-I never feel like
I'm trying to win anything
with you.
Because winning is us
ending up on the same side.
How does it feel to love a black woman?
Loving a Black woman feels
like a privilege.
It feels like I'm seen.
I've only dated Black women.
Listen, how does it feel to love this Black woman.
You know what.
What was the spark that drew you to me?
Well, I had been ghost following you on Instagram
for quite some time.
Slide in the DMs...
To slide in the, shut up.
Yes.
After I side into your DMs,
I sent a picture to my best friend, Shay,
and I was like, "Girl! How cute is she?"
I just thought you were so sweet and cute.
The moment you DMed me,
I took a screenshot, sent it to my best friend
and was like,
"This fine a** girl just slid in my DMs, what do I do?"
You were very just straight to it.
Just like real in a way that
I hadn't experienced before.
I don't know, it was something.
I needed to know more.
I have that effect.
So, how and when did we define our relationship?
If I'm thinking about the same time it was a
drunken night after we to Tee's show.
I think you were a bit more
hesitant than I was.
In the beginning.
Till you found out just who the f*ck I was and then
you were like, "Oh!"
You had asked if we could
kind of do that and I was a bit on the fence about it
and then a week after you were like, "No!
You are my girlfriend."
Sounds right.
I was like, "Okay, okay, okay."
I was just nervous about being
in another relationship so soon.
It was more what I thought I should be doing as
opposed to what actually felt good.
We were both pretty
had been in relationships prior
too, and I think that we both
felt that but it just felt right.
And I wasn't going to
allow myself to be
caught up in this cage of what
I should be doing because
of what had happened
or all that bullsh*t that happens with people.
You were just too good to pass
up and I wasn't going to
not shoot my shot.
What's the easiest thing to love about me?
I don't know if there is one thing.
I don't know, it's this higher love that we speak of
that you kind of exude and
bring to us and
I've never had anyone love me or
never known that I deserve love like this.
You do.
You are just that in every way,
every day in the smallest details
in the big things.
You just never miss an opportunity to
let me know that I'm loved.
You are.
I f*ck with you for that.
You're just so good to me. You're so
You never miss an opportunity
to tell me how special I am.
And how valid I am
in this world
when I don't feel that way.
I told you I was going to cry.
What's the hardest thing to love about me?
I think the hardest thing to love about you is really
closely tied to what's the
easiest thing to love about you.
Sometimes you can get dark
and it's not the hardest thing to love about you.
I guess what makes me sad
about loving you.
And I just want to love you
out of it and sometimes you just need your space to be free.
And so I think it's more for me, it's that
I feel not as useful in those moments.
Like, I can't love you out of it.
And that I think it's just mainly because
I know what that's like too.
What's the hardest thing about loving me?
Your teeth grinding at night.
That's it?
Now I feel like an *sshole.
No, you're good.
Your teeth grinding drives me crazy, but you're
getting better at it.
I'm trying. Even in my sleep, I'm trying to make you proud.
What are my greatest strengths?
I think one of your greatest strengths is
how much you're yourself everywhere you go.
You kinda can't help it.
But it's such a lovely thing because
then you allow other people to be themselves.
I mean, from the way you obviously
dress but just from who you are.
Like, you're unafraid to just be yourself
despite how anyone will take it.
You also have amazing style.
That's a strength.
You're just
a visionary.
The things that you create, that you put out there,
that you don't put out there that I get to be
blessed enough to be the only person to see.
It leaves me speechless.
I mean it's just you know sometimes
you say you're not an artist and I don't
I've never met someone who breathes
creativity and art the way that you do.
And it's just like truly a pleasure to watch you.
It's true.
How has our relationship
grown over the past 10 months?
I mean, it's still new and it feels like we're learning
each other.
You know, we had an argument yesterday
that took us out the game for a little bit.
Every single day is a new opportunity for us to
learn each other and to write a new page
in our love story, in our book.
We talk all the time about
there not being a honeymoon
phase. And so it doesn't for me feel,
I think that when I first met you,
I knew that I was going to fall in love with you.
And so, this whole time,
I just been growing into that self-fulfilling prophecy.
I don't know, it doesn't feel like
growth so much as just like the journey we're on.
Yeah.
I agree, I mean we still feel very new to me.
But I already know and feel how much we've grown.
I never feel like I'm trying to
win anything with you
because winning is us ending up on the same side.
And we always seem to.
And that kind of wanting
to be on the same side,
kind of supersedes all the bullsh*t like
all your messy clothes all over my room
or you know me being
saying the wrong things.
Us being on the right side always is the goal.
That is growth personally
for me and in our relationship.
Where do you see our relationship in a year?
I'm marrying her.
In a year?
In a year, yes.
I'm not mad at that.
But you have to get me a ring
and not a piece of twine.
I need you to know it's real without the diamond.
You know that already.
You know that every day.
You right, you right, you right.
You know that.
You right.
Yeah.
So take the twine.
F*ck that twine. Please.
You get all of this and all you
have to give is a diamond.
I think that's an easy trade.
Alright, I'll go shopping.
Where do you see our relationship in 5 years?
I see babies and I see
happiness upon happiness.
I see very different people than we are today.
I just want all of the special
things with you.
I see us, yeah, definitely being mothers.
Yeah, I see us being able
to do the things we're talking about right now.
How does it feel to love a Black woman?
Black women are everything.
And, my favorite Black woman
is everything, so it's just
important to me.
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