You Won't Believe This (The Most Dangerous Thing in The World)
I want you to watch this clip I'm about to show you,
and while you're watching it, I want you to think about,
how it makes you feel.
What are your thoughts that arise when you're watching this man speak?
What's your overall perception?
After you hear him speak, pause the video for a moment,
just to reflect back on what your actual perceptions are.
When you're done watching this clip,
I want you to pause this video for a moment,
and really reflect on what your total perception of this man actually is.
And then you can resume this tape.
He: Hey everyone
Dr. J here, your success coach,
and I'm here to share with you three keys for success.
Three habits for success.
And before I do that, let me just share with you a little bit my background.
Because I had a very unconventional childhood, to say the least.
So, when my mother was pregnant with me my father went missing.
Two weeks before I was born he was found dead.
He was brutally murdered.
So my mother was left by herself,
a single mom taking care of three children.
As you can imagine, I had to find ways to take care of myself.
I had to learn to fend for myself in all sorts of different ways.
So, basically, you know, I had two options really,
and I think this goes for everyone in this kind of situation,
you can either fall apart or roll up your sleeves and get things done.
So that's what I did.
And I remember in elementary school,
the first time I bought myself a planner,
It wasn't just buying a planner and an agenda,
it was something that I knew I needed to structure and order in my life,
so it was something I was doing to take care of myself.
And slowly, you know, it started off that way,
but by the time I was in highschool, my peers were looking up to me,
you know, and I was starting to take care of them.
Now, as a personal success coach,
I'm helping people get through their frustrations
and achieve the goals they desire.
So, let me share with you these three keys.
And these are really actually habits.
Because, you know, as most successful people would tell you
the prosperity is due to cultivating really good habits.
So, these three keys, for you,
number one, honesty.
Tell the truth. It's not easy.
There's so many temptations, so much, our society is made in a way
that there's always an opportunity to lie.
But tell the truth.
And it's amazing what you'll start to see happening in your life.
Number two, industry.
That might sound a little interesting but, what it means is,
you need to find proper work to do.
No matter who you are, no matter how, no matter what your age is,
everyone must find proper work to do.
When we're left idle, just do nothing,
that leads to ruin.
So, industry is very important.
And finally number three, my favorite is: Enthusiasm.
So, enthusiasm is critical, this is the most important key of success.
Enthusiasm means having the energy of the Gods.
There's nothing you can accomplish without enthusiasm.
And in fact, I would go so far as to say
that there's nothing that you do without enthusiasm
that's really going to lead to real success.
So, that's it folks.
Honest, Industry, and Enthusiasm remember that.
And I wish you all the success in the world.
T: This man you've just seen, posted this video online,
just before he broke into the apartment belonging to his girlfriend at the time,
and beating her to death and then shooting her in the head.
Now, knowing that,
I want you to rewatch this video,
and watch what he's saying again.
Now, what is your actual feeling relative to this person?
Now, what's your perception of him?
Feel free to do this and then pause the video,
making sure you take enough time, seeing it through this new lense.
Then you can resume this video.
He: Hey everyone
Dr. J here, your success coach,
and I'm here to share with you three keys for success.
Three habits for success.
And before I do that, let me just share with you a little bit my background.
Because I had a very unconventional childhood, to say the least.
So, when my mother was pregnant with me my father went missing.
Two weeks before I was born he was found dead.
He was brutally murdered.
So my mother was left by herself,
a single mom taking care of three children.
As you can imagine, I had to find ways to take care of myself.
I had to learn to fend for myself in all sorts of different ways.
So, basically, you know, I had two options really,
and I think this goes for everyone in this kind of situation,
you can either fall apart or roll up your sleeves and get things done.
So that's what I did.
And I remember in elementary school,
the first time I bought myself a planner,
It wasn't just buying a planner and an agenda,
it was something that I knew I needed to structure and order in my life,
so it was something I was doing to take care of myself.
And slowly, you know, it started off that way,
but by the time I was in highschool, my peers were looking up to me,
you know, and I was starting to take care of them.
Now, as a personal success coach,
I'm helping people get through their frustrations
and achieve the goals they desire.
So, let me share with you these three keys.
And these are really actually habits.
