Heya playa, have you ever tried to send a friend request to your crush only to get denied
by them? Don't worry, in this video, I'm going to explain exactly what you need to do to
get them to accept your friend request along with the things you need to stop doing if
you are. I see a lot of people make these mistakes and I want to help you get closer
to your crush so stay tuned. This is The Josh Speaks. You're watching The Josh Speaks. For
those of you that are new here, my name is Josh and every single week I make videos sharing
tips, ideas and stories teaching you how to be your best self and one of the most common
mistakes that I see people make early on is that they send a friend request to their crush
way too soon. They think hey I like this person, I want to get to know them, let me just friend
request them when you've never interacted with them, you never talk to them, you've
never had any type of engagement with them before. Think about it like this, you get
a friend request from a username you've never seen before and a profile picture that looks
incredibly unfamiliar. Why would you add that person if you don't even know who they are?
So to avoid that, the first tip is to get to know your crush in person. If you see them
in school, approach them. If you see them with a group of friends, try talking to all
of those people. The key here is for your crush to get a better understanding of who
you are so you're not so unfamiliar around them. As you talk to your crush and get on
their good side, you may want to casually drop in the conversation "Hey, I have this
really cool video I want to share with you. What's your username so I can add you?". Now
they have a reason to accept your friend request because you want to share something personal
with them. But let's say you're incredibly nervous about approaching your crush. Is there
something else that you can do? Well, think about the different mutual friends you have
in common with your crush because tip #2 is to get one of your mutual friends to set up
a group chat with you, your crush, and a bunch of other people. Here's the thing, you want
your crush to start to be more familiar with your profile name, and being in a group chat
gives them that opportunity. You can interact with your friends, you can interact with your
crush, you can kind of just talk to different people in your group without it being weird.
It's not an awkward one on one conversation, it's a whole group dynamic happening. Plus
if you're interacting with other people, you're joking around, you're having a good time,
your crush is gonna see that and start to get more comfortable with the idea of interacting
with you too. Being in a group chat also alleviates some of the pressure of talking to your crush
directly. You may ask the whole group a question or you may just specifically ask your crush
a question. In this context, it doesn't seem weird. It doesn't seem like you're being overboard
with flirting or trying to get to know them, you're just trying to get to know them like
everyone else so it eases a bit of the tension that comes with those conversations. And another
way that you can up the ante, even more, is to follow tip #3 and that's to get to know
your crush's friends. Your crush's friends are gonna be the doorway to getting closer
to your crush. If they accept you, if they like you, if they talk positively about you
then your crush is going to accept you too. Now, this may be hard if every single one
of your crush's friends profiles is private so seek out the ones that are public and interact
with them, comment on their pictures, ask them questions, like their stories. Whatever
it may be, show them that you're a fun and engaging person. The more you can do that,
the better chance you'll have of your crush actually accepting your friend request when
you finally send it over because you'll have built that social proof and social proof goes
a long way. Your crush will see that you're a fun, engaging person, you talk and interact
with their friends so why wouldn't they want to get to know you better? And while knowing
what to do is good, it's also equally important to know what not to do and the first thing
you definitely shouldn't do is create a fake profile to try to add your crush hoping that
they'll add them because "who is this person?". They're curious, they don't know who they
are and they just wanna see their profile. I've seen people do this with meme accounts
and profiles they created just yesterday. Zero posts, zero followers, zero anything.
Look, the key to getting closer to your crush and having them accept your friend's request
is to build that level of comfort and connection with them. Just because they won't add you
the first time around doesn't mean you can't change their mind the second time around.
But, you're only going to get them if you build that connection with them. The next
thing you definitely don't want to do is harass them if they don't accept your friend request.
I see people do this all the time as well and they don't always see it as harassing
but when you're sending someone messages like "hey, hey, hey, respond, answer me, why won't
you accept me, why won't you answer me, hey, hey, how's it going?", all these kinds of
messages can just be overboard and actually hurt your chances of getting closer to them.
But above all else, what you definitely don't want to do is feel entitled as if they owe
you that friend request simply because you've been nice to them and you followed all the
tips that I outlined before. Look, no one owes you anything here. Your crush may not
want to accept your friend's request at the end of the day just because they don't want
to. They don't have to, there's nothing you can do to force them to. You shouldn't follow
any of these pretend online Instagram hackers that tell you they can get into your crush's
profiles, no. The key here is to get to know your crush on a deeper more personal level.
Let them be more familiar with your username and your profile, let them be more familiar
with your personality. That's how you're going to build that connection with them, that's
how you're going to get them to actually accept your friend request and want to interact with
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guys to check out the resources. These videos over here are going to be super helpful for
you in getting closer to your crush. In building that online social media connection you desperately
want to with them. It's not easy but there are small steps that you can take to start
to get in a good light with them to get them to start to like you, and interact with you
and text you back the way that you want them to. Check out those videos guys and I'll catch
you next time. As always, love and peace.