Renee: If you are tired I've always been called the shy guy or the nice guy
because nice guys finish last then stick with me because I'm going to give you
ten simple ways that you can bring out your inner alpha male and approach women
and dating with more confidence than you've ever had before
Irina's ask you for the attractive man and it's my job as your dating and
relationship coach to help bring out the best in you
so that you don't fall behind or miss out on all the good girls let's face it
some men are born natural alphas where others need to learn to become one I
believe that in every single man out there there is a leader waiting to
surface and if you've been labeled a nice guy or a shy guy then you know what
you're actually in luck because whilst women want to date a confident leader
they also want to date a guy that has a good heart
so let's not waste any more time and jump into those ten tips straight away
number 10 practice the approach an alpha male is typically a male who knows how
to come across as confident especially when he's approaching women now if you
have absolutely no idea on how to approach women then watch your other
video could how to approach women by our scale coaches the length that is going
to be in the description below and that is part one of your homework but
essentially a good way to build confidence in this area of your life
with approaching women is through preparation and practice and here's why
most the time we don't have confidence about something because we have a lack
of certainty around who we are what our value is or what we should even do in
that situation this is where preparation is key preparation is essentially
learning what you need to do was also affirming who you are and where you're
currently at this will start to rewire your brain to believe that you have what
it takes in at that moment plus if you're educated on knowing how to talk
to women what you should say to women how to escalate a conversation then
you're going to have a little bit more certainty when you actually do have to
approach a woman the next step is simply putting all of that into practice as the
those practice makes perfect now approaching a woman with alpha male
qualities is about coming across as confident but also making her feel safe
at the same time and one of the simplest ways that you can do this is smile and
make eye contact with her see what her response is and then actually move
forward if you get halfway and then start second-guessing yourself and kind
of falter and then change directions then you have put yourself in the shy
guy box straight away so to avoid this indecision or this lack of confidence
assess the situation first her response will always be the biggest indication of
what you should do next now if you want to know my next 9 tips that are going to
help bring out the alpha male within you then I need you to click the subscribe
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number 9 look sharp a big part of why women are actually drawn to alpha male
is because they know how to put themselves together this includes style
and also how they hold themselves a man who is able to dress really well and
when I say well I don't necessarily mean expensive but he knows how to present
himself in a way that he looks classy that he looks confident and maybe even a
little bit more authority that is a man that is going to turn heads if you a
sloppy with your appearance then chances are women are going to think that you're
sloppy in other areas of your life or that you're just not willing to put
effort in or maybe you don't have any sort of self-respect so guys get to know
how to dress and style yourself I can guarantee you if you were to put two men
of equal status and looks in a room and one was dressed kind of really sloppy or
dorky and the other one was just dressed you know maybe even smart casual with a
nice jumper impaired and belt chances are the women are going to be
more drawn to the man than has actually taken more care with his appearance and
if you were struggling with this area of your life don't necessarily feel that
you have to go out and hire a stylist allocate some time and maybe a budget to
it maybe go and revamp your wardrobe but get some ideas from men's style and
accounts on Instagram or GQ magazine or even Pinterest and what I will also do
is I will put in the description below to some of our other styling videos from
our coaches here at the attractive men
another h workout okay so this has two benefits the first is working out will
essentially help enhance your physical appearance and it will also boost your
endorphins and make you feel better about yourself the second thing is is it
will boost the levels of testosterone in your body which is what typically alpha
males have more off and the truth is have you ever met an alpha male that
didn't do some sort of physical activity regularly now you don't have to go out
there and start competing in a bodybuilding competition if you can just
start off doing some sort of exercise or physical activity three to four times a
week consistently then this will start to really boost all those chemicals in
your body which will make you feel more confident in this area plus you'll start
to see the results over time which once again will really help you feel that
you're starting to achieve those goals as an alpha male number seven take her
hand and lead from the front this is actually a really kind of simple way to
come across as an alpha male on a date even if you don't feel that you are
typically what an alpha male should look like is simply take a woman's hand and
lead her now whether you're taking her hand to lead her upstairs Downstairs or
through a crowded room what this does is it shows that you're in control and
you're there to guide her and keep her safe do not allow us to lead even if you
are dating someone that is a strong independent woman at the end of the day
she will always want you to be the leader on the date and a little tip here
don't just wait for people to move aside especially if you're in a really sort of
crowded space like at a concert or maybe a bar grab her hand firmly so that she
feels secure and then push through the crowd checking back every time to make
sure that she feels okay you know what this is actually such a sexy thing that
you can do as a guy because it makes us feel a little bit like a damsel and that
you are our hero number six create some chase if you're two available then what
is going to happen is is that she's going to put you either in the friend
zone or in there he's nice but he's boring sort of box and I know that's
hard to hear but you ever noticed when you are too nice
or too available that women tend to take you for granted
don't play games and don't lead her on just find that balance between giving
her enough so that she wants more but not giving her too much so that she gets
bored number five initiate the intimacy if you
take charge when it comes to initiating affection kissing or even sex then what
that does is it allows you to really step into your alpha masculinity now
don't confuse initiating with forcing her this is about yes leading the