Because, you know, as most successful people would tell you
the prosperity is due to cultivating really good habits.
So, these three keys, for you,
number one, honesty.
Tell the truth. It's not easy.
There's so many temptations, so much, our society is made in a way
that there's always an opportunity to lie.
But tell the truth.
And it's amazing what you'll start to see happening in your life.
Number two, industry.
That might sound a little interesting but, what it means is,
you need to find proper work to do.
No matter who you are, no matter how, no matter what your age is,
everyone must find proper work to do.
When we're left idle, just do nothing,
that leads to ruin.
So, industry is very important.
And finally number three, my favorite is:
Enthusiasm.
So, enthusiasm is critical, this is the most important key of success.
Enthusiasm means having the energy of the Gods.
There's nothing you can accomplish without enthusiasm.
And in fact, I would go so far as to say
that there's nothing that you do without enthusiasm
that's really going to lead to real success.
So, that's it folks.
Honest, Industry, and Enthusiasm remember that.
And I wish you all the success in the world.
T: Guess what? I just fooled you.
This is a man who I know personally, actually.
And he was nice enough to give me this little video,
so that I could conduct a little bit of a social experiment.
This being the experiment.
Look at what I just did.
What I just did was to give you a filter.
A filter through which to see an experience.
A filter that happened to not be true at all.
But it didn't matter did it?
Me giving you that filter completely changed the way you saw someone.
I was able to give you a filter which made you see this man
through the lense of a murderer.
When it's just somebody that I got to do that video.
Just for fun, say something inspirational.
This is a normal guy.
A normal person. He's not a murderer at all.
I was able to completely change the way you saw something.
By telling you how you should see it.
I want this experience to haunt you.
I want it to haunt you for the rest of your life.
Because this is the way you're gonna stay safe from filters.
Is by realizing, that they're absolutely everywhere.
All of us have a perspective.
And those perspectives are totally limited because they're subjective.
Not objective.
An object will look different
depending on what perspective you have of that object.
each perspective is a different angle on something.
Our perspective shapes our experiences,
and our experiences shape our perspective.
We could look at objective perspective as the amalgamation
of all subjective perspectives relative to something.
I can tell you that the perspective that a cow has of a slaughterhouse
is gonna be completely different
to the perspective that knocker has of a slaughterhouse.
A child is gonna have a completely different perspective
than a parent in a household.
You're gonna have a different perspective
of that car crash than another person did.
When a medical crisis is going on,
a doctor is gonna have a totally different perspective
than the patient will.
And both of them will have a totally different perspective
than the inssurance company that is inssuring that hospital.
You can imagine our subjective perspectives like looking through
the limited scope of a single telescope.
And as if that's not limiting enough,
you are also viewing the world
through a telescope that has filters on it.
Obviously a filter is gonna distort the reality
of whatever we're looking at.
But here's the crap part;
We can recognize other people's limited perspective
and we can also recognize the filters
that other people have on their limited perspective.
But we have a much more difficult time recognizing our own.
A filter is literally anything that shapes or distorts
our perception of something, so that it obscures the reality of that thing.
They can be thoughts passed down to us.
Information we are fed,
beliefs we are conditioned to adopt, experiences we have,
and meaning that we assign to the experiences.
Just to name a few.
We begin adopting filters for our telescopes even before we're born.
Not only do they distort our capacity to see things clearly,
for what is real, they can also ruin our life.
I will give you some straightforward examples.
But I'm also going to warn you that, like always,
I'm not going to be politically accurate.
Let's say, that we can all accept that a child is not born a bigot.
So let's say that a child is born into a family,
where that family propagates the belief
that black people are dangerous and a lesser life form.
This family may also have stories to justify the belief.
This belief may make them behave in ways towards black people
that make black people go into a state of defense
and thus seem dangerous.
This child has received a filter through which to experience black people.
That filter is, less than, and dangerous.
This child cannot see black people for the reality of black people,
he or she will only see them through this filter.
Until the person questions this filter, and is able to remove it,
all of the words a black person says,
and actions a black person takes,
will be distorted through this filter.
Here's another scenario,
Let's imagine that at 3 years old some little girl gets attacked by a dog.
Obviously this experience is going to create a filter for her.
The filter is, dogs attack you.
