Hi guys… in this video, I’m going to talk to you about some of the massive mistakes
people make after they have finished the “no contact” period.
My name is Brad Browning, I’m a relationship expert and breakup coach from Vancouver, Canada.
You may recognize me from some of of other YouTube videos, or have heard about my best
selling The Ex Factor Guide program that teaches those like yourself how to rebuild their relationships
and get their ex back.
Learn more about my program at BreakupBrad.com.
So let’s get right into it.
By now, I’m sure you’ve heard about the “no contact” strategy to win your ex back.
It’s something I talk a lot about in The Ex Factor Guide because it’s such an effective
technique.
Generally speaking, the no contact phase lasts 30 days, but to some extent it does depend
on your unique situation.
During this time, it’s crucial that you have no communication with your ex whatsoever.
This means no drunk texting your ex, no liking their status updates on Facebook, and no phone
calls whatsoever.
Many people think they have a good reason to talk to their ex during the no contact
period, but the reality is that you should avoid contacting them at all costs during
this time.
If your ex is like most people, after a period of time without you in their life they’ll
quickly start to miss you.
The negative memories that caused your breakup in the first place will fade away and be replaced
by the more positive aspects of the past relationship.
Once these feelings have peaked, your ex will be much more likely to respond to your attempts
to rebuild a new relationship together.
The time apart from your ex during the no contact period will allow you both to heal,
cool-down, and get level headed.
It will create a void for your ex to miss you, make them wonder what you’re up to
and how you’re doing.
At the same time it works as damage control, leaving no room for arguments, disrespect
or bad attitudes towards one another.
You will both have your space to get organized, fix your bad habits and allow you time create
a plan of action to get your ex back.
What you say and how you say it after your no contact period ends is crucial.
For example, if you’re trying to win your ex back and you unintentionally imply that
you want to get back together for your sake, then it’s not going to happen.
This is why it’s so important to work on bettering yourself during the no contact period.
You need to find happiness and confidence in yourself before reaching out to your ex
again.
No matter how much you feel like you need them, you need to portray that while it’d
be nice to get back together, you can in fact live without them.
Under absolutely no circumstances should you ever beg or plead your ex to take you back.
Even if you did convince them, it wouldn’t last between you because you need to build
a natural, organic attraction in order to have a lasting relationship.
Do not tell your ex that you love them, or miss them.
Even if it’s true, you should not share these feelings with them at this time.
The first time you reach out to them it’s important that you take it slow and get a
feel for things.
Don’t jump the gun and try to get back together the first chance you get to speak with them.
Instead, test the waters and get a feel for where they stand, and start using some techniques
that will begin to re-build mutual attraction between you and your ex.
To learn more about some of these sneaky attraction-building techniques, watch the free video presentation
on my website, BreakupBrad.com… in it I explain how you can say and do some simple
things that will spark your ex’s curiosity and help re-shape their mental image of you.
A huge mistake that people often make after the no contact period is talking with their
ex about the break up.
Under no circumstances should you do this.
Instead keep the conversation pleasant and light.
What you say and do will depend on the signals you get back.
For example, if you’re friendly and bubbly, your ex is likely to respond in similar way.
But, if you act hostile and brash, you can expect to see a reflection of yourself from
your ex.
If your end plan is to win your ex back then it’s so important to keep your interactions
positive.
Think of it like you’re on on a first date, you want to have fun together and remind your
ex why they fell in love with you in the first place.
Show them that they don’t need to have their guard up around you, and work towards building
a solid foundation between the two of you.
The more positive encounters you have, the more your ex will open up to you, and eventually,
you will be ready and able to discuss your past relationship.
The goal is to show your ex that you do have a connection and that you’re not the same
person they broke up with.
Reconnecting with your ex after the no contact period can be tricky, and it’s important
to not fall into ito the “friends” category if you want to get back together with them.
This may sound like a good place to start, but chances are that it’ll end up messy.
This is a zone you don’t want to get stuck in, and you especially don’t want to become
your ex’s emotional dumping zone.
If you’d like to know if you have a shot winning your ex back before you decide to
reach out to them, then check my free quiz, designed specifically to help you determine
whether or not it will be possible for you to get them back.
To take the quiz and evaluate your own chances, visit www.BreakupBrad.com/quiz.
I hope that you learned something new and are now confident about what you should and
shouldn’t do when reconnecting with your ex.
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Thanks for watching, and until next time, take care!