right so when i was younger i used to be
really really bad at public speaking i
was super shy i never wanted to put
myself out there and i was really
terrible at talking to pretty girls but
over time i've improved at two of those
things and so in this video i'm gonna be
giving you my nine top tips for how to
be a better public speaker let's get
into it tip number one
is get the hell out of your own head um
when we're when we're talking in front
of people you know public speaking is
like
the biggest fear in the world outside of
like spiders or like death or something
but like when we're when we're public
speaking we can often feel like
there's all this judgment that's being
cast on us and that people are here to
judge the things that we're saying
and so it's very easy for us to get into
our own heads and to worry about the
things that we're saying and to worry
about how we're coming across and worry
about a body language and whether we're
sweating through our top
all of this stuff gets in the way of
giving a good talk giving a good speech
and so for me whenever i'm giving a
speech or even talking to a camera i
always try and remember that it's not
about me the audience does not care
about me they do not give a toss the
audience only cares about themselves
you the viewer as much as you like me
and care about me potentially you
actually don't really care about me you
only care about yourself you care about
the hopefully hopefully the value that i
can provide to you
and therefore for me to be in my own
head worrying about how i'm coming
across
is kind of counterproductive because it
gets in the way of the message that i'm
trying to give
and so keeping that in mind that no one
cares about us get out of our own head
and let's make it all about the audience
i find that really helpful tip number
two is to speak
through a smile now i'm gonna show you
what this looks like before and after i
apply this technique
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hopefully you'll have seen that when i'm
speaking through a smile hopefully i
come across as much more engaging and
enthusiastic
rather than when i'm talking like this
because i could be saying exactly the
same thing but as soon as i start
speaking through a smile hopefully it
just sounds a little bit better so this
is an absolutely fantastic hack for
getting better at public speaking
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airways mode of speaking
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that is my british airways voice this is
the voice that a lot of us put on
you know sometimes sometimes i call it
the primary school teacher voice as well
it's a voice that a lot of us fake put
on when we're giving a speech because
we're thinking of it as giving a speech
and it's like
when i am giving a speech i have to talk
in this exaggerated sound
sort of like an air hostess or like an
announcement on an aeroplane flight
would sound but if you're still watching
this hopefully you realize that that is
not the way we want to be speaking we
want to be spoken to we don't like it
when people talk to us in this kind of
fashion
and so what i to to get over this like
sing-songy british airways primary
school teacher way of speaking
what i try and do is i think of my kind
of when i'm speaking i'm sort of going
downwards
and so if i tell you about audible while
speaking and going down it might sound
something like this
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me talking in not british airways mode i
was sort of
talking in a more matter-of-fact fashion
and sort of aiming to go down
rather than talking in a sing-song
fashion and aiming to go up at the end
of a sentence and so that's just
something to keep in mind avoid
speaking like a primary school teacher
avoid speaking like a british airways
flight attendant
be yourself and think and try try and
speak how you speak when you're around
your friends which is not in this kind
of sing-songy kind of fashion all right
tip number four is let your personality
shine through again one of the issues
that we have when we're public speaking
is we think of it as i'm giving a speech
and we don't want to be thinking of it
as i'm giving a speech
because then for some reason we feel all
stuffy and we feel formal
and you know even if it's something like
a business presentation or a
presentation at work
you know i've given so many
presentations at like medical
conferences and at teaching sessions in
the hospital
and i always try and let my personality
shine through and try and be a little
bit more casual
and a little bit less formal like if i'm
at a medical conference even if i'm
talking about something really serious
the audience wants a personality the
audience wants banter they want humor
they want to have a good time
they to an extent they care about the
content of the speech but broadly they
all just want to have a good time and
they're all just kind of sitting there
kind of sweltering in the heat i was at
a conference in singapore a few years
ago
sweltering in the heat and they just
want to have a good time and when you
let your personality shine through when
you're your own unapologetically weird
self
the audience really appreciates that and
so whenever i think of public speaking
or speaking in general i think that
i should not stifle the kind of quirky
aspect of my personality
maybe i'll throw in a toilet joke here
and there maybe i'll reference harry
potter maybe i'll talk about disney
songs or
how i was singing in the shower the
other day that kind of stuff
sounds a bit trite and trivial right now
but generally it helps my personality
hopefully shine through through videos
and through speaking
ramping up ramping that up slightly
rather than dampening it down which is
what we're prone to do when in public
speaking i think that's the way forward
all right tip number five for public
speaking is try and add banter and humor
and stories
to the stuff that you're doing again
we're just getting outside of this
mindset that i'm giving a speech
therefore i have to be formal and i have
to be boring and instead think that
really the only thing the audience cares
about is having fun
and so how do we make the audience have
fun we can add jokes we can add banter
we can add storytelling
this is not a video about storytelling
maybe we'll do one in a in a little
while but
um fantastic book by one of my friends
matthew dicks it's called a story worthy
it's absolutely incredible
um my favorite book of 2020 and that is
