i female33 live in a rental apartment with my unemployed husband 30 of two years i work retail
jobs fancy i know and i can barely afford rent and bills mom passed away two months ago all i
inherited from her dad and his new wife took everything was a gold bracelet i keep this
bracelet in my closet that no one and i mean no one comes near except for my husband and me
days ago it went missing it just disappeared out of the blue i looked for it i cried i gave up
looking and moved on the other day i came home and found out that my husband had bought a new
gaming console i wasn't expecting that i asked where he got the money and he said he borrowed
it from a friend but as far as i know he only has two friends and both of them won't lend him a dime
since he never pays them back when i reminded him of that he just gave me a look and asked if
i was hinting that he took my bracelet pawned it then bought the console i shrugged and said
well you don't think it's strange that the bracelet just disappeared into the air
then two days later you bought console he got mad and said that i was such a delusional witch even
to hint that he might have stolen the bracelet he shamed me for it and said i'm just upset he's
managing his current financial situation and could still buy himself nice stuff unlike me
we kept arguing till he took the console and left the apartment with it he said he would
try at a friend's house and that i'd better prepare an apology for when he gets back
i didn't but i still think that it's all just so suspicious to be a coincidence
am i the idea for what i told him though not the idiot maybe your mother's gift to you isn't the
gold bracelet it's getting rid of your husband op your ghost mom also wants you to check your
local pawn shops for the bracelet and file a police report when you inevitably find it there
pawn shops and cash for gold places are required by law to enter jewelry into a police database
which is compared against police reports made they are also required to hold it for a certain
period of time before selling make a report immediately before the bracelet is melted or
sold for scrap and lost forever former property crimes detective here the police will get it
however they will not release it to you until the suspect has been charged
and sentenced this is because family will sadly do this all the time get their items back and
then drop charges because it's family so be prepared to go all the way with criminal charges
not the idiot you know your husband so if you think it's possible he would pawn your bracelet
i would say it certainly sounds plausible the timing is certainly very suspicious and if he
hasn't been working i don't see how he could have the money unless he's been skimming money from you
another way or hiding money you did have before being unemployed op change the locks before your
soon-to-be ex-husband comes back and save the hassle of a formal eviction text him you're
sorry and you've decided it must be a thief and so you're calling the police and having them check
pawn shops and different websites to see who might have sold the bracelet as well as investigate for
any clues as to who broke into your house tell him you're fairly confident due to how unique it is
you'll be able to track it back to the thief and due to the value they should serve some jail time
see if this scares him into slipping up also see if he can get his bank statements access to his
social media his phone anything he could have used to try and sell it call the cops and check local
pawn shops on craigslist facebook marketplace etc if you find it in a pawn shop you know he
will not only mooch off you but steal from you at that point you need to ask yourself what he's
doing to enrich your life if the answer is nothing seek a divorce attorney if you see good in this
still seek a therapist in couple counseling good luck finding your memory of your mom
i watched a tick tock where a couple asked each other what they would change about each other and
they both said nothing they're both perfect and they love each other very much etc so i thought
let me try this with my girlfriend without filming of course she said i wouldn't change anything
about you maybe i'd make you less anxious about everyday stuff so you wouldn't suffer it's true
i tend to be very anxious and obsessive-compulsive sometimes but i'm dealing with it then she asked
me what i would change about her i told her i'd like her to have her old body back
meaning before the global issue when she was more muscular and a little bit thinner
also i told her she could be less hairy in some areas like her face and arms and i wish her hair
was more cared for i wouldn't change anything fundamental about her appearance maybe make her
legs a little bit thinner but all my requests are very much achievable with a little effort
she didn't seem to appreciate my comments her expression changed and she locked herself in
a room without saying anything we slept on different beds and the next day she told
me something very hurtful she said i don't think that your appearance is perfect either
there are some issues but i love you enough not to pester you about them when i asked her what she
meant she replied that she wished i followed her skin care advice to get rid of my acne and that
i would work out with her more often i told her the difference was that i was honest and she lied
she didn't say anything but it was obvious that she'd been crying the whole night she went to
a sister's house and hasn't been responding to my messages so am i the idiot for being honest
so you saw a trend on tick tock of two people accepting each other and decided to use it as
a way to nit pick your girlfriend's appearance and trying to turn it around on her that she
lied you have a lot of work to do on yourself before you deserve a girlfriend there is only
one idiot here and that's you idiot doesn't even begin to cover it but i have to be civil however i
