welcome back to my channel Enneagram and Coaching, I'm Hillary your Certified Enneagram
Coach and today we are going to learn about the enneagram triads but before we get started
guys i got another coffee another person um gave me their favorite coffee order and this one
is from candy and it's a grande ice skinny cinnamon dolce with almond milk i think that's
how you say it i don't know um but thank you so much i did just try it and i loved it and so this
is gonna get me through this video it's iced it's cold it's cinnamon i love it it tastes a little
bit like fall to me and i am ready for fall you know i live in Arizona it's still super hot here
last week in last week's video you would have seen that my air conditioning broke and so we had a few
days with no air at all and the temps were like 110 115 it was terrible but thankfully it's all
taken care of the air is back on in our house and this cold drink is gonna help me get through this
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ado let's get started with the video about the enneagram triads so let's start with the enneagram
you have the enneagram you have the circle you have all nine numbers around the circle they're
the types you have the type nine at the top and it goes all the way around and then you have the
wings and those are the numbers on either side of your dominant type so you're only gonna have
one dominant type out of all nine numbers and then the next step is your wings and those are the
like i said the numbers on either side of your dominant type um for example if you type nine then
your wings would be an eight and a one and one of those would be dominant and if you need more
information or teaching on wings i have a whole series of wings already done and i'll put that
in the description box below and then the next thing you have is arrows and again i'm going to
use the nine as an example the nine goes towards the six in stress and the three in health and so
you have the enneagram you have your dominant type the example is the nine the wings are the eight
and one and then now you have your arrows which is stress arrow is the six health arrow is the three
so i'm building we're building up to the triads and the next thing you have is the stances
and if you don't know what a stance is the four five and nine are in the withdrawn stance the
three seven and eight are in the assertive stance and then the one two and six are in the compliance
stance and i've already done a video covering the stances and i'll link that one down below too and
then the next step is the triads and that's what we are covering today and the triads are actually
also known as the centers of intelligence so to break it down there are three triads
and within each triad there are three types in there the first triad is the gut triad that's the
eight nine and one those three types are going to be in that triad and then you have the heart
triad which is the two three and four those types are going to be in that triad and then you have
the head triad and the five six and seven is going to be in the head tried this can help us figure
out your type just by knowing like which instinct is your first instinct so like i said you have the
gut triad the heart triad and the head triad and therefore your enneagram type the one that
is most dominant in you determines which triad you belong to each type will process respond and
react to life from their center of intelligence we learn and engage through our gut our heart
and our head and like i said each type will fall into one of these categories and an important
piece is you will have all three but one is your dominant instinct each of these three groups also
contain an underlying emotion which is anger shame and fear so understanding our triad it helps us to
recognize how we operate in the world and when i say that uh say again the example is the type nine
so they are in the gut triad and their underlying emotion is anger which we're gonna dig deeper into
that in a minute this is how they operate in the world and the other two the head and the heart one
is usually a blind spot and the other one is used a little bit and so one is dominant one is used
you know has been developed a little bit and then sometimes one is a blind spot the goal is to be
able to use all three because i would think you know the head the heart and the gut they're all
really good instincts that we actually need and so we need these to be more balanced in us
like i said all three are needed to operate in the world the other piece which you guys know
this sometimes is my favorite piece is it will help you not only understand how you operate
but it'll help you understand the people in your world and their instincts and how they operate and
what drives them this will help with communication and connection with others and so this is another
great piece to the enneagram so let's start with a triad and break it down the first triad i want
to start with is the gut triad and like i said the eight nine and one are in this triad and you
might hear this triad called the gut triad like i said or the body center sometimes you'll hear
it called that because like you're really in tune with your body your gut you're really in tune with
that it's that gut instinct you know they they make decisions based on their gut instinct and
again they may consider thoughts which would be in the head triad and emotions which would be in the
heart triad but they are driven by their gut instinct and the struggle for the eight nine
and one is anger like i said earlier each triad has an underlying emotion this one's is anger and
so let's start with the eight what do they do with anger will they externalize it they're not afraid
of this emotion anger to them it's just an emotion and this can make them seem like they are angry
even when they don't think they are and my husband is a type 8 and i actually tell him
every once in a while like i you seem angry and he'll say like i'm not even angry and i'm like
wow you seem angry and it's just for them they just are externalizing it and they don't even
realize it sometimes the next type is the type nine and what do they do with anger they repress
it yes i'm a type nine um you know that and i definitely can relate to repressing my anger
all the way to where a nine they won't even know they are angry
because they are asleep to it but they experience anger and i know i have coached a lot of type
nines and a lot of times we have to dig really deep to figure out why they're angry where the
anger is because they've repressed it they've ignored it they don't even know it's there
they don't even know they experience it they stuff it down that will only work for a while
and maybe a while is a week or a month or six months um super unhealthy if it lasts that long
because you're stuffing it and you're stuffing it and eventually a type 9 will explode and
it'll shock them sometimes they'll go where did all that anger come from and it's because
it is in there they just fall asleep to it and here's the key for type 9 that i want to say it
takes a lot of energy to not deal with your anger so if you're tired all the time you might want to
do some self-work and self-reflection and asking yourself like am i angry and dig deep because
repressing that anger takes a lot of energy and it will make you feel physically tired all the time
and so that's just a little tidbit as a nine i want to give you nines out there and the last one
in this triad is the type one and what do they do with their anger they internalize it which means
they try and control it the ones they see anger as a flaw or something bad and so they'll internalize
it and inwardly they'll be really angry and which will actually come out sideways they don't even
know this sometimes but the anger seeps out of a one so you got the the eight where it's
it just comes out the nine they push it in well the one it seeps out and what that looks like is