intimacy but it's not about making her feel that she's being taken advantage of
the last thing that you want to do is come across aggressive or feel that
you're trying to prove something now a perfect example of this is kissing her
when you go to kiss her start off gently and slowly and then maybe bite her lip
towards the end this is a much nicer way to kind of lead into taking control
rather than just shoving your tongue down her throat another thing you can
actually do by showing that you're a man who is able to step up in this masculine
area and really kind of take control through the intimacy is grab her by the
chin and actually tip her head back and then start to go in and kiss her as
opposed to grabbing her by her hair or the back of her neck
number four learn to command attention an alpha male is a man whose presence
commands attention now whether he's walking into a room full of males or
females you'll find that typically alpha males or leaders are people whose mere
presence inside of them make everyone look towards them now it's not because
they're bellowing or they're trying to allow their ego to fill the room or
they're basically being overly extroverted it's simply that they hold
themselves in such a way and they exude an energy that makes other people take
notice and that energy is usually around an authority of sort of fear so I'm
going to teach you how you can actually do that how you can walk into a room and
command attention the first thing you want to do is when you walk into a room
you want to push your shoulders back and hold your head up a little bit high and
pause you are not in a rush assess the room before you and look slightly above
everybody's heads or skim over they're not necessary
making eye contact with anyone in particular you want to have a sense of
not only Authority but also not chance like you know that you're there and that
you have purpose there but that you don't have to prove it to anybody and
you don't have to be there if you don't want to be then what I want you to do is
I want you to choose one point within that room whether it's your friend at
the bar whether it's the toilet whether it's your desk at work and I
want you to make eye contact with that point and walk directly towards it not
looking anywhere else and not faltering I want you to walk there with confidence
no matter where it is at that point is another few simple ways that you can
command attention when you're meeting people is to make direct eye contact
with them when you're talking to shake their hand firmly and also to lower your
voice a little bit more as well now I don't want you guys to do is your third
part of your homework is I actually want you to practice this in different
environments and with different people so that you can start to feel at ease
with doing this number three make plans a man with a plan is a man that knows
where he's going and how to get there he's a man that has Direction intention
and purpose behind everything that he is doing including his dates this is what
alpha males do they plan everything they need to do before they actually pick the
girl up come across as indecisive or wishy-washy when you're on a date with
us is going to make us feel that you don't really know what to do that you're
not in control and that you don't know how to lead us so call the restaurant
before you actually go there instead of just turning up and hoping that they
have a table maybe organize a bottle of champagne to already be there so that
she can see that you're someone who's able to plan ahead
this isn't about coming across as controlling because you still want to
have some level of flexibility to accommodate what it is that she wants
knees or how she reacts on the date but at the same time if you can put some
effort into the details you're really going to come across as an
alpha male with class number two hang around to other alpha males they say
that you become who you hang around and that's why it is so important that if
you want to really start to embody these alpha male qualities because you
understand that it's going to bring you more joy happiness success you
your love life or just life in general then it's time to start putting yourself
in an environment where that can grow and develop within you hanging around
alpha males will help produce a little bit of healthy competition making you
want to step up your game more and maybe push you to a new direction that you
thought was never possible now if you're not sure where to go to find other alpha
males to hang around then a couple of things that I would suggest is look at
what typical alpha male qualities actually have and that is competition
that is leadership and that is also self-development
so some of those sort of areas where these alpha males might be because they
have those qualities would be sporting complexes or the gym or maybe business
seminars or personal development events and workshops or even online groups of
entrepreneurs do your research on where you think these men would be then join a
couple of those groups or simply hang out at those venues and number one stop
apologizing for who you are and letting people walk all over you one of the key
qualities that a true alpha male has is he has a deep sense of certainty about
who he is and what his purpose is in this life and that means that he's
actually comfortable with saying no to people and not giving a damn about what
it is that they think one of my favorite quotes actually came from a female Lisa
Nichols and she actually said life changed for her when she learned to stop
asking for permission and instead gave notice so what I want you to do is I
want you to start giving notice on some people or some dreams that you have and
to start stepping into that authority that you have deep within you alpha
males are people pleasers they're not bothered by other people's opinions
because they're not trying to fit in they're trying to stand out and they're
the sort of men who aren't afraid to sit alone at the table if it means that
they're going to be surrounded by less people who actually value them for who
they are and what they bring so what I want you to do is I want you to increase
the word know in your vocabulary by saying no to people or circumstances
that don't actually serve you now if all of the above was a really good starting
point for you you still kind of lack some confidence then what I want you to
do is download our free confidence cheat sheet it contains scientifically proven
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in your masculine energy approaching women knowing how to lead her on a date
and so many other things that you just won't even think of until you actually
read what we have in our confidence cheat sheet don't forget your homework
for this week which is learning how to approach other women by watching our
video as well as doing maybe some research on styling tips with Instagram
and Pinterest or watching one of our other styling videos all the links for
those videos are in the description below and remember being in the alpha
male with a good heart and great intentions is what is going to change
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until next time bye for now