In today's world Kaam or lust is one of the most prominent issues that a lot of people face.
Sometimes
The younger generations or even the elder generations
Don't hear discussion on Kaam that well
Sometimes
We think we might be free from Kaam or free from lust
But we never actually go into the conversation of what is lust?
How does lust go in from the world, and how does it go into our mind?
How does it affect your mind?
Because Kaam is not just something that is a physical action?
That you do and you get in trouble for doing
Kaam is something
That your mind takes in and it develops over time
There are eight types of Kaam, Guru Piaario
Let's take this time and let's discuss those eight types of Kaam
How step by step they go into our mind.
How step by step it takes the form of the physical action or the physical Karam that we do of Kaam.
The first type or form of Kaam or lust is Sarvan.
Sarvan meaning listening.
When we listen to such conversations, such topics, such sounds
That go through our ears and through our listening, through our sensory
Organs
It reaches our mind, and if we don't take our mind away from such conversations
And which Kaam is being discussed whether it's through your friends and family
Whether it's through TV shows, social media, something that you listen to
Something that you see
You are not doing it for awareness about that topic to move yourself away
Instead, you are indulging in that
And you're wanting to know more about that
You're constantly hearing about the praise of somebody, I mean about their body.
Whether it's the opposite gender or whether it's about a specific person
You're developing these thoughts through your ears and through your eyes that go into your mind and create such thoughts
The very first form Kaam take is through sound.
We have to be very aware of this.
The second form that Kaam or lust takes is Chitvan.
Chitvan meaning constantly writing this inside of your mind.
Now it's ingrained inside of your mind.
You've indulged in those conversations.
You've seen such things.
When we bring up these topics of pornography
When we bring up these topics of dating
or talking about the sexual endeavors between boyfriends and girlfriends
We see it on YouTube, we see it in movies
Is it okay to watch and a rated or an adult rated or r-rated film
Just say I'm not indulging myself in it
I'm not gonna do that action, I'm just watching it.
But when you are constantly listening to that and now it's deeply ingrained inside of your mind next time
Somebody who should be your mother or like your sister or like your own daughter
You won't see them as such you will see a sexual object
You only see the lust inside of that and it's not something that you are doing it
You can control on the spot because it's already been deeply ingrained inside of your mind
Your mind has been trained in that
And we should not train our mind into thinking of such thoughts.
Instead of we should train our mind to move away from such thoughts
and contemplate that Chitvan towards Guru.
That conversation, that listening should be of the Shabad and that thinking should be of the Guru of the shabad
Something positive, the essence of Amrit not towards lustful thoughts.
The third form is called Baat Ekaant.
When you want to have a conversation with a specific person
alone in private
First you have listened.
Second you have written inside of your mind
And now you want to put it into action by whether it's the same gender or whether it's the opposite gender.
You want to have a conversation with that person
You have listened about that person you have written these thoughts inside of your mind about that person
And now you want to have this private conversation with them
Whether it's through text or through Facebook messaging
whether it's through whatsapp or Google Hangouts
or whether you want to physically meet that person
You have this intention not to meet them as a brother as a sister
Whether you might justify it to your mind that we are just friends.
Whether you might justify it to your mind
It's like taking oil or butter and taking it close to fire and saying no, I know that it will blow up
I know it will light to fire, but I'm just gonna test it out because I know I can control my mind
But you've already ingrained inside your mind, and you've justified it to your mind, that you're not doing it for lustful reasons
But truly in the depths of your own mind you're doing it for some sort of Kaam
Whether it's not a physical act it's not taking that form yet
It's going to lead up to that because now you want to do Baat Ekaant
You want to have a conversation with that specific person
or the specific gender on its own
You want to deal with them
You want to act, you want to spend time with them
You want to have these conversations with them
in a deeper level about these certain things
Which you might be leading towards something physical
But the third form Kaam takes is you wanting to have a conversation with that person?
The fourth form that Kaam takes is called Kal Karan.
It's now where you're developing this attachment with that person
You're speaking privately and you're having conversations whether it's through text
Justifying it to your mind that this is just brother and sister.
I'm not saying to any specific people that you can't have conversations
Yes, you can.
You can be brothers and sisters
But this is the depths of our mind
Actually think to our minds and think of our own thoughts
Where are we actually leading these conversations to
Now you're developing an attachment with that person
You're developing
The sixth form of Kaam is Parapat.
How can you keep that person to yourself forever?
How can you attain that person?
You will do whatever it takes.
This will take the form of Moh, attachment and Kaam.
It's all interlinked with each other.
You will be willing to fight others
You will be willing to sacrifice other things for this one person and that is the form that's called Parapat.
The seventh form of Kaam is Simran.
Yes, you heard that correctly: Simran, meaning constant remembrance.
Normally, we use the term Simran for living in constant remembrance of God.
This is referring to misusing that constant remembrance day and night.
Wherever you are you can't seem to live without that desire of that person.
Now no matter what you do, you will be wanting to talk to that person
Wanting to be texting that person
If that person is not texting you, you will be wanting that person to reply back
Or you will be wondering why that person is not responding to your text
You will be constantly living in that person's remembrance
This is the seventh form of Kaam.
The eighth form of Kaam is Kirtan.
Yes, you heard that correctly.
Singing the praises of that person
Do not take all of these things as negative because
Thinking about your spouse, thinking about your beloved is a good thing
But anything that's positive can be taken negative
Because in this it's not selfless and this it's just for your own selfish desire
And you are moving away from the benefit and the remembrance of God
and you're moving only into your own boundaries of your own mind in the sexual thoughts.
Now in this way you were wanting to constantly be praising that person you're constantly be wanting to
Talk about that person to that person to whomever you were talking to or speaking to
All of these things are energies.
They're characteristics, which can be used towards good
but in our own state of mind we have taken these natural characteristics
That we develop are inside of our mind and now we are taking them
And we're using them for our own selfish desire and forgetting God.
Use these characteristics. Use the Sarvan listen to Bani.
Think about Bani, speak about Gurbani, have a desire to meet our Guru.
Have a desire to sit in Sangat for the right reasons
Have a desire to meet with Gursikhs for the right reasons
Have this desire inside yourself that you want to meet God
Have this desire inside of yourself where you're constantly living in the remembrance of God.
And you have this constant desire of wanting to be singing and always be talking about your Guru and the true love.
Piaario, if you take these concepts you can misuse them and you can use them for the right reasons
Channel these energies. Set your priorities.
This will only and only come from the understanding of what is right
What is wrong
What is truth and what is false
That will come from actually learning Vidhya of Gurbani.
Giaan is one thing and Dhiaan is one thing
Developing energy is good
But misusing the energy and sending it down the wrong channels is not right.
Let's take the Giaan from the guru
I say Giaan, knowledge, light
Experience
Learn from the Guru, learn from elder Gursikhs.
Let's not try to take Gurbani and
Say that I know more about Gurbani.
Gurbani says
If you focus on Kaam,
If you make Kaam
the priority or the goal of your life
Then that will send you directly
You're walking down the path towards Narak, hell.
The topic of these eight forms of Kaam goes into a lot of depth.
This is just a very brief form
I'm trying to go through those eight forms
Let's try to take these concepts and understand them and actually look at where our mind is.
Are we falling under any of these traps?
Let's fall under that love of Guru Sahib.
Let's set our direction straight and walk that path of love.
Maharaja Khalsa Waheguru ji ki Fateh