is fear of rejection limiting you? Stay tuned
This is Damon Cart from NLP Gym
overcome fear of rejection with this
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videos on a regular basis for many of us
fear of rejection can be crippling we
fear putting ourselves out there we fear
expressing ourselves especially
creatively artistically we fear
approaching that attractive person we
fear starting that new business are
implementing that new idea why don't you
fear all this while we fear rejection
and when we hear about rejection is that
there's something about other people's
opinions especially if there's more than
one person's opinion that we seem to
think that that is more true than our
own opinions or that they if general
consensus says this or that that it must
be true so it one two three or four
people reject you or whatever that means
that to you may mean that that's an
actual truth that there you you lack and
value our wholeness or that you're not
you're not are worthwhile human being
first of all think of all the things in
your life all the the the things that
you would have tried or would have done
had you not fear rejection
just do it just take a moment to think
about that all the things that you stop
yourself from doing that you limit
yourself from doing that you wanted to
do but you didn't do because you fear
rejection don't ever let that fear of
rejection over limit you again here's
how to overcome this if you watch my
videos and you read my blog going to see
a familiar formula here it's not
familiar one and it's one that is a lot
because it works first of all start off
by understanding there's no such thing
as rejection rejection is not a thing
it's not a wall that you but against
it's not something you can
pick up and take somewhere there is no
entity called rejection that grabbed you
and says you can't go forward anymore so
rejection is not a thing it's just an
idea let's take this a step at a time
realize that there's no such thing as
rejection it's just an idea if you're
struggling with this use the as if right
what would it be like if there was no
rejection what would it be like if
rejection was just an idea
try this on if you have to to get
yourself there just pretend pretend
associate there's no such thing as
rejection just go with this for now and
let's see where this takes you once
you're there now redefine rejection
since rejection is not a thing it's not
an actual now even though it doesn't
count
they grew up in the grammatical sense
but it's not a real thing turn rejection
to reject the times in your life where
you think you have experienced rejection
think of that now as you were rejected
rather than rejection
once you've taken that step where it's
not rejection rather you were rejected
think about all those times in your life
where you were rejected and realize that
you were rejected as a person no one was
rejecting you and that actually doesn't
make any sense that's impossible
no one no one has that power anyway how
can someone reject you as a person you
really think about it that does not make
any sense
what would even mean for someone to
reject you as a person does that mean
that you suddenly died that you turn
into smoke that you turned the dust it's
ridiculous
so no one can reject you as a person
they can only reject what it is you're
offering them
let's redefine once again redefine the
word reject to not interested
have you ever not been interested in
something that you ever not been
interested in someone there are probably
many things are not interested in many
people you're not interested in in the
world there's millions of things you're
not interested in millions of people
you're not interested in
does that mean that you're rejecting all
of those things and that
rejecting all those people I if it does
it's that sounds like a lot of work to
me so let's not confuse lack of interest
with rejection or being rejected
let's just say instead of rejected just
not interested
what would it be like if right now you
took every memory you've ever had of
rejection turned it into being rejected
we can take the baby stuff there and
then turn it into just not interested so
take especially the most powerful memory
so what does that seem to really get you
that you that are occurring you keep
thinking about take one of those
memories what you used to call rejection
and that you may be calling rejected now
and turn it into just the person was not
interested it wasn't a rejection and
when there was you yourself are not
being rejected you yourself we're not
being your value was not being judged or
diminished the person was just not
interested or the people just weren't
interested even those memories and may
not feel good think about it physically
did any of these incidents ever
physically hard you know if you're
watching this video obviously not you're
still alive you've experienced this over
and over again and you will experience
it again and yet you're still breathing
you're still a complete whole human
being you're no less of a person to this
very day and you experiences over and
over now take all the things that you've
ever feared doing because you fear
rejection and turn that into just that
the worst thing that can happen the
worst case scenario is they're just not
interested it's not rejection is nothing
to do with you or who you are think
about that think about those things that
you would love to do that have feared in
the past you used to fear being rejected
now it's just hate the worst thing that
can happen just not interested
starting that business i doing that
painting or writing that novel
approaching someone you find attractive
the worst thing that can happen just not
interested
and guess what you get to keep living
you get to keep breathing
you get to go about your life and do
everything you've always ever done
it's just 1, 2 maybe a bunch of people are
just not interested it doesn't mean that
no one's interested it just means that
those particular people are that person
is not interested maybe the offer that
you're putting out there just needs to
some tweaking and you need to modify
that maybe whatever the product or idea
or whatever maybe you just need to work
on that a little bit more or maybe you
just haven't been talking to the right
people
maybe it's just a matter of finding the
people who are interested instead of
going after the people who are not
interested i have another video on
overcoming fear in general and i'll put
that link down here you can click on
that if you want more about how to deal
with fear like in the moment take the
moment right now feel the ground or the
floor under your feet you know if you're
sitting down fill the chair here take a
deep breath get inside your body and
realize this is real this is with the
truth is about your being
you're here now all the fear and stuff
that stuff happens in your head and it
takes you out of your body it's all the
possibilities of things that have not
happened but when you get back in your
body you really feel being here now it's
hard to have fears of strange ideas like
rejection are things that haven't
happened yet there's a presupposition an
OPI love to say I've said many times
there is no such thing as failure only
feedback when someone isn't interested
in you or what you're offering
that's a communication that is feedback
that they're giving you either you need
to try something different
you need to modify your approach
modified with your offering our maybe
you just need to go take that somewhere
else to someone who might be interested
so remember it's a communication and
feedback when you think of when you used
to think of his rejection only as
feedback and as communication as just
lack of interest in what you're offering
you will really see that there is no
such thing as rejection and if there's
no such thing as rejection there's no
fear of rejection
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