Getting used is never a good feeling, especially in a relationship.
Here are 5 signs to watch out for to know if your partner is using you for his/her own gain.
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When you voice your needs, she makes you feel like a bad person for it.
A lot of users, particularly after they get access to what they want, try to avoid doing
anything they don't want to do.
If your needs are not being met because of that avoidance, users will often turn your
own needs against you.
So, if you haven't had sex in a year, she may say, "It's always about sex with you,"
or "Stop being perverted."
If you're low on money, she may say, "Why can't you provide for me?"
She doesn’t reply to your texts, but tags you on social media.
A girl who regularly uses people for attention, is definitely one to have a self-imposed ever-present
persona on social media.
It takes her ages to reply to your texts, and pick up your calls, yet her Facebook status
is frequently updated, and she just posted a photo on Instagram.
Not just that, she actually tags you on those posts, so others can see just how ‘social’
and ‘cool’ she is to be hanging out with you.
See if she shows you off.
Meaning, see if she actually wants you to meet her friends and family.
If she deflects questions about getting together with her friends, she may be using you.
A person who is excited to be in an honest relationship, will likely want you to meet
the other people she cares about.
SHE ONLY LIKES TO GO OUT.
She knows you have access to some of the most fun spots, so all she wants to do is go out.
It’s no coincidence.
You’ve never heard her say she wants to stay in, but when you two decide to stay home,
she becomes indifferent and moody.
Do you notice she barely talks to you while spending time inside?
In contrast, she’s more in a positive mood when you’re out doing different activities.
While it is discouraged to stay in all the time and have the same routine, it is important
to take a few steps back once you start noticing suspicious signs.
It's also been advised to keep the relationship alive by spicing things up, so it’s okay
if going out tends to be more common than staying in.
It’s when her attitude is noticeably different, between staying in and going out, that starts
to get concerning.
Try entertaining her inside the house and see if she’s up for it.
She’s flaky.
She may have agreed to hang out with you this weekend, but come Friday night, she has a
list of excuses as to why she can’t.
Now, sometimes things happen, but if it’s like this every time you try to hang out with
her, well, she’s just playing you.
If someone wants to see you, they make the time and effort to do so.
And if she can’t make the time for you, it’s definitely one of the clearest signs
she’s using you for attention, and nothing more.
Once you do go out, he only asks you out again every once in a while.
This time you do go out, and you have the most amazing first date.
He texted a bit before and after meeting you.
You KNOW he enjoyed the date as much as you did.
But for whatever reason, he doesn’t call you again for a few weeks.
Then a text shows up again, and he asks you on another date, which is just as great as
the first one.
You think you’re finally getting somewhere with this guy.
But he does his disappearing act and doesn’t show up again for several weeks.
What is going on?
This is the kind of man who dates around.
He had a good time with you, but then he moves on to the other women.
Dating multiple women feeds his ego, and allows him to feel popular and in demand.
See if he only contacts you on the weekdays.
If he gets in touch with you on week nights, but you almost never hear from him on the
weekends, it's because he's reserving the weekends, for the women that he actually thinks
are worth dating.
If you never hear from him until rarely on Friday or Saturday nights, but come Tuesday,
his schedule is wide open, then it's because he expects your legs to be wide open too.
HE WILL NOT TALK ABOUT COMMITTING TO THE RELATIONSHIP.
The idea of commitment can be intimidating, but it is a very important conversation to
have with your guy, if you have not already discussed it.
Try to bring up the discussion of being in a committed relationship.
If it is something that he avoids having to talk about, then consider what he is getting
out of your arrangement.
Does he get affection, attention, and favors from you?
If this is true but he will not talk seriously about your relationship, then he might be
using you for his own gain.
You’ve Never Met His Friends And Family.
if you are dating a guy, and you’ve never once met any of friends or family members,
he doesn’t take you or your relationship seriously at all.
A real man would be proud to show you off, and introduce you to important people in his
life, while a user will try his best to keep you a secret.
You shouldn’t settle for being swept under the rug by any man, and you definitely shouldn’t
let him pretend that you don’t even exist.
You should know your worth, and understand that this kind of behavior is not acceptable
by any means.
If a guy treats you this way, it’s best to recognize the signs and remove yourself
from the equation.
Your guy should be super willing to have you meet his friends, and eventually his family
once things get serious.
If you have yet to get acquainted with anyone from his personal life, he definitely doesn’t
see you as a priority.
Be honest with yourself – you could totally do better!.
He doesn’t see you if he knew sleepnig with you isn’t possible.
This, above all others, should be a clear sign that you’re in the ‘being used’
category.
If he never bothers to see you day or night, unless he thinks sleepnig with you is possible,
you can easily deduce that’s all he wants.