will say with all required respect i have a very low opinion of you as a person i hope you learn
from your mistakes opie you set your girlfriend up in hopes that she would change her appearance for
you the only one who lied is you and manipulated the situation to force an outcome you wanted
your girlfriend deserves so much better you are the idiot and hopefully a single one soon i love
these guys who are obviously a three and try to change their partner's looks while acting like
they're a ten grow up all my requests are very much achievable with a little effort good god go
date someone else who doesn't have to put in the effort to change things about themselves for you
it is understandable to have a preference for a partner it can be brought up in a much better way
if that's important in my opinion this would be something affecting the quality of life if you're
not attracted to her don't be with her you saw an opportunity to point out how you want her skinnier
and hairless and jumped on it well done come on man how did you even write this your girlfriend
thought you were doing a lame cutesy thing when you both say you're perfect already and you go i
wouldn't change anything fundamentally but could you lose 25 pounds start working out and make an
appointment with an esthetician already christ my wife 25 and i 26 have been married for three years
and have a child together my wife often tells me i play too many video games and that feels like
she never gets a break because of it games are an escape for me right now i'm battling depression
and i can just drown everything out the other day my wife told me that i don't often help with
household chores and i don't help as much with our toddler then said i'll play video games all day
so she's left to make sure the household is clean food is made and our daughter is taken care of
i can admit she does more chores and parenting than me but honestly i'm very forgetful and her
daughter is more attached to her than me she cries when her mom leaves cries when i try to hold her a
lot of the time and doesn't seem to care when i attempt to play with her what more can i do
if she prefers her mom you know when she's older i think i'll have a better relationship with her
my wife also said that she feels burnt out and it's hard on her and she thinks i'm investing
too much time into games and wants to limit my hours on it i told her that games are my escape
and i don't need to limit them because i work all day and i just want a break at the end of the
day it's not like i don't help if she asks me for help which i tell her just ask i'll do it she got
upset and said she felt like i didn't care about her mental health by not at least compromising
on how much time i spend playing games i don't think i need to limit them am i the idiot edit
i'm so depressed i have no motivation for anything right now cleaning seems exhausting cooking seems
exhausting everything seems exhausting i don't want to burden her but i just want to play
video games and i guess it is wrong but what do you do when that's all you have motivation for
you are the idiot all i see in this thread is whoa is me when you signed up to be a parent you signed
away your right to free time do you know why the child prefers a mom because the mother spends time
bonding with her do you know what your wife is doing as an escape probably nothing because she
spends all that time covering the house the food the kid and you when she's older i think i'll be
able to have a better relationship with her as a dad nothing makes me angrier than when
guys use this line the relationship starts at birth as if when she turns seven she's going to
suddenly want to hang out with this guy who's been ignoring her for her whole life this mentality
just dumbfounds me is probably the same band of people who buy puppies because they're cute and
then abandon them when they become older selective responsibility based on return is this a serious
question come on man you say because i work all day and i just want a break at the end of the day
what about your wife doesn't she deserve a break or do only you matter because you bring in money
start participating more in raising your daughter and she'll stop crying when she's around you she
probably thinks you're a stranger you sound incredibly selfish and immature
why is it your wife's responsibility to figure out what needs to be done and delegate tasks to you
you're supposed to be a partner not a child you should have equal responsibility for household
management and child care you're an adult put down the game controller put on your man pants
and act like one video games are not an effective mental health management tool when you're battling
depression go get some real help so you can be a good partner and parent and prioritize your child
over your escape i 32 female can't have kids but before you judge i've never been the woman to
cry or throw tantrums when my family or friends got pregnant in fact i'm the godmother to five
beautiful children so i wish every pregnant person out there a healthy pregnancy and safe delivery
with healthy babies because my misfortune is no one's problem but it doesn't stop my
family from basically baby proofing everything pregnancy related because of me this brings me
to my sister she's eight months pregnant and i didn't know till the cousin posted about it
now i live in a different country as my family so everything since 2020 has been face time with us
apparently i didn't get the email she was pregnant nor was i invited to the gender reveal or her baby
shower apparently there's been a family group chat i wasn't part of which my cousin explained
i obviously called my sister and she said we thought it was better you didn't know and at the
right time tell you when i asked seriously when were you going to tell me she handed the phone to
