Hello my wonderful friend! In today's video we are going to be talking about
first things girls notice about guys. We'll cover six specific things that come from
my personal experience as a woman and also my extensive research as a coach.
Just knowing these things and how to use them to our advantage can help you know
how to impress girls and how to attract girls like a magnet. Before we get
started, if you have not yet subscribed be sure to subscribe now and ring that
notification bell. My name is Melannie, I'm a dating and
relationship coach for Christian men. I help you know how to find and attract to
the girl of your dreams, so be sure to hit the subscribe button and ring that
bell. Now did you know that according to research, science tells us that we have
all of three seconds before someone decides if they're attracted to us or not? Or if
we're attracted to someone? Three seconds you guys. That does not give us much time
and it just goes to show the importance of first impressions. This is why it is
so important to know the first things girls notice about guys and then use it
to your advantage. The truth is they're not very difficult, they're actually
pretty simple. I think you're going to find that knowledge really is power.
A lot of people say that it's completely physical and based on physical traits. If
you have those physical traits, great, and if you don't have those physical traits,
you're sunk. The truth is that is not true. It's not exclusively about physical
traits, unless all she cares about is physical traits, and if she's that kind
of girl you don't really want her at all. So you are about to breathe a sigh
of relief, because in reality there are a lot of things that make up the first
impression and they're very simple to utilize. So let's get started with the
first things girls notice about guys. Number one would be your eyes. You may
have heard the saying that the eyes are the window to the soul, and this is
so true. Women pick up on body cues very
well and she's constantly reading the people around her, especially cute
guys she just met. And the eyes really do tell us so much about a person. My mom
happens to be like my best friend, and so whenever I've met somebody really cute and
would want to talk about it I tell my mom about it. And it's very very
common to hear me say "His eyes were so gentle." or "His eyes are so kind." or "He had
the most beautiful eyes." And it's because his eyes are the windows to his soul, you
can tell so much from his eyes. I actually read about a study where they
had new people on kind of a blind date, they had never met each other before, and
they specifically gave them instructions to really focus on looking into each
other's eyes. They had never met these people before, but they reported having
really strong feelings of attraction. And it turned out that the simple act of
looking in each other's eyes created that attraction and that connection, they
felt like they knew each other really well. So there is a lot of power to
making eye contact. So your eyes are one of the first things she is going to
notice. Use it to your advantage by looking her in the eye. You can smile
with your eyes and really engage with her, and that's going to make a really
killer first impression. If the eyes are the window to the soul, look her in the
eye and let her know how amazing your soul really is. Number two is how he
handles himself. This is something again that women pick up on almost instantly.
How does he hold himself? This really comes down to body language. Is he
closed off? Is he arrogant and stuck up? Or is he just
friendly and awesome and confident? There are a couple of guys I used to see at a
big social gathering I used to go to. And one of them had very confident,
masculine, attractive body language. He would keep his shoulders back and his
head held high, he'd look people in the eye and he would smile, he would move with
intention and walk with a masculine gait. And let me just tell you, he had so many
girls buzzing around him, because he was so attractive. There was another guy
there who physically speaking when you looked at him some would even say he was
more physically attractive, but he always walked with his head up in the air and
he'd kind of look down at you and he was just kind of better than you. And
that would kill the attraction so quickly. The same is true of someone
who's closed off and doesn't want any, you know, they send signals with your
body not to approach. That's not attractive either. So she is going to
pick up on how you are presenting yourself. So keep your shoulders back,
look her in the eye like I just mentioned, and smile, and don't cross your
your body off, keep your body open and friendly. Simple things like that are
going to help you make an incredible first impression and help you attract
her almost instantly. And if you would like a bonus tip on body language and
how to use it to be instantly more attractive be sure to check out this
video. I will put a link in the description below.
Number three is how he treats people. This matters so much to a girl. Like I
mentioned before, some people will tell you it's strictly physical traits.
Physical traits obviously do matter, but there's so much more to it. And to a good
girl the way a guy treats other people around him, not just her, it speaks
volumes to her. Story time. Several weeks ago I was in line at Chipotle. It's kind
of a place I find myself frequently. And a guy came up behind me in line.
I was, you know, going through the line ordering my food. And I, you know, kind of
snuck a little glance. And I was like "Oh! He's very nice-looking." And naturally
you know it's like "Hey, how could I, you know, talk to him because he's quite fun
to look at." Sadly though, what happened next
completely ended all thoughts of wanting to get to know him. Something happened
with his order and one of the employees messed up on his order and this
person treated him like he was a total idiot for messing up his order. And guys,
the attraction died so fast. If he's the kind of person who can be unkind to
someone who is serving him, I don't want anything to do with him at all. So she's
going to notice how you treat her, how you treat your friends, how you treat her
friends, how you treat people in line, how you treat people who are serving you. She
is going to pick up on how you treat people, that is a huge deal breaker.
So just make sure that you are courteous and kind. Before we go any further I'm
actually really curious if these tips are surprising or not. If you have been
surprised by any of them, be sure to type "Wow!" in the comments below. And we are to
tip number four when it comes to first things girls notice about guys. And
number four is to smile. Guys, she notices your smile. And a smile instantly
connects us, it's instantly attractive. Fun fact for you. When we smile it
creates feel-good chemicals in us. Like our brain actually releases feel-good
chemicals. And when somebody smiles at us we get those feel-good chemicals and we
feel good. I mentioned in a lot of videos before, people like people who make them
feel good. And a smile is a fabulous way to do that. Women are naturally attracted
to men who make them laugh, and men who are fun to be around, and who make them
feel really really good and have a good time. I've personally seen some very
physically attractive men, but they never smiled. And as soon as, you know, you start
to try and interact with them and you see that they don't smile,
the attraction just dies. [pause] Is that attractive? No, no it's not. This [pause] is never
attractive. Show your teeth my friend, she wants to see that. It will help her
feel connected to you and smiles are always physically
attractive. A special bonus secret for you when it comes to smiling, is to smile
with your eyes. There is absolutely nothing wrong with standing in front of
the mirror and practicing your smile. Especially if it's something you feel a
little nervous about. There is actually a pretty big difference between smiles. You
have your nervous smile, you have your cheesy smile, and you have just a natural
attractive smile. One thing I like to tell my clients is to leave a little bit
of a gap in your teeth when you smile. If you smile like this it doesn't look
natural. But if you leave a little bit of a gap then it's a very natural smile.
