- Unexpected signs that each of the 16 personalities
is attracted to you.
There are certain things from each personality type
that you can expect like all the time
but a lot of times each personality type will do stuff
that's out of character for them that's a little bit awkward
because they're trying to show off for you.
They're trying to impress you
because they're attracted to you.
At least I think that's why.
A bit later in the video,
I'm gonna go into the nuts and bolts of why this happens.
So make sure you stay tuned and watch.
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First up, the ESTJ.
When an ESTJ is attracted to you,
what you're gonna notice is that they get really giggly.
It's kinda outta character.
ESTJs don't go walking around just like
kinda giggling for no reason.
They're gonna act sillier than usual.
The ESTJ stereotype is someone who's very like in control,
put together, just telling people what to do, being bossy.
But no, a lot of times if they're attracted to you
that just gets switched off
and you see this other side of them.
ENTJs similarly, if they're attracted to you,
they'll just get really relaxed.
Their body language opens up.
They'll be leaning back in their chair.
They don't seem to care too much about what's going on
because they're projecting this air of like, I'm cool.
I can hang with whatever.
I'm like just going with the flow.
And ENTJs are usually very on top of everything.
So it's pretty unexpected when you're talking to one of them
and they're just like, nah, dude, whatever, it's cool.
Like I'm just chilling and having a good time.
ESFPs, if they like you, if they're attracted to you,
one of the unexpected things they'll do is start talking
about like really deep philosophical things.
Or at least that's what they'll start to do.
They'll usually like bring it back to something
more realistic after a while but a lot of times
they'll just be like, yeah, man, the meaning of life.
Or it'll get like really nerdy.
They'll be like, yo, man, I heard about like physics
and how the atoms and the the celluloids.
I don't even know, man.
ESTPs are interesting because what they'll do
is kinda like jump to conclusions about you
if they're attracted to you.
They're gonna be trying to anticipate your needs
and figure out who you are like right away.
ESTPs are usually more like, whatever I'm doing my thing,
I don't really care about what other people like
or I'm not trying to anticipate them or figure them out.
So like they'll bring you a burrito and be like
I could tell you're just the kinda person
who likes Mexican food.
Frank, why do you always bring up Mexican food
in your videos?
Do you have a problem?
ESFJs, they're usually pretty outgoing.
They're talking up the crowd.
They don't mind being in the center of attention
but if they like you, they give awkward.
A lot of times ESFJs, the unexpected sign that they like you
is that they just clam up and they just get oddly nervous.
It's like, dude, you were just in the middle of this party
talking to 20 other people and like doing party tricks
and everyone was eating it up and suddenly you come over
and talk to me and now you're like (stutters).
ESFJs are so focused on making sure everyone is happy
but if they like you,
suddenly something happens where they're just like,
oh my gosh, am I gonna be able to make this person happy?
Oh my gosh, what does this person think about me?
It's just short circuit something and they're just like,
'cause they like you bro or sis.
If an ENFJ is acting normal, like their normal self,
it can be really difficult to tell
if they're attracted to you or not because they they act
like they're attracted to everybody.
It's just weird.
They're the kinda people where you're like,
hey, you wanna go out?
I can tell you like me.
And they're like, I don't like you.
I was just like hugging you and talking to you for hours
and whatever because that's what I do with everybody.
I was just making out with you.
Okay, I'm kidding with that one.
So what you should look for with an ENFJ that's a bit
unexpected is if they're just kinda blunt with you.
If they like turn the switch with you where
instead of being like,
hey, we're buddy, buddy, whatever, ha ha.
They're just like, what's up?
They're just like, you look dumb today.
Okay, they won't say that but you'll see
the friendliness level just like drops
when they're around someone they like.
The ISTJ, they is (laughs)
you know, they're usually pretty steady.
And when they like you, they'll start to make fun of you.
Now not in a way where it's like malicious like,
oh man, you so fat.
You so dumb.
You saw a thing of orange juice that said concentrate
so you just stared at it.
Good nature teasing.
But the thing is that's not how ISTJs usually work
in their day to day life.
