- All right everyone.
I've got some chamomile tea here,
so hopefully I don't just fall asleep
in the middle of the video.
That would be embarrassing.
Yet somehow he still edits it posts it.
What?
The INFJ, what's the title of this?
"The INFJ's Fear"
Yeah, everyone's afraid of basically all the same stuff.
This isn't to say INFJs are specifically afraid of this,
but what I see out there is that personality type
really does affect the degree
to which you get freaked out by stuff,
and like two people can be, can have the same fears,
but one person will be way more freaked out about one thing
and the other person will be way more freaked out
about the other thing and relatively okay,
even though they're still afraid of the thing
that the other person is afraid of.
Wow, things get confusing when you don't use specifics.
Or two people can be equally afraid of something
but they just interpret it in different ways,
so they're afraid of it for different reasons.
You see what I mean?
And as many things on the channel,
it comes down to that pesky extraverted sensing,
the inferior function of the INFJ,
and so like many of my videos
this is also entirely applicable to INTJs,
however it is a very inelegant title
to say "The INFJ and INTJ's Fear."
You get, it's a limitation of YouTube.
Why, why is it that the,
and how does the Se, the extraverted sensing being
our inferior function make us afraid of stuff?
What does it make us afraid of?
What's really going on down there?
In some ways that question itself is
almost like what the fear is.
What's going on?
I don't know what's going on,
in a nutshell that's what it is,
but keep watching so that I can expostulate upon that point.
So a quick rundown, extraverted sensing, it's actually
like the easiest cognitive function to explain.
Its just awareness.
It's the five senses, the present moment.
What is factual?
What's happening right now?
The physical concrete world objectively,
no interpretation or anything.
So that's what we're repressing as INFJs
in favor of the opposite function
of that introverted intuition which is about,
instead of like being wide open,
extraverted sensing is wide open.
We gotta sense everything.
What's happening objectively?
Everything.
Introverted intuition, it's introverted so it's subjective,
so it's just, it's really narrow,
it's about organizing all the facts.
It's like taking in that wide variety of facts
and organizing them and then also putting meaning to them,
like the organizing is sort of like giving them all meaning,
seeing more to the patterns
behind all the stuff that's going on.
So an INFJ is sort of like
I want to collect as few facts as possible,
as few data points from the outside world
through my Se as possible
and just connect the dots using my Ni.
I just, that's what I want to put my work in with.
That's my workhorse, the introverted intuition.
I'm just looking at what's going on underneath.
What are the patterns?
I'll fill in all the blanks.
I don't need to see what's actually going on.
If I understand why things are happening
then I don't actually have to understand
or know what is happening.
Do you see the problem that could arise from this dynamic?
That's the root of the fears is like,
"I don't know what's going on,"
and what happens is your whole life, everyone's life,
has this recurring problem that happens
because of the push pull
between the dominant and inferior functions.
Your inferior function is down there and you might be like,
"Oh, that's a cool function.
"I like that.
"This is great,"
but actually you're sort of like,
"I don't, why would I do that?
"I'm not, I don't need to do that.
"Who needs that?
"Who needs extraverted sensing?
"I'm doing my introverted intuition.
"F the Se."
You know what I mean?
But then because you're ignoring it so much,
all this stuff piles up in that area of your perception,
'cause those are the perceiving functions.
It's how you perceive reality.
They're both perceiving reality,
it's just that one is the like concrete reality,
one is abstract reality,
so you've basically cut yourself off from half of reality.
Not good.
Why don't we stop really quick
and support this channel with a commercial break?
To put it very simply it's sort of like,
"I don't know what's going on right in front of me,
"I don't see the facts,"
and then stuff happens because of that.
You just like ignore stuff that's going wrong,
just like something simple.
Your washing machine slowly over time breaks down
and then explodes one day,
and it's because you just haven't been paying attention,
you haven't seen what's been going on,
or maybe you did see it and you're like,
"I'm not responsible for that."
Now let me figure out maybe a way where
I can figure out how to work around this,
you know, some kinda crazy intuitive way
of systematizing my laundry
so that I can use the washing machine
while it's sort of broken, but it doesn't get too broken,
but then it all falls apart in the end.
That was a really convoluted example but I went for it.
So that's like a very real thing that could happen,
but then you start to
like blow it out of proportion with everything,
and it's like, "What do I not know?
"What's going on that I don't know behind the scenes?"
'cause my washing machine,
I didn't know what was going on with that,
so then what's going on with the government, huh?
What's going on with the plane I'm flying in?
Does it have a fatally-stripped jackscrew
that's gonna make the tail fly off?
It's happened before.
The INFJs are all waiting around for something,
some fact, something that we should've seen
just coming up and slapping us across the face one day,
coming out of freaking nowhere.
