as children our needs weren't met when
you were a child you had specific needs
you needed to feel safe
you needed to feel loved you needed to
feel significant you needed to feel that
you mattered and if you didn't get that
you go through life thinking well i'm
not safe and i don't matter
and i've got to find someone to meet my
knees i've got to find a great guy great
girl to say oh you're so great oh a
great boss to praise me to become a
loving parent and you can find them
but they might not do that forever maybe
a few months maybe a year
but when you do it
it's forever
i want you to do one more thing think
about the unmet needs of the little kid
you once were
think about the words you wanted to hear
and we all want to hear the same words
i'm proud of you
i love you
how lucky i am to parent you you're
great you're smart you're interesting
you're great to be around
whatever you most needed to hear i
promise you if you say it now
your mind doesn't know where it comes
from it lets it in
if you put chapstick on your lips your
mind just go hang on wait is that
organic
is that fair trade or is that cheap
stuff from cvs pharmacy just lets it in
it nourishes chapped lips and words
nourish a chap soul
so whatever you most wanted to hear i
want you to say it now
i'm proud of you
i love you
you're a great kid
you got something to offer the world
you're talented
you matter
you're significant
and now let's say in the first person i
matter
i'm talented
i'm significant
i'm lovable
i'm enough
i have something to offer the world
and i can monetize it
because i have talent
i have belief
i have ambition
i have drive
and i'm unstoppable
and as you go deeper into an absolutely
relaxed state as you go deeper
drift deeper and sink deeper you're
aware of a phenomenal
powerful
extraordinary
transformation
taking place in you because here is your
truth
when you're a little kid you felt the
way you felt you saw what you saw
you experienced what you experienced you
felt what you felt you had no choice
but now you have a choice because you
are not a little kid you are a beautiful
talented
extraordinary gifted and adult
and as the talented beautiful gifted
adult that you are it will never again
ever for the rest of your long abundant
life be relevant
or necessary or interesting or even
appropriate for you to think
the way you thought when you're a child
it will never again be relevant
or even interesting
for you to believe what you believed
then
or to think what you thought then or to
see what you saw then you put all that
behind you
it's like the water of the shower you
took this morning you can't run back to
your room and get that water because
it's it's like vapor it is behind you
and all the beliefs you had as a child
are behind you they are shrinking
they are fading they are disappearing
they are going they are gone they are
raised
eradicated eliminated they are shattered
smashed and out of your life they will
always be for the rest of your long
abundant life something
you once believed long long ago
and they cannot
and will not interest you or affect you
ever again
as you move on from one phenomenal
extraordinary incredible
achievement and accomplishment you can
move on from one
accomplishment to another
that
is the truth about you
so stay in that truth for just a second
remember that little kid is not you can
never be you
is nothing but a memory
something that you used to feel
that cannot well not does not affect you
ever again
and knowing that feeling that believing
that you can slowly
calmly easily just get ready
to come back into the room knowing that
you can never go back
you went back and had a look
you went back and investigated like a
good detective what went on then you
interrupted it
and then you re-code it into yourself
better software you installed the truth
the truth is not what you felt when you
were five or four or three or ten the
truth is you here today knowing that you
are abundant gifted talented significant
you can have everything you can have
anything you can have it all
all at the same time
because the past is not you
you as you here today gifted talented
extraordinary significant
so knowing it feeling it believing it
just open up your eyes
just take a deep breath
come back in the room
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and just give yourself a massive round
of applause for doing that
[Applause]
thank you
you