they're extremely self-critical they become critical of others they'll start using sarcasm
different little things to let that anger seep out if you are one hopefully that would help you
recognize your anger and be able to deal with it in a more healthy way all right so that was
the gut triad i hope if you are an eight nine or one this helped you understand um your instinct
and also the underlying emotion in that instinct so let's move on to the heart triad
which is the types two three and four they are in the heart triad so these three types they process
their feelings first and people might think that they are too much or too sensitive because of
this and then they can be these three types can be concerned with self-image and it will look
differently in all three types all three types invest a lot of energy in this because they are
trying to validate their worth to others and all the type 2 the type 3 and the type 4 all do that
differently and the struggle in this triad is shame and so that's that underlying emotion and
what that looks like in the type 2 is this type they are very very in tune with other people's
emotions i've actually heard it said they have like these little antennas and they could feel the
room and they could feel what's going on they're very in tune with other people's emotions and what
that does for them is they can pick up on other people's emotions and they can pick up on other
people's needs and they will do for other people they're constantly trying to do for other people
and why because they have this need for validation and what this does for them is it helps them avoid
their struggle which is shame and the thing with the two is they will convince themselves
that they don't have any needs so that they can help everybody else around them they're always
helping everybody and figuring out what everyone else's needs and they actually convince themselves
that they don't even have needs all right so let's move on to the type three they are in the middle
of this triad and the crazy thing is is you know like i said all three types deal with feelings
and the threes in the middle so both of their wings are still in the heart triad
and so you would think like they are all heart and interesting enough they have the least access
to their own feelings which they think helps them accomplish their goals and be successful and what
this means for them is they feel like they need to be admired in order to avoid feeling shame
and so that's how they deal with it and let's move on to the last one in this triad which is the type
four and this one they are their emotions they feel everything extremely deep it's so intense
in them and how do they handle shame by pursuing what makes them different from others and then
also sadness and melancholy are part of their struggle with shame and so that's how they're
handling that underlying emotion okay so let's move on to the last triad which is the head triad
and the five six and seven they're all in this triad and this one has been known to be called
the thinking triad two so you might hear it called head triad you might hear it called thinking triad
it means the same thing so the five six and seven they spend a lot of time in their head they will
want to face problems logically and think through them their main concern is security and survival
and when this need isn't met they could feel anxious stressed and fear and i would say the
problem for the types five six and seven that arises is when they camp out too long in their
head which causes them to detach from their gut instinct and their feeling instinct right they
just stay in that head instinct and the struggle for these types the type five six and seven is
fear and what that looks like for the type five is they may believe that the only safe place
is in their minds because they're gonna they might feel anxious and fearful that they don't
know enough to actually be in the world so they will spend a lot of time thinking and studying
to avoid that struggle of fear moving on to the type six that how does their fear come out it
comes out as thinking about all those worst case scenarios all the time constantly spinning in your
head being afraid and fearful of those worst case scenarios and what they're most afraid of is what
if something bad happens or something goes wrong that they don't know how to handle they can doubt
their own ability to make a good decision and so they'll seek outside guidance to help them make
decisions and that's how they handle and deal with the struggle of fear and the last one is
the type seven how does that emotion of fear look in them well they are fearful about being trapped
and having to deal with their inner world they are avoiders they avoid boredom pain fear by running
after experiences and stimulation and so that's what's driving them so they're they're going after
all those activities and and things that are um you know experiences and whatnot and and what are
they trying to avoid the fear the fear of being trapped internally and having to deal with painful
feelings and emotions and things like that and so that's how they handle that struggle so those
are the three triads and in the end we need all three like i said at the beginning right the gut
the heart and the mind we need all three using all three will help us be fully engaged to live
our most authentic and loving selves right and so having all three of those will help with that and
as you learn today each type develops strategies and attempt to make up for their types imbalance
within their triad and the key in learning this and learning about the triads today is when you
have self-awareness in all three you can overcome and move forward in the direction of growth and so
that's why it's important not to only learn about your own triad but learn about all three because
you need all three you need the heart you need the mind and you need the body we have access to all
three and so it's important that we learn about all three and use all three so my hope for you
today is that this helped you even if you didn't even know your type if you started watching this
and you were like i don't know my type and then you started thinking about it and you're like ah
i really really resonated with anger being that underlying emotion well that means you're
probably an eight nine or one so the next step is to research those more in depth and um and
then if you already knew your type hopefully this helped you go okay i know my type i know my wings
i understand where my arrows go i understand my stance and now i understand my triad and it's
all they all build upon each other and help you grow and flourish and become your best self like
i said earlier and the next thing i'm going to be teaching on is subtypes and if you want to know
your subtype push that subscribe button below because that is coming i've been trying to just
slowly do this build up to where if you have a good foundation built then you're gonna understand
um the next piece which is subtypes because it goes more in depth and i just don't want you guys
to be confused i want you to fully understand um the gift of the enneagram this gift this
tool that we've been gifted to be able to use to understand ourselves better and understand those
in our world better so don't forget to subscribe and like this video i really appreciate it when
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watching this video and you're like gosh i really need someone to help me figure out my type well
i offer a discover you typing session and i will link that down below and it's where we meet for an
hour over skype or zoom or facetime or whatever you know method that you want to use and we have
a whole hour to dig super deep and figure out your type your wing um and usually your
subtypes so it's a great time i just want to let you guys know that that is out there
for you to figure out your type so until next time guys thanks so much for watching bye guys
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