They're not just popping off jokes randomly
so it's gonna seem awkward and it's probably gonna seem like
they're actually just trying to make you feel bad.
ISFJs, the unexpected sign that they are attracted to you
is that they'll start like nitpicking things you say
'cause usually ISFJs are like, whatever, live and let live.
They're thinking about it
when you say something that they disagree with
but they'll usually just be like whatever.
But if they like you, ironically,
they're gonna use this as an opportunity.
When you say something that they disagree with
or maybe they don't even disagree with it,
they're just like, I need to say something.
Rather than be like I agree with that,
they'll be like,
actually, it isn't clear to me that you're correct.
Actually let's have this discussion about those things
you said and let's oh, oh, this is fun.
We'll have a little bit of a debate here.
If you try to say like, oh, "Cars 3" is the best movie ever.
They're gonna be like, actually I disagree with that.
I'm gonna tell you why "Cars 2" is better.
Frank, why are you obsessed with "Cars" today?
What's happening here and you probably picked up
on this already is that each type is trying to show off
that they are the opposite type.
Every type has a certain admiration
even if you don't realize it for the opposite type.
There is a certain aspirational element to
I wish I could be like that.
Maybe not to the extreme but it's like
I wish that I could level myself out
to be balanced in those areas.
It's like this subconscious thing where
because we aspire to those things,
because we think, oh, those are admirable qualities.
Let me project that out and make it seem like
this is how I am to the person I'm attracted to.
Or just anyone I'm trying to impress.
Maybe it's like you're a YouTuber and you wanna act like
hey, I'm a crazy extrovert.
We're showing off.
For example, INFJs have a certain aspiration
to become like ESTPs in certain ways.
INFJs wanna be able to say, hey, I live in the moment
and I do my own thing that I think is logical
and works for me rather than worrying so much about
how people feel.
So if you go back through this list and look at each one,
you can see what the opposite type does naturally
with no problem and it would be more expected.
For example, you go to the ESFP,
the unexpected sign is they talk about deep stuff
and yes, that's not to say ESFPs aren't deep.
They do have a deepness to them,
they're just not used to like relying on that
in their communications with other people.
That's more of like an internal thing.
But for the opposite type, an INTJ, they talk about like
deep nerdy stuff all the time, it's not awkward for them.
That's like, it's what they do every single day
to everyone they meet.
Next up, we got the ENTPs.
Now that I've given away my formula
try to guess what I'm gonna say about them.
The ENTPs unexpected awkward thing that they will do
when they are attracted to you is they will compliment you.
And a lot of people give out compliments but ENTPs
when they like you and they're complimenting you,
it's gonna be about something weird
and you're gonna be like, are you trolling me right now?
They will like hone in on something very specific.
They're like, oh, this is cool and I really like the way
that you ordered that being bean burrito.
There it is again.
Frank is obsessed with Mexican food.
Like I said, it's the kinda thing where when they say
these compliments to you, you're like,
okay, thank you, I think.
While ENTPs are oftentimes very nice and friendly,
they're not used to just like throwing out
compliments all the time, it's a little awkward for them.
They're a little out practice.
ENFPs are interesting because like I've mentioned
a few times in this video, they like to joke around.
So when they like you, the unexpected sign of this
that they're attracted to you is that they'll try
to teach you something.
And it'll usually be something that's like practical.
Now of course, this is a little bit weird because it's like
they need the opportunity to be able to do this.
So it really depends on the situation.
Like and ENFPs are very quick to pick up on an opportunity
when they see it.
So it could be whatever.
Oh, here let me teach you how to drive a stick shift car.
Oh, here, let me teach you about the Carolingian Dynasty.
I have some factual stuff in the real world
and I'm gonna teach it to you
'cause it's gonna help you out somehow.
And a lot of times when they're teaching it to you
it'll be like, yeah, this is great that I know this thing.
'Cause they're showing off.
And sometimes they won't even like teach it to you right
or they'll like mess up and they'll be like dang it.
- Dang it.
- ISTPs, the unexpected thing that happens
if they're attracted to you is that they'll suddenly
be a lot more outgoing.
ISTPs kinda just,
they just like doing their own thing.