Now, those of us who know dogs will tell you that this is ridiculous.
It's ridiculous because A. it's completely avoidable,
based off of somebody doing the right thing with their dog,
and B. it's not an accurate representation of dogs in general.
We don't have that filter because we have
all kinds of other experiences with our dogs.
things like, throwing frisbees for them,
cuddling with them on the couch,
them being the most unconditional,
10 times more unconditional than a human,
But this filter through which this person sees dogs
will shape their entire life relative to dogs.
They will see dogs in a totally inaccurate way.
Now, let's imagine another little girl,
she's walking through the world,
what she sees all around her, TV, media...
is images of women who are size 2.
Who all look a certain way.
It's a specific type of beauty.
Now, maybe what this little girl creates is meaning
that meaning that she creates acts as a filter.
And the meaning is: Unless she looks like that,
she doesn't have any value and is in fact ugly.
Because of this she may develop an eating disorder
or spend all her money on cosmetics and plastic surgery
in order to look like those women.
For more information about this you can watch my video titled:
Meaning, The Self Destruct Button.
Let's look at a positive filter.
Because those exist and they distort reality as well.
Let's imagine that a child grows up with a totally supportive mother,
now she is going to have a filter over the world
because we all have a filter that looks like this:
'The universe is a projection of my relationship with my parents'
Because that relationship was awesome and was supportive,
she's gonna walk through the world with rosy colored sunglasses
believing everyone and everything is there to support me.
This person may not notice people
who are not around her with her best interests in mind,
because of this filter through which she sees the world.
Some of these filters are beneficial, some of them are detrimental
but regardless of whether they are beneficial or detrimental
the thing to be aware of is, that they are not necessarily accurate.
They may just be totally distorting your capacity to see what is real.
Filters are absolutely everywhere.
Companies create these filters in order to sell their product.
Welcome to marketing.
Politicians create this, in order to influence your vote.
Most political filters are aimed at altering your perspective of the future.
They sell you a filter of potential
through which to see them and their 'would be' vision.
They also give you a negative filter through which to see the future
if their opponent wins.
Our justice system is absolutely made of filters.
In fact, that's pretty much what it's about.
One could say that the judicial process
is nothing more than a process of filters.
Much more so than evidence.
Which is why, one reason why,
our judicial system seems so unjust.
A lawyer's job is to get the jury and the judge to adopt a filter
that changes their perspective
in favor of whatever perspective benefits the lawyer.
Evidence is a tool that is used to enhance the chance
that they will adopt this filter.
And a truly incredible lawyer
is often able to get the judge and jury to adopt a filter
regardless of the evidence that undermines that filter.
When we say: "Everyone deserves a fair trial."
What we're really saying is:
"Everyone deserves for someone to fight for the judge
and beyond that if need be the jury, to adopt a filter that benefit them."
The stories that make up the midia, are FULL of filters.
In truth some stories are literally nothing more than that.
But this right here is what makes it so dangerous
that companies and the media are so heavily embedded
especially financially, with one another.
All a company needs to do in order to sell their product,
is to pay for a news story to be written, which highlights,
why that product is so necessary for people to have.
Or what the consequences are for not having that product.
For example, all you have to do
to get people to run out and get a flu shot,
is to pay for a bunch of news stories
about how dangerous the flu is this year,
and how if you care about people you love,
and you don't want people to die,
You'd better run out and get one.
Tabloids, they shape how you see people.
That's what they're designed to do.
Each piece gives us a filter through which to see them.
If a tabloid writes an article about Angelina cheating on Brad
it doesn't matter whether it's true or not,
it doesn't matter whether you know her or not,
it's going to affect how you perceive her as a person.
You will see her, from that day forward, through a filter.
Unless some other piece of information comes
and causes you to remove that filter.
Or change that filter to another one.
Every filter that we adopt will change the way that we see the world.
And it will change the way that we see ourselves.
Every filter will shape our life experience.
The things we think, and say, and do.
There is nothing in this world more dangerous
than a subjective perspective that is mistaken for objective perspective.
There is nothing more dangerous than a filter
that distorts our capacity to see what is real.
Have a good week.
Subtitles by: Tanya Duarte www.tanyaduarte.com