Another thing you can do is smile with your eyes. There's a big difference
between a smile without your eyes, [laughter] I can't even do it,
and smiling with your eyes. Wake your eyes up. Let them know with your eyes
that you're excited, you're invested, and you're happy. So practice your smile a
little bit. One thing that a lot of people get nervous about is "Well, I don't
have perfect teeth." That's okay, nobody has perfect teeth. I had braces
for three years because I have jaw problems. I have chronic TMJ and I still
don't have perfect teeth. And often our imperfections in our teeth are actually
what a lot of people find really attractive. So just smile. You are you, you
are amazing, flash those pearly whites. Now tip number five when it comes to the
first things girls notice about guys is how he's dressed. Now before I get a
whole bunch of hate comments, hear me out on this one. This is not about how much
money you make. Yes, that does matter to certain women, there are certain women
who use men for their money. As a matter of fact, if you're interested in learning more
about that check out this video. I did a whole video on how some women will use
men. But the truth is, for good girls it is important how he dresses. And it has
nothing to do with money, it has to do with self-respect. When someone presents
themselves in an attractive, confident way it shows that they respect
themselves. It shows that they have drive, an initiative, and again self-respect.
They want to present themselves in a way that makes them feel good, in a way that
makes them look good. One thing I tell my clients in How to Find and Attract Your
Dream Girl, is it's not about dressing to impress. We've all heard that. Instead
it's about dressing to empower. When we take care of ourselves we feel like we
matter, our confidence increases, and our physical attraction goes up dramatically.
Because let me just tell you, you are more physically attractive when you
dress physically attractive. And guys, she wants to see that. The truth is, you
deserve to dress to empower, you deserve to rock it and look and feel amazing. And
the way you dress has the power to do that. This means getting clothes that fit
you and really show off your positive traits.
It means dressing in clothes that are modern and stylish. I don't mean that you
have to dress "faddy." The truth is I don't think fads are usually very stylish. But
it means having a classic, sharp, attractive look that is up to date. This
means having a nice haircut that is sharp and flattering to your face shape.
This also means keeping your facial hair trimmed and neat. Which BTW shows off
your jaw line which is always a plus. It's about being willing to invest in
yourself, because you know you matter. And she's going to see that in you, she's
gonna see that self-respect, she's going to see that drive, and it's going to mean
a lot to her. It says something about who you are as a person. Now this does not
mean you have to spend a million dollars on your wardrobe, it doesn't mean you
can't have a budget. Because the truth is we all have budgets, budgets are
important. I have a really good hack to help with this that I actually teach my
clients in How to Find and Attract Your Dream Girl. By the way, if you want to
learn more about How to Find and Attract Your Dream Girl just check
the link in the description below. But what this hack is, is to create a capsule
wardrobe. This means you don't have a ton of pieces, you just have quality pieces
that you can reuse over and over again. It helps you save money and it helps you
look amazing. So yes, she is going to notice the way
you are dressed. However, there are some very very simple ways to make sure you
are rocking it. And we are to number six which is how he
looks physically, how physically attractive he is. Now before you start to
sweat about this, let me just tell you that I notice different things about
different guys. There's not just one thing that you either have or you don't
have. The more I learn about attraction, and guys I have studied attraction
for years very extensively, and the more I learn about attraction the more I
realize that God made us all amazing and he made us all attractive in
different ways and he made us all attracted to different things.
So everyone has traits that are attractive. We don't usually recognize it in
ourselves because we're used to it or we're comparing ourselves to others,
which is incredibly easy to do. However, there are things about you that are
incredibly attractive. For me it's different with each guy. One guy it's his
eyes, another guy it's his smile, another guy it's the way he makes me laugh,
another guy it's his arms. There are various different things that attract me
to each guy. And the more I get to know him, the more things I am attracted to.
Now the truth is, everything we just talked about leading up to this is going
to help you with your physical attraction. Like how you hold yourself
and how you dress and smiling, those things will all help. An additional thing
that I tell my clients is to work on your health and your personal
well-being. Healthy people are always attractive. They are attractive by
default. Now a lot of us freak out when it comes to health because our society
kind of works in extremes and we feel like "Oh shoot, now I've gotta like work
out for six hours and eat kale for the rest of my life." And
the truth is health really does come down to balance, a lot more than most of
us realize. So you need to find what works for you, but focus on just taking
care of yourself. Some self-care, getting appropriate exercise and eating
healthily. These are obviously things you can talk to your doctor about to get
specific help for your specific needs. The biggest thing is to take care of you.
And when you do that, it shines through and you feel and look amazing. Now that's
all for my six tips. However, now that you know some of the first things girls
notice about guys, how would you like to know some of the things that get a girl
to fall for you? Like fall hard? I've put together a free guide for you 17 Traits
Christian Women Want Most in a Man. And I think they're going to surprise you. All
you have to do is check out the link in the description below. It will ask you
for your name and your email, as soon as you enter that information I will send
it your way. And I actually have a bonus for you too. You'll also get access to my
free training on how to get the girl. So check out that link, enter your info, and
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