This dynamic is also a big thing about,
introverted intuition is about keeping things under control,
keeping things organized,
and extraverted sensing is like not organized at all,
it's just wide open, it's randomness,
it's without inherent meaning really.
So that's a part of the issue is
we're afraid of the randomness.
We're afraid of that explosion of chaos,
and I think there's also this thing of
when you're so far in on one function
on the introverted intuition
and then something bad happens where stuff does blow up
and you have to deal with the extraverted sensing,
it's not good.
It's like a really unhealthy way
where it can feel like everything is meaningless,
like you go into the extraverted sensing,
"I'm experiencing life as it's coming.
"There's no pattern.
"It's all randomness,"
but you don't handle it well
and you just think like, you just become nihilistic.
It's devastating in a way,
and that's the problem is like you swing back
and forth between introverted intuition,
which to me seems like finding meaning in everything,
because it's like pulling everything together
into one big pattern,
and a pattern is just is essentially meaning,
and so then when you're forced
to get out of that to its opposite,
it's such a jarring thing and it's extremely unpleasant,
whereas if you had just been doing the extraverted sensing
all along you would find a way to balance the two,
but it's really difficult
when it's your inferior function, to balance it.
It's sort of all or nothing.
You're either going all in on the introverted intuition
or you're having a swing into the extraverted sensing
and it's not pretty.
So all this is to say your fears about all the random chaos
and the meaninglessness and the randomness,
and to me it feels sort of like
something's gonna happen one day
where I'm just suddenly gonna lose any faith in anything
and I'm just gonna suddenly realize
that everything is totally pointless,
and you know I have these moments occasionally
where things sort of feel like that but then I bounce back,
but I'm worried there's gonna be a big one.
There's gonna be a Humunga Dunga one day
where I'm just gonna be like,
"That's it, I'm done.
"This was nice but I have, the veil has been stripped back
"and now I know this is all totally pointless and stupid,"
and that's like a big fear that
that's gonna happen one day.
Yeah, like so let me go
into this a little bit more personally.
You know I don't like to make videos about current events
because I would like my video to be somewhat relevant,
you know, a few months from now,
but right now what's going on in the world is a pandemic,
it's a pretty big deal,
but what bothers me, like what I get most afraid of
in this situation isn't like getting sick
or even like family members getting sick,
although I'm concerned about that,
but it's like I don't,
I feel like statistically we're probably okay,
but like what worries me is what's going on
behind the scenes with like the government?
What are people,
how are they working things out together
that we don't know about?
What's gonna happen with that, huh?
How are things gonna change drastically with all that?
Or it's like with the economy,
with all the stuff that's shut down,
what's, how are things gonna change after that?
Is life gonna be totally different?
Who knows?
And part of me is an eternal optimist
so I don't get too worked up about it,
but when I do worry, I don't always worry,
but when I do, those are the things I worry about,
and so I just try to tell myself
that a lot of it is just this feeling like I need to,
like I'm really afraid of the chaos
and I'm really afraid of like what I don't know,
and that's the thing that freaks me out the most,
and when you're facing anything,
whether it's a pandemic,
whether it's getting on a plane
or, you know, just your day-to-day life,
when you're feeling afraid, anxious,
about these kind of things and you can identify,
Oh, it's because I'm afraid of the chaos.
I'm afraid of the randomness.
I'm afraid of the unknown.
The what, like not the unknown
in terms of I don't know why it's happening,
but I don't know what,
I don't actually know what's happening
and I know I'm missing something.
There's something I'm missing, crap.
It's not like you can make yourself unafraid,
but you can start to realize
"I'm fanning flames of fear
"that might be there for anyone,
"but I'm making them worse
"because of these specific things
"that are related to my type,
"related to my inferior function,"
and then the way to slowly build yourself up
so that you're not so freakishly afraid of these things is
to start to get into that extraverted sensing
in a healthy way, like work on that,
work on dialing down all of that
I'm gonna see the pattern and the meaning,
and all that and open up
to what's actually happening in the present moment,
what's real, what's actually real.
Let's not worry about the patterns and the meanings,
let's worry about what is real
and factual in the concrete world.
I think that's the best thing an INFJ can do
to become like overall a less anxious person,
a less fearful person, is to work on that kind of thing,
of just being now, being with all the stuff
that's actually happening and being like,
"I don't, it's okay if I don't have control over it,
"like I can just take things as they come.
"It's okay if I don't have it all organized.
"It's okay if I don't know certain things
"because I can see it
"if I just bring myself into the present moment."
Well maybe you can't see everything, but that's okay too,
that you can't see everything.
If you can bring yourself to see more things
then it's not as big of a shock
when you miss a few things here and there.
So yeah that's the INFJ fear.
That's what I had to say about that,
and I thank you for watching.
I hope you're doing well.
I hope you are being responsible during this time,
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