Is your ex actively trying to make you jealous?
It’s possible… and there are some clear signs that indicate this is the case.
Maybe you want to know because you’re hoping jealousy means your ex might want you back….
Maybe you think they’re doing it out of ‘revenge’... whatever the case in your
situation, in this video I’ll share the top signs that indicate your ex is trying
to make you jealous.
Before we begin…
I’m Brad Browning, AKA Breakup Brad, best-selling author of The Ex Factor program and YouTube’s
leading breakup coach since 2012.
To learn more of my proven techniques to win back your ex, visit my website at BreakupBrad.com
after this video is over and watch my full free tutorial video.
Let’s get into it… and let’s start by talking about WHY your ex might want to make
you jealous.
It’s usually for one of three reasons:
#1 Possibility: They want to make you jealous because they still have feelings for you,
and they’re “testing” you to see how you react.
#2 Possibility: They feel you hurt them in some way… that you were unfair or cruel
to them… and they’re seeking revenge by trying to make you jealous.
Essentially they’re trying to get back at you for whatever they feel you did to hurt
them.
#3 Possibility: They’re trying to make you jealous because of pride and their own ego…
everyone wants to feel ‘wanted’ and have all the hot dudes or cute girls chasing after
them, and making an ex jealous by moving on quickly or jumping into a ‘rebound’ relationship
is a way to make them feel ‘needed’ and important.
Some people also tend to seek attention and validation, so they’ll post things like,
“hey look at me, I already found someone new!”
on social media or brag about it to friends just to get that hit of attention.
This screams “lack of self-esteem” and is obviously pretty sad behaviour, but it’s
definitely a possibility.
…and of course, there’s a fourth possibility, which is that your ex isn’t actually trying
to make you jealous at all.
There’s definitely the potential that you’re overanalyzing and trying to read between the
lines a bit too closely, looking for something that isn’t actually there.
I made a video previously about the dangers of overanalyzing your ex’s words and actions,
which I’ll link to up here and in the description below if you want to watch that video next.
But, suffice to say, there’s always the possibility that your ex isn’t actually
making any effort to incite jealousy.
By the end of the video, you should know if this is the case or not… so let’s jump
into the signs that do indicate your ex wants to make you jealous, starting with #1…
Sign #1 - They bring their new boyfriend or girlfriend when they know you’ll be there.
If you and your ex share a lot of mutual friends and end up running into one another regularly…
at parties, at work or at school, etc….
If your ex is intentionally making sure to bring the new person they’ve started dating,
and especially if they’re very ‘touchy-feely’ and affectionate in public with this new person
while you’re around… well, that’s both disrespectful and also a clear sign they want
you to feel jealous about it.
If this has happened to you, I’m sorry…
I know how painful it can be, and it’s also a pretty strong indicator that your ex genuinely
wants to make you jealous.
This is most often the kind of thing an ex will do when they’re trying to get revenge
or get back at you for some reason, although it could also be that they’re testing you
to see how you react.
If you still want your ex back -- and I would suggest you think hard about whether this
is someone you want to be with again given their willingness to hurt you and seek petty
revenge -- then the best thing you can do in this situation is to act unfazed when you
see your ex with this new person, and show them you’re not actually affected by it,
so they don’t get the satisfaction they’re seeking.
Sign #2 - Your ex is acting ‘out of character’ on social media.
If your ex was the type of person who never posted anything on social media -- and would
never brag about the person they’re dating, or the fun social stuff they’re up to on
the weekend, etc -- then a sudden change in behaviour, where they begin posting that sort
of stuff regularly or in a very open and uncharacteristic way, then it’s possibly because of some
underlying motive…
most likely, to make you jealous of their awesome life or how quickly they’ve begun
dating again.
Be careful reading too much into this one, but if you do see your ex is acting totally
out of character on social media, and it looks like those posts are aimed at you -- it could
definitely be a sign they’re trying to incite jealousy.
Sign #3 - They’re eager to say things that you might find hurtful or could make you jealous.
OK, I know this is a bit obvious…. but really, if you run into your ex at the gym or the
store after breaking up, and he or she suddenly starts telling you about the date they went
on last weekend, or the person at the bar who wouldn’t stop flirting with them last
night -- the sorts of things that you’d normally expect a person to keep to themselves
out of respect -- then they might be saying this kind of thing in order to make you jealous.
If this is the case, most of the time, it’s going to be pretty obvious.
In this kind of situation, where it is obvious that they’re saying this sort of thing intentionally
and without any effort to be subtle or avoid hurting you, then it’s a pretty clear sign
they’re actively trying to make you jealous.
Sign #4 - They appear to be “forcing” or faking the appearance of happiness.
No matter how much drama and hurt feelings were involved in your breakup, it’s likely
that your ex is going to be feeling just as heartbroken as you are right now.
That’s why an ex who seems like they’re trying to go overboard trying to appear “happy”
and upbeat… or forcing a smile and seeming to be faking an air of positivity…. is often
a sign that they’re trying to make you jealous, even if it’s on a subconscious level.
This is especially true if they’re putting on this fake happy persona any time you’re
around, because they know that you’re still upset about the breakup and are likely to
get jealous knowing they’re already moving on and over the breakup.
I know this might sound like a bit of a stretch, but you should be able to tell when this is
the case, and when your ex is clearly faking it.
A lot of times, your ex’s motivation here is likely to be more about them ‘testing’
you than it is about revenge… if this is something your ex has done already, and you
still want them back, then it’s a good sign for your chances of getting back together.
Now, please don’t get too far ahead of yourself here and assume that just because your ex
has exhibited 1 or 2 of the signs I just talked about, that means for sure that they’re
trying to make you jealous.
There’s always the possibility you’re overanalyzing, as I warned you about earlier…
and the more signs your ex has shown, the more likely it is they’re actually attempting
to incite jealousy intentionally.
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