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- You know, I'm turning 30 next week.
I'm too old for one night stand shit.
I'm looking for a serious relationship.
If I'm going to do something, I want the eventual
goal to be serious.
- Well eventually I'm looking for my wife, you know.
I wanna have a wife and kids.
Now I'm a lot more particular in like
the things that I want from another person.
When someone just has that energy of a confident,
strong woman, strong feminine power.
(laughs)
Separates people pretty easily for me.
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- Your name is Michael and this is your story.
You are 34 years old and your cultural or ethnic
background is African American.
I'm feeling really good about the Michael,
so was I right on that?
- No, not even close.
(laughing)
My name is Siaka.
- My goodness.
- Yeah, that's, yeah.
And I'm actually 37.
- Oh, well, you're welcome.
(laughing)
- I am actually African American first generation Liberians.
- Oh, wow.
- Yeah, might still run for President.
(laughing)
Your name is Tiffany and this is your story.
You're 29 years old.
Your cultural or ethnic background I would say
is Eastern European.
- Angela.
- Angela. - Yes.
- Nice to meet you, Angela.
- Nice to meet you, Siaka.
I'm 29.
(bell rings)
- Boom. - Well done.
(laughing)
- And then your background?
- Italian and German.
We're passionate and grumpy people, it's okay.
(laughing)
- Yeah.
I think now especially in the last few years,
kind of changing what I look for has really
helped me to, you know, kind of narrow it down.
I go, okay, this person's intelligent
and they work hard in what they do.
They're keeping themselves fit, they eat healthy,
you know, like those are the things that I want
to pass on to my family and to my kids now,
so if I have a partner like that, that's cool
and we've got to be able to laugh at ourselves
cause the world's too crazy and serious as it is,
so might as well as laugh as often as possible.
- I don't stick to any type so to speak,
but personality wise, just confidence without cockiness,
empathy, definitely empathy, someone who just cares.
I feel like bravado is a big thing amongst guys,
maybe that's just the terrible men I associate with.
(laughing)
It's more important to be macho and tough guys
opposed to actually give a shit about something,
so, yeah, compassion.
Definitely important.
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- Okay, so you do not make your bed every morning.
You do love to cook.
If you could only eat one thing for the rest
of your life it would be chocolate.
- I make my bed every morning.
- Really?
- Cause, so even if I screw up anything else in the rest
of my day, at least I know I made my bed.
- Okay, wow, and I like that logic behind it, too.
- I do like to cook.
(bell dings)
In fact, I enter food at the county fair.
I won some ribbons.
- The L.A. County Fair?
- Yeah. - And you won ribbons?
- Chocolate cake got second place.
And yeah.
- All right.
(laughing)
- I do like chocolate, however, the rest of my life?
- Yeah. - Wings.
(laughing)
- All types of wings?
- Every day, wings.
But I won't eat it with anybody.
I have to be by myself.
There's certain things in relationships,
just that's a certain level.
- Shouldn't see you eat wings, okay.
Check.
- No open bathroom doors.
- And no eating wings.
- No wing witnessing.
All right.
I said you do not make your bed every morning.
You do enjoy and love cooking.
If you could only eat one thing for the rest
of your life it would be sushi.
(laughing)
- Damn. - Maybe not.
- No, no, no, that's pretty, that's pretty good.
I do not make my bed every morning.
(bell dings)
But part of the reason is I have a dog and every morning
at like 7:30 she comes up and is like waiting, basically
for me to get up so then we go out and we start
doing stuff and I know if I go anywhere near my bed
again I'm going to lay down and try to go back to sleep.
So after the walk, come back in I just start
doing my life.
- Yeah, see my dogs don't even have that tolerance.
- Dogs, multiple.
- Yeah, I've got two of my own and two foster dogs,
so, they don't let me sleep in past 5:30, so.
- Geez.
- Yeah, they're terrible roommates.
(laughing)
- At least they're paying the rent on time, right?
Anyway--
- So? - So.
- Tell me, do you like to cook?
- I do like to cook.
(bell dings)
- What's your favorite dish to make?
- My Mom's rice and spinach with either fish or meat.
- Nice.
- Yeah, she makes a pretty mean spinach
that throughout my life that everyone's always
loved so I mean I even had one of my friends
in high school would come to my house,
make himself a plate first and then
come and see me in my room before.
