in-the-sky thing. You're not going to see it. Now, you're
going to wonder, "What's my purpose in life?" And you've already been living it. But
because you're not acknowledging it, you miss it. So, when I started doing this, I
started noticing all the different places that I matter. Like what I do
matters. My mind opened up to other things they could do. I had an individual,
you know, tell me one day they said, "Oh, Kirk, you have found your purpose in life
and because you've found your purpose in life, you're so much better than where
I'm at." I said, "I found my purpose in life? How come you can think that of me? What..?
Why do you think I've found my purpose in life?" "Oh, because you're teaching and
making YouTube videos and coaching and mentoring people and... And you just you
just found your purpose in life." But it's like, "No, I didn't find my purpose. I've
been living my purpose all along." I haven't noticed when I contribute. I
notice how to participate on teams. And I've also noticed in how I can make
things better. Because I noticed the small things, it just opened me up to
other things. But if you don't notice the small things, you're not going to even
notice the other opportunities that open up to you. So, here's some wisdom. Chew on
this for a while. Here's some wisdom. Notice where you
contribute, engage more in the teams that you're in. Find something to make better.
just find something and then acknowledge it. Acknowledge all 3 all those areas
in your life and you're going to notice that you feel like you matter. You're
going to feel like you have purpose and you're not in such of a, you know, an
anxious search for your purpose. No, you're already are living your purpose.
Now you're just going to be a little bit more fine-tuned. And when you can live
your purpose in the small things of life, then
the doors open up for other opportunities. But live and find the
small things. It's actually what matters the most because every child, every adult,
every person that you influence their lives for a little bit something a
little bit better, that is a life on purpose. Hey, if you
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