Matt: Have you ever been in a situation where you met a girl, you're talking to her but
you're not sure if she's really that into you. Or maybe you've known a girl
for a while and you have a common group of friends, but you're not sure if she
wants to be more than friends. I'm Matt Artisan and in this video I'll break
down how to know if she's interested in you.
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Matt: Okay look, I know women can be hard
to read sometimes they don't always give us guys clear signals. It's just not in
their nature to tell a guy when to make the move. She's probably not gonna tell
you... Laura: "Okay I want you to kiss me now!" Matt: or Laura: "Yes, you can take me back to your place now."
Matt: Women don't usually do that. They just expect the guy to know when to make
the move and it's all about reading her sub communication. You see, women do
certain things to let a guy know that she's interested, so let's break that
down. But before we begin I want to mention two things, number one, subscribe
to this channel right now because we're always coming out with fresh new videos.
And number two, I want to make a disclaimer. Because I see a lot of new
students falling into a deadly trap when it comes to this. A lot of guys when
they're talking to a girl will constantly look for signals to see if
she's interested. They're trying to look for any clue to see if she likes them, a
lot of guys won't even approach a girl unless they know that the girl likes
them. It's because they don't want to get rejected. And I get it man,
rejection sucks. Hey baby... how's it going? But here's the deal, if you're with a girl
and you keep thinking.. Does she like me? Oh she just flipped her hair does that
mean she likes me? Oh she just stepped back! Does that mean she doesn't like me?
She touched my arm! I think she likes me! Oh she's going back to her friends, maybe
she's not interested? What you're doing here is putting her on a pedestal, and
making her the prize, and unconsciously you're trying to prove yourself to her,
and win her over. And I can tell you right now that if you do that, you're not
gonna get the girl. So when you first see a girl that you want to talk to, don't
care about signs of interest, don't wonder whether this girl likes you or
not, instead wonder whether you are gonna like her or not. Have the attitude of "hmm
let's go see if this girl is special" or "I wonder what's special about this girl?"
Let's go find out. You have to assume that she wants you
man! And that she needs to prove herself to you. You want her reacting to you, you
need to have the mindset that you are the prize, and that she'd love to be with
you. She just doesn't know it yet. That's the mindset of a guy that actually gets
girls. So now that I've given you the disclaimer,
let's go over the signs that tell you if she's interested. According to
anthropologist Helen Fisher, the human body decides if they find someone
attractive within one second of looking at them. Literally the instant she sees
you, she knows whether she's DTF or not. Doesn't mean she'll go home with you
right then and there, you still got to do some work but you'll put you in the
potential lover category or not very very quickly. Again, women
don't tell you straight up if they're into you or not, you just have to look at
their body language. When human beings are attracted to someone blood flows to
their cheeks and they can't help but blush. If her cheeks are red and she's
blushing, there's a good chance she's into you, or she just put on a lot of
blush. Prolonged eye contact is another huge indicator of attraction, but don't
think that just because a girl looks away, it means she's not interested. Often
women look away because they're just nervous, or they don't want to seem too
interested in you. You know it's kind of creepy or weird if you just keep staring,
if a girl does keep staring at you and never looks away.... then run like hell!
She's probably crazy and we'll be waiting for you in your bushes when you
get home. Let's face it, those guys are just not that perceptive especially when
it comes to women, so I gotta clarify again if you're waiting around looking
for these signals for her to, you know, tell you to come approach her, just go
approach her. If you wait around trying to make sure that you see all the right
signs, then you're gonna miss out on a lot of opportunities, and probably work
yourself into a frenzy from all the waiting around and chicken out. Now
once you've made your approach, and you're talking to a woman, there's a few
more signs that you can look for to tell if she likes you. When you're attracted
to someone, your heart starts pumping faster. So you can either break out your
stethoscope, or listen to hear if she's breathing heavy. You can also check out
her pupils. Our pupils tend to dilate when were attracted to someone. Look down
towards her feet, if her feet are facing you, then she's subconsciously trying to
align herself up with you. If her feet are pointing away, there's a good chance
she wants to leave. Check out her arms, specifically her sleeves. Women that are
attracted to someone tend to roll up their sleeves as a subconscious way to
show off more skin. Another thing that women tend to do when
they're attracted to a guy is close the distance between her and the guy but
this goes beyond just her moving closer to you, if she moves a glass or a menu
closer to you that could be a subconscious sign that she wants to be
closer to you. Or she just wants you to buy her something off the menu! If a
girl's into you, she'll likely touch her hair or back of her neck. This isn't a
conscious decision, rather, a primal instinct to expose her armpits which
release sex hormones designed to turn you on. That's right, it's a not B.O.
it's sex hormones... Well, that being said, I can't stress enough that you really
don't need to worry about all these signs. The problem is that most guys
don't notice any of these signs, and so they don't make a move and they end up
losing the girl, because she gets tired of waiting around for the guy to man up.
So I say if you like a girl then go for it! Make a move. If she's not into you
then she'll make it perfectly clear. The only sign you really need is whether
she's staying with you or not. If she's not interested then she'll probably excuse herself.
So quick story, one time I met a girl on the streets of London and we went on an
instant date together. I went like this like to go arm in arm like the
chivalrous man that I am, and she kind of like did this, and like, you know, showed a
lack of interest. And I grabbed her hand later to cross the street and she pulled
it away quickly, she wasn't touching at all and was not
receptive to my touch at all, she wasn't really asking me a lot of questions on
the date, which by the way is another sign of interest, if she's asking you
questions. And basically not showing any signs including the ones that I talked
about here, and at one point at the second venue, which was the W Hotel, I was
thinking about bailing because I wasn't getting any of these signs. But I
remembered she's coming with me to every venue that I suggest, you know, she's here
with me so she probably likes me maybe she's just not a touch sure and she's
just not social, whatever. So eventually I said, "Hey let's go back to my place" and
she complied and I would have missed out on a pretty fun experience if I would
have just given up because I didn't see any of the standard signs. So if one way
of making the move or escalating doesn't work, for example in that case, it was
touching her was not working, she was not a touchy girl, try a different form of
escalation. In that case, it was moving from venue to venue and see if that
works. Of course if she's not receptive to any form of, you know, moving the
interaction forward, then she's probably not interested. So to help you escalate
things all the way to the bedroom, I created a free escalation cheat sheet,
It's filled with advanced escalation techniques that will turn a platonic
friendly vibe into a more sexual, "I want to rip your clothes off!" vibe. This is
very useful when you're talking to girls and it's going nowhere. Click the image
in the bottom right of the screen right now, to download your free escalation
cheat sheet. There's also a link down in the description, get it because you'll
want to keep it handy before you go out. And if you're not already subscribed, hit
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check out our boot camp schedule. My name is Matt Artisan from The Attractive Man,
and I'll see you in the next video.