- Priorities.
- Yeah, exactly.
- So, what are you going to eat for the rest of your life?
For the rest of my life?
- Rest of your life.
- Rice and spinach. - Oh.
- That's it.
- So we just had fish and you had sushi, so.
- By the way, the sushi call was not
far off at all.
- Oh. - Yeah.
It would be like, my mom's rice and spinach,
Fat Burner, and sushi. (laughing)
The way he story's told is Siaka is the one
that united all the tribes in Liberia
back in the day.
So everyone in the family has to name
at least one son Siaka in every generation.
It means chief, and that's why we pass it on.
Very fortunate to have a good name like that.
- Growing up the way I did, in part, the way
it was at home and part to the abandonment
by my dad, it forced like, okay, do or die,
you gotta be a grown up now.
So that was the hardest part.
And elementary school kids are not nice.
So that made it all the tougher.
- Your greatest fear about married life
is doing it right.
Your favorite TV family is, I forget
they're name, but it's pretty much Modern Family,
Modern Family family.
The most challenging thing about being
a parent is knowing when to discipline.
- I'm a bit of a perfectionist,
and I've seen it done really wrong.
- Yeah.
- And yeah, doing it once and doing it right,
absolutely. (bell dings)
My favorite TV family is Modern Family,
as a matter of fact. (bell dings)
- Really? - Yeah.
- Dude I am good at this game.
- You're killing it, I know, right?
And the most challenging thing about
being a parent will be having
to deal with a mini you.
(laughing)
And everything that your parents told
you about when you were a kid,
now you're getting slapped in the face with.
- Wait til you have kids.
- Your greatest fear is complacency,
too much routine and then getting old.
Your favorite TV family is Modern Family.
(laughing)
The most challenging thing about being a parent,
going through the growing pains
and, cause I have a feeling you'll want
to be close to your kids so when they start
going through the terrible teens, like,
that's going to hit you hard.
- Cool.
- All right.
- The greatest fear about married life
is getting it wrong.
I guess that's the best thing I can think about...
My favorite TV family is The Simpsons.
- I almost went animated.
(laughing)
- Trust your instincts.
And the reason why is because no matter
how crazy Homer is, they loved each other
and they love their kids no matter what,
no matter what.
That's like, that's, want you to be silly
and fun and things happen, and bad things
happen and great things happen.
They still love each other, and love each other
like hard.
- Yeah?
- Yeah.
(laughing)
Most challenging thing about being a parent,
holy crap, how did you get that?
That's crazy. (bell dings)
(laughing)
And I'll tell you why, because I took
a personality test, and it told me that
when I have teenage kids, that my personality
type will actually start feeling sad
and disconnected, and I started feeling
sad and disconnected about the idea
of being a parent in this imaginary situation.
- Like your hypothetical kids.
- And then I stopped and I was like,
what is wrong with me?
Is this magic?
Anyway.
- But they say you're, if your kids
are moving on and flying the coop
and not coming back to you as much,
it means you did something right.
- Yeah, that's uhh...
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All right, Angela.
When I first saw you, I decided that
I would not date you.
Initially, you seemed a little nervous,
but I get it seemed a little, I thought
I saw a lack of confidence in there,
I was like, ugh, here we go.
But after talking to you, I figured
I would date you because, just everything
you talk about and like I said, where you are,
where your mind's at, like your own drive,
and like, you showed more confidence
after I got to know you than it seemed
like you had when I first opened my eyes.
Honestly, one of the biggest things,
your drive and like, your confidence.
Like, that's pretty cool.
- Upon first seeing you, I said yes I would
go out with you.
You seemed really friendly and kind,
and just kind of had a warm aura about you
that was really inviting.
And now that we've gotten a chance
to talk, I would still go out with you.
- Awesome.
(laughing)
- Just hearing you talk about your mom
and we have similar interests as far as cooking
goes, but your overall energy, just,
I could tell you're a nice person
and that's sometimes hard to find.
- I'm like, Six Flags of fun,
is that what you're looking for?
- I was hoping for Disneyland, but I'll take it.
- Disneyland?
You were hoping for Disneyland?
Have you been to Six Flags?
- [Narrator] SoulPancake.
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