her mother who said some bs about doing it for me and that when the baby was born it would be
different so in my upset state i said i told her i wanted nothing to do with them either of them
and that even my parents have done more harm than good so i'm indian so you can guess the number of
people telling me i'm wrong and overreacting that family is everything am i the idiot not the idiot
after you have a chance to collect yourself you should consider having an honest conversation with
them about what the problem with their behavior truly is what you're doing is cruel the only
reason you're excluding me from these important family events is because of my infertility
this means that no matter how good your intentions are you're telling me that the most important
thing about me is my inability to have children you're not being kind you're not being sensitive
you're being extremely cruel i want to be part of this family but if you are unable to treat me as
a full member of this family be honest with me so i stop wasting my energy on you if they want
to be sympathetic they need to handle it how you want it handled and honestly in my experience the
standard is infertility doesn't mean don't tell them it means telling them privately and allowing
them to take space as needed they didn't just keep this a secret for a week or two they've kept it a
secret so long that actually you could have walked in one day to her with a baby and no warning which
if you were baby sensitive would be more damaging than becoming an aunt if i understand correctly
your family thinks you should be sad about your sister's baby because you can't have any of your
own but you're not so they keep you out of the family communication resulting in you feeling sad
like they expect or want you to i'm hoping this is just thoughtlessness on your family's part
otherwise it's just diabolical op you never gave them any reason to believe you're sensitive about
this and while i understand that they think they were being kind and thoughtful to not hurt you
they've hurt you even worse by cutting you out of everything you were perfectly right to let them
know how badly they've hurt you it's funny they're all coming out of the woodwork now to scold you
they're all perfectly able to cut you completely out the loop and keep silent with
regards to your sister's baby this happened a few days ago i 43 male have a daughter a
teen that's obviously going through puberty and just like any other teen she's seeing a lot of
changes in her body most recently acne in her face and arms i tried to support her and i've
bought her special soaps and creams to help her control it although i haven't seen much difference
or i don't think they really helped that much anyways the other day at the dining table she
was complaining to her mother and me about how the soaps i've bought haven't been working on
her and that she feels very uncomfortable so she asked if we could take her to the dermatologist
to help with her acne i then told her that she should just befriend the pimples since nothing
she's been doing has helped and they just wanted to be a part of her all in a very sarcastic tone
i thought my daughter and wife would take it as it is humor but they both got really mad
at me my daughter stormed to her bedroom and my wife started scolding me telling me i was a bad
father while also telling me to apologize to her since those comments can really affect her i told
them i was just joking and that they should stop being party poopers and killing the mood
my daughter hasn't talked to me since that day and my wife thinks i'm a huge idiot for what i
did and only talks to me to tell me to apologize so am i the idiot for making a harmless joke
uh yeah of course you are the idiot she's insecure and having trouble with her appearance and what
do you do decide that a joke would be appropriate she's clearly sensitive about the acne and asking
for help so why poke fun at that how insensitive of you this is why children have trouble coming
to their parents with their insecurities because they joke about them and treat the insecurity as
less than sadly you're wondering if you should apologize or not if someone's feelings get hurt
there's nothing harmless about the joke honestly i could probably forgive the joke
you know we all say dumb stuff trying to be funny even if it's hurtful but what i think makes opie a
huge idiot is the fact that when told your comment hurt me their response was it was obviously a joke
you're just too sensitive and need to get a sense of humor rather than i'm sorry i hurt
you i was trying to be funny poor kid puberty is rough as it is without having your father making
awful jokes like this not to mention that if the acne is bad enough not to be clearing up with the
over-the-counter soap and face wash she might have cystic acne which is physically painful it's a lot
less funny when you need a round of antibiotics first you are the idiot i'm in my late twenties
and can repeat all the jokes my father made from my teen years acne is still one of my biggest
insecurities i imagine it will be similar for your daughter i hope you're saving all that money you
refuse to spend on a dermatologist so you can pay for her therapy later on update after reading all
of these comments non-stop for about an hour i want to apologize to anyone that felt offended
because of my actions or because they remembered a sad time in their lives i want to say that i will
apologize to my daughter and wife and i will be more supportive next time with my daughter since
we're all different and not because i a grown man can withstand criticism which means she can do it
i will be more supportive of her and i will seek professional help to fix her problem i can see
not everyone appreciates my way of thinking and i will also avoid making comments that
might hurt my loved ones thank you for giving me that lecture i really needed and i'm deeply sorry