Heya playa, is there a celebrity that you are obsessed with?
Every single day you're constantly thinking about them and refreshing
your social media feed wondering maybe one day I'll meet them and we'll be together?
Well, it's not gonna happen.
So, here's how to get over your celebrity crush in the most normal way possible.
First off, I'm using the word normal here because it's totally normal to have a celebrity crush.
Think about it.
You see this person all the time online.
You're watching YouTube videos, you see their Instagram post, you hear about them in the news.
They are a celebrity for a reason, people want to know about their lives.
So, when you hear about someone over and over, you're probably going to take an interest in them.
And maybe the reason why you're just a little bit obsessed with them is because
you think they're super talented, or they're super awesome and funny,
or let's be realistic, you just think they're super hot.
"I mean dude, come on. Look through her feed here. She's just is always having fun with her friends,
she always has a smile on her face, she's always having a good time."
"Yeah that's true but those are also all bikini shots."
"What are you talking about, she posts more than that.
No, these are all bikini shots. Yeah, I just like her cause she's hot."
What I want you to focus on here is to stop simping for that celebrity.
If you find yourself in the constant rat race of liking and commenting on all their
pictures just to get a response from them or joining their live streams and spam commenting
in there just so they can acknowledge you or even just paying for their OnlyFans because
you want to get a message back from them so they know who you are and know that you exist,
what you're really looking for is validation and acceptance from someone that you care about.
And I have to break it to you but forming a parasocial relationship
with that celebrity where you know everything about their lives but
they don't really know anything about you is not gonna really give it to you.
So if you want to get over that oneitis for your
celebrity crush try diversifying the people that you follow online.
The same goes for any crush that you have.
If they're the only person in your life that you're focusing on,
your intention is only going to be aimed at them.
But as you incorporate more people that you want to get to know, people that you like,
it's going to be easier to not always be thinking
about them because you're going to have more options on the table.
And just like with any other type of oneitis, your mind might instantly go to but they understand me,
we're so alike, we have so much in common, they are the perfect person for me.
The simple fact is it's not true, they don't know who you are.
And this behavior of feeling like you belong with them or you should be with them
is not healthy, it's not going to help you prosper as an individual.
Now look, only in the most extreme cases I would recommend blocking that celebrity
if you feel like thinking about them leads to some kind of self-harm or negative thought but
in other cases, if you just like that person, I would lean more into the things that they offer.
Maybe they make some kind of music or art online
or they just create things that inspire you to want to create stuff yourself,
use that energy that you have that's focused on them, and turn it into something positive.
Something that you can also put out there into the world that can help people along the way.
And something I really want to drive home here is that as you get older,
your infatuation for that celebrity crush will evolve and change.
It happened with me.
When I was an early teenager I was obsessed with Hilary Duff.
I had all her albums, I had seen all her movies, I had watched her perform in concert multiple times.
I even had posters of her on my wall in my college dorm room, no joke I literally
thought she was the most beautiful celebrity in the entire world and I was obsessed with her.
But, as I got older that obsession started to turn into admiration.
I was really beginning to admire the person she was evolving into.
On my own journey, I had my ups and my downs.
I met lots of different people across the years.
Lots of drama, lots of craziness, and had lots of life learning experiences
but as I followed Hilary Duff, I saw that she did too.
So now when I see her post something online about how she's working on a new project or
she's taking care of her kids and just being an overall awesome mother, I'm proud of her.
My love and appreciation for her is very very different from when I was a teenager.
So overall, your celebrity crush and obsession will grow and change as you grow and change.
You'll start to push that celebrity away as you
start to incorporate more real people into your actual life.
I'm curious though, who's your celebrity crush and obsession right now?
Leave a comment down below and let me know.
What I want you to do is to check out the videos over there on the
side where I talk more about how to interact with celebrities, how to get their attention,
everything you want to do as long as it doesn't lead into obsession.
Check those videos out and I'll catch you next time.
As always, love and peace.