all basically all about how to tell a
better story and in fact that's also
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all right tip number six is don't read
from a script whenever we're reading
from a script it's gonna sound
absolutely terrible like there is no way
to make reading from a script sound not
like reading from a script because we
all
go into this reading thing and we've all
seen people
and you know it's speeches and stuff
where they look down they've got their
notes and they
the way they deliver it it's obvious
that they're reading from a script they
automatically go into british airways
mode
this is basically not the way forward
and certainly for me i find that
whenever i'm having to read from a
script to make a youtube video
it's just not fun and it sounds
absolutely terrible and it takes me
absolutely ages to get it right
because i just hate reading from a
script so what i would recommend is if
you're giving a speech
just use some talking points it's useful
to have an outline it's useful to know
how you're going to start and how you're
going to finish
and it's useful to know what broad
talking points you want to hit
but beyond that i think there is a
degree like
it's very possible to over prepare a
speech and as soon as you get into that
realm of
preparing you're going to sound like
you're reading from a script and that's
not going to be particularly engaging so
don't worry about the script
focus on the bullet points tip number
seven is to just speak louder like
generally when we're giving a speech
we want to be adding a little bit of
energy because people want to have fun
ultimately they don't really care about
the content they just want to have fun
and a super easy way of adding energy to
whatever we're saying is to just speak a
little bit louder so
the way that i think of this is that my
normal speaking style is about a five
out of ten so this is about a five out
of ten this is how i'd be talking
normally
if i was hanging out with friends but
i'm gonna ramp it up to a seven out of
ten if i'm giving a video so this is me
kind of talking at a seven out of ten
and certainly if i was doing a speech in
public i'd kind of be talking at this
kind of pace or this kind of loudness
rather so this kind of loudness would be
kind of weird if i was sitting across
from someone at a coffee table
and or if i was at a dinner party this
sort of loudness would probably be a
little bit excessive
but it's a youtube video i'm giving a
speech or if i'm giving a speech in
public i would ramp up my loudness to a
7 out of 10 rather than a 5 out of 10
which would be my baseline
all right tip number eight is to speak
slower and pause more this is something
that i really really really struggle
with i did a course called
ultra speaking which is really good link
in the video description if you want to
check it out and then of course
and like the main thing that the
instructors were telling me on this is
that look
you just need to be more okay with
taking time
be more okay with speaking slower and
being more okay to take
pauses because a pause to the audience
does not sound nearly as long as a pause
to us
and if i'm actually giving a speech
rather than trying to race through a
youtube video at breakneck speed
the pauses are what allows the audience
to appreciate the thing that we've just
said
and the guys at ultra speaking the way
they talk about it it's like when we're
speaking
like if you imagine a snow globe when
we're speaking it's like we're shaking
up the snow globe
and then when we pause we're giving time
for the snow to settle
so i still kind of suck at this it's a
work in progress
but certainly i found that my speeches
and my talking in public becomes more
powerful when i'm more confident
that i can speak slower and i can take
more pauses whereas
otherwise the thing that i struggle with
is that i'm i'm sort of in my head where
i'm like oh my god
what if what i have to say isn't really
valuable i'm trying to respect people's
time therefore i'm going to race through
this as quickly as i can
so that they can go on and do something
more interesting but i'm having to kind
of rewire my brain into thinking no
people are here they want to listen to
me i am providing value
and it's actually better for the
audience if i slow down a little bit
if i let this snow globe thing settle
and if i take a little bit more pauses
and finally tip number nine something
that i found helpful is to actually play
public speaking games so again my
friends at ultra speaking they have this
ultra speaking simulator that gives you
lots of interesting games and so i'll
show you what one of these looks like
so this is triple step which is one of
my favorite games and the idea here is
that we've got to give a speech about a
random topic and then we've got to
incorporate the words
from that are appearing on screen as
they're coming on screen and this is
like
kind of hard but it's it's also quite
fun to do i enjoy doing this sometimes
in my spare time
so i'm going to do it on the maximum
settings let's do 30 seconds
integrating eight words into it and it's
going to suggest me a title so let's see
what this looks like
the color of life to be honest i think
the color of life is blue blue is my
favorite color and i find that for
example if i'm running a marathon i see
the blue sky and it really helps me it
helps me focus if i roll the windows
down in my blue tesla again
it allows me to feel the breath in my
face even when i'm going to the toilet
i having just been for a round of horse
racing i just feel the color
blue everywhere around me it's sort of
like an engine when you when you have
the perfect color
you can feel as if you're like a ferrari
engine driving down the road
um even if you're like voting uh for
popsicles or
you know whatever it's just the color in
the sky it feels like the color of luck
that's scary it's hot but these sorts of
games you can get ultra speaking they're
free
put a link in the video description if
you want to check it out this is kind of
fun good way of improving public
speaking right so those were my nine
tips at getting better at public
speaking if you like this video you
might like to check out this video over
here which is the lessons that i've
learned from the last four years of
being a public speaker on youtube
those are just general life lessons that
kind of being a public figure
dealer celebrity has taught me so thanks
so much for watching i'll see you in the
next video bye