- Heya playa, if you wanna get your crush to warm up to you,
to start liking you, to wanna go out with you,
I'm gonna share five tips that you can start using
to make that happen.
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Getting your crush to warm up to you
can seem like an impossible task,
but if you're willing to take these small steps,
you can start putting the right things
in place to make it happen.
For example, the first tip is something
that people tend to overlook, but it's so powerful,
and that's to learn about their hobbies,
and show genuine interest in what they're talking about.
Because your crush is still a person, right?
They have hobbies and interests,
they have likes and dislikes,
things that they wanna talk about
and things that they don't,
so try to discover what those things are
so you can tap into those conversations.
If you're talking to them about something
they really enjoy talking about, that's a win-win.
Most people really get hung up
on trying to say the perfect line
that's gonna win them over,
instead of just asking what they like to do for fun.
Once you know what they like to do for fun, dive deeper,
whether it's play sports, listen to music,
play Fortnite, anything like that,
dive into what they're talking about
and ask them more questions about it.
Tip number two is gonna apply
to pretty much every crush you're ever gonna have.
They're gonna have their own group of friends.
So, if you can learn how to get in with their friends,
to get their friends to like you,
that's gonna make things a whole lot easier.
This is gonna require you getting to know them
just as much as you're getting to know your crush.
Keep this in mind,
if your crush's friends like you,
they're gonna talk highly about you to your crush,
and that's exactly what you want.
You want more people on your team helping support this
so that your crush can warm up to you faster.
Now I know, the thought of walking up to your crush
and their friend group,
and just talking with all of them
might seem daunting, it might seem impossible to do,
but there are small steps you can do,
I'm gonna link up a video over here,
on how to do that perfectly.
Now some of you might be in the situation
where one or all of your crush's friends don't like you.
So what do you do then?
Don't worry, I'm gonna be putting a video out
later this week that's gonna tackle that topic,
but my simple answer is this,
you're gonna need to work on repairing those relationships.
If your crush's friends don't like you,
chances are your crush is not gonna like you either.
Tip number three is important,
because it's gonna either make or break
your chances with your crush, so listen up closely.
Be confident and honest with them about what you want.
Sometimes people run the risk
of getting themselves friend-zoned
because they're too shy, or too timid,
or not as forward with their crush as they may want to be.
And because of that, their crush doesn't really see
any romantic chances there.
Yeah, they're warming up to you,
but just not in the right way.
And the major problem there
is that you might think that just by
being around your crush a lot,
that's a sign that they like you,
but in reality, if you're not being confident
and talking to them,
if you're not flirting, if you're not suggesting
that the two of you go out and do things,
yeah, it's just not gonna work out,
and your crush is not gonna warm up to you
in a romantic sense.
So, change your perspective,
be confident, be forward, and go after them.
Tip number four might sound contrary
to the last thing I shared,
but that's for you to not rush into things.
Being desperate and showing that to your crush
is gonna turn them off.
It's not gonna have them warm up to you.
They're gonna feel too pressured, too on the spot,
like they have to make a decision,
and that's not exactly the type of way
you wanna start things.
Just because you're putting in
the time and effort to talk to them
doesn't mean they have to like you any sooner than they do.
Remember, everyone works on their own accord,
so your crush might be someone
that takes longer to develop their feelings.
Don't rush into things,
don't put pressure on them,
because that might actually break the whole experience.
Sometimes people get frustrated
if their crush isn't clear
about whether or not they wanna date,
or what they wanna do, or where the two of you stand.
So don't put that pressure on,
ride the wave, get to know them better,
get them to like you more by doing these little things
and you'll see, over time, you'll know where you guys stand.
Tip number five, it's kinda like the icing on the cake here.
If you're not already doing this, you should be,
and that's to spend one-on-one time with your crush.
Sure, you can learn more about them in other situations,
like in class, in the hallway, with your friends,
with their friends,
but it's really spending that one-on-one time together
that the two of you are really gonna
get on the same wavelength.
You're gonna learn more about each other personally
because your focus is only on the other person.
There's no distractions,
no one else to interfere, or interject in the conversation,
this is your prime time to start warming up to them.
So, if you really wanna kinda kick that up a notch,
you need to ask them to hang out one-on-one,
and you need to actually go for it.
People enjoy being around others
that are energetic, and fun, and excited about life.
So, be that person whenever you talk to your crush,
that's the best way to get them to warm up to you.
But, you're gonna have to put the work in
if you wanna make it happen.
What do you think though?
Where would you say things are with you and your crush?
Are they super-cold, they're just freezing?
Are they lukewarm, or are they burning hot?
Leave your comments down below, and let's talk about it.
Now if you really wanna learn
how to build better relationships,
you definitely need to check out my book,
"Embracing the Awkward."
I cover it in this book,
I break down how to build a healthy relationship,
how to be a confident person,
how to deal with insecurities and failures.
This book is gonna be the one to help you.
And also, check out the playlist
right there on your screen right now
to learn more about how to start conversations with anyone.
You can talk to them about anything you're interested in,
you can learn about their interests,
how to make it work no matter what your situation is.
Check it out guys, and I'll see you tomorrow.
As always, love and peace.