So it's a little bit weird when suddenly like
they're always hanging out with you and all your friends.
Oh, here I am, Mr. Extrovert.
This is me normally.
They'll be like,
hey guys, we're all having fun together, right?
Yeah, this is really comfortable for me.
I mean, first of all, the practical part of it
is they're just trying to be around you more
but the other side of it is they're trying to show you,
hey, look at me, I can hang with the crowd.
Yeah, this is cool.
- [Man] Why are we still here?
- INTPs are similar 'cause INTP is usually, they don't,
they're just kinda quiet.
They keep to themselves but the unexpected thing
when they're attracted to you is that suddenly
they're gonna ask you a bunch of questions.
INTPs don't normally ask a bunch of questions or if they do
it's because they're specifically trying to learn things
that they are interested in
like kinda for the sake of learning.
But these kinda questions are going to be like
more personal questions and they're gonna be about like
the stuff you like and how you feel about things.
And it's gonna be really awkward
because they're probably gonna be like too personal
or too direct.
They'll be like, how is your diet going?
Do you feel okay?
It is awkward.
ISFPs when they are attracted to you,
the unexpected thing is that they will just act so cool
that they act disinterested.
Now look, this doesn't mean that they will ignore you,
they might even start talking to you more.
They might engage you in conversation
but they're gonna try to avoid acting like they care
about you 'cause ISFPs are driven by how they feel.
Like they don't mind wearing their emotions on their sleeve
but the thing is when they're attracted to you,
they get a little weird and they're like,
okay, shutting that off.
They'll be like, okay buddy, tell me about you know
what you're doing with your life.
Feelings? I don't have any of those.
That's like an ISFP trying to show off.
And if they're attracted to you,
they're gonna act like they don't have any feelings for you
but they secretly do.
And that's what this video's about.
The unexpected sign that an INFP is attracted to you
is that they're gonna start asking you a bunch of questions.
It's kinda like with the INTP except the difference here
is that you're gonna start to feel like
you're being interrogated.
It's almost like you're at a job interview
and they're just asking you a bunch of questions like
explain this thing on your resume.
Oh, tell me about a time that you disagreed with a manager.
Now a distinguishing point here is that a lot of people,
if they're talking to someone and they feel kinda awkward,
well, it'll start to feel like an interrogation.
A lot of people just ask kinda like boiler plate questions
that are about like what do you do for a living?
Oh, nice weather, you know?
Small talk kinda stuff tends to be kinda like this.
The difference with an INFP and the sign
that they're attracted to you is that it'll be like
very direct questions about you.
And direct questions about why you did something this way
and why you thought that was a good idea.
Now I think INFPs are very self-aware.
So the way I've presented this is like very extreme.
Usually you'll see them kinda do a little bit of this
and then pull it back and be like,
yeah, I'm just kidding, I'm just playing around.
If an in INTJ is attracted to you,
the unexpected sign of this is that they're gonna do like
a lot of show and tell.
It'll be like, yeah, check out all this cool stuff I got.
Take a look at this computer.
16 gigs of RAM right here.
1080p display.
Or it'll be like a show and tell with like,
hey, look what I can do.
Boo ball, look what all I can do.
Check out this sweet,
check out me doing a sweet air on my skateboard.
INFJs when they like you, the unexpected sign,
it's gonna be hard to tell, okay?
They're the kinda people who will read a book about like
what are the signs that someone likes you?
Like what kind of body language cues am I looking at?
And also what might I be giving away?
They're one of the most difficult types to know
if they like you because they know how to mask that.
Everyone tries to mask it
but I think they're probably the best.
But despite their ability to hide they're attracted to you,
they have one big tell that you gotta watch out for
and you might say it's unexpected.
You will notice that they are trying too hard specifically
when it comes to how they present themselves physically.
An INFJ if they like you will suddenly start like
dressing up more around you.
They're trying to show off, hey, I got fashion sense.
Like I know how to color coordinate.
You'll see an INFJ who like looked at a GQ Magazine one time
and said, "I'm gonna wear something like Tom Brady has."
And then it's like why are you dressed like that?
Thanks for watching.
Until next time, stay cool and attractive.
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