Cheating Wives And Crazy Girlfriends
so the other day my wife and i were just having a casual talk
after a while she started looking uneasy and uncomfortable
i asked her what was wrong she said nothing
she remained quiet for a little while until she finally said that she needed
to tell me something i could tell that this was something
major as she never really acts like this she then admitted to me that she slept
with another man almost right before we were married
this happened during her bachelor at party weekend apparently her and her
friends got super drunk and went clubbing
a few guys was hitting on them and ended up taking them back to their place
she ended up sleeping with one of them she said that she would have never done
something like this if she wasn't drunk she promised that she has never cheated
on me since then and that she wanted to tell me earlier on
but she didn't want to ruin our great marriage i was a little shocked and just
told her that i needed some space i left and came back later that night i
wanted to yell at her and be mad but i was just confused on how i felt
i respected her for telling me and i know that we were not married at the
time at the same time i felt awful that she
didn't tell me before and that she would do it in the first place
i ended up remaining silent for the rest of the night i've been quiet around her
ever since she's been super nice and reassuring me
that she loves me and that she would never do anything like that again
how do i move forward with this relationship do i let this go
do i tell her we need a break i'm just not sure how i feel about my marriage
now
she cheated on me we have been together for eight years
married for almost one she said she wasn't sure if we were going to work and
maybe it would be best if we separate cited a bunch of issues that had come up
years ago however we had worked through those and
hadn't encountered them in years so it didn't make sense i confronted her
after making another anonymous post and gained some advice
she admitted she had slept with another man so i kicked her out
she has been home with her parents non-stop with the pandemic
and was borderline depressed it seemed she has since told me repeatedly how
much she regrets it and how much more she loves me and is
connected to me than some guy she had only known for a few days
but the fact she met a guy and so quickly wound up cheating is insane to
me i've never had anything but complete
trust this rocked me and was very unexpected
we were planning on getting first-time homeowner loans the week it came out
now she is staying with her parents and we talk periodically
i've had tremendous amounts of anger and sadness depending on the time of the day
she thinks she wants to work through it but she also is going to go to the
mountains with her family for a week and think about things
i don't know what to do on one hand screw her and she betrayed my trust
on the other i've never loved anyone like this and value our marriage and
potential future if she were willing to work through it
but then i wonder if she would respect me if i took her back
if it's already too wrecked if she decides that grass is greener on the
other side i'm just confused and am unsure what to
do i've tried not talk to her too much
while she's gone because it's either a emotional discussion
or me being a dick which ultimately just makes me hurt
help preferably from people that have been through something similar
but i'm open to perspectives
i have been going out with my girlfriend she's 25 for two years
we moved in together just three months ago i started to suspect after our first
two months living together she'd constantly be on her phone but
when i'd walk back into the room she subtly put it away or i can see her
thumb pressing the home button on her iphone and act like she was scrolling on
another app we know each other's passcodes but i
never thought i'd actually use it to snoop until she was in the shower
earlier and i just couldn't take it anymore
there was nothing in her texts and she doesn't have a snapchat so
i couldn't find anything that indicated she was cheating on me
i looked through her phone and then i saw she had the kick app hidden in one
of her folders and there was only one person she was
chatting with on there what was more shocking though
was that photo on her account wasn't even her it was a pic of some random
chick i've never seen before and she wasn't even using her actual name
when i looked through their messages i felt like my stomach dropped
there was all these heart emojis calling each other baby
saying stuff like i love you i almost threw her phone across
the room it took a little while but i got to their first few messages
i guess they started messaging on tumblr before they decided to start chatting
here i read every single message and it hit
me that she was lying to this dude basically everything about her
her name her age she said she was 27 what state she lives in what she does
for a living and she made up this whole story about how she lost her job because
of the pandemic and has to live with her parents
like the fact that she's even cheating on me with this dude was bad enough
but she literally made up a whole different life and for what
i blew up at her when she finally got out of the shower and she tried to
justify her actions by saying she didn't technically cheat and she doesn't even
have feelings for the guy she said she was just bored when this
guy messaged her and she thought it might be interesting to fake who she is
and see where when then i asked why she would even do this
just for fun why make up a bunch of bullshit on a guy she's never gonna meet
and act like she has feelings for him i couldn't get anything else other than
she thought it was pretty interesting and exciting but she swore she never
actually cheated and said she only loved me
i really couldn't believe why she did this and ruined this just because she
was bored i left her crying in our apartment and i
went out driving for a few hours came to crash in my friend's garage for
the night because i'm not about to see her face right now
my phone was already blowing up with messages from her as soon as i turned my
phone off i feel like it's over between us even
after it wasn't technically cheating how the hell can i be with someone who
literally lies to entertain herself or catfishes someone and acts like she's
in love with them just don't know what to make of all this
my wife and i have been together for a total of 23 years
we dated for seven years before we were married
she always had insecurities and constantly accused me of cheating with
no reason to believe i was it wasn't uncommon for her to return
later than usual when she hung out with her friends
but for the most part nothing obvious stood out
except a two-week period about 14 years ago my wife who was then my girlfriend
went out with some friends she came home very late and was
confrontational for the next couple of weeks she was
horrible to me neglected our kids was glued to her phone and went out and
disappeared several nights a week i demanded to know who she was cheating
with and she continually denied cheating and just stated she no longer wanted to
be with me then one day she apologized and
mentioned a man's name i knew the name and the guy was known to
get around she denied messing with him i heard a rumor about her messing with
this guy about a year after this but then nothing and actually over the
years i forgot about it then about two years ago some info
surfaced about my wife and this guy it took months of interrogations but
finally she admitted she cheated with this guy several times 14 years ago
however it's the details in my wife's behavior since then that bothers me
she backed off the accusations for a while she still periodically accused me
of cheating over the years for no reason the details of her cheating are
disgusting the guy didn't even hit on my wife
she threw herself at him the guy had a girlfriend and a young child and my wife
knew this he also was hooking up with other women
and she also knew this the guy made it clear he had no interest
in her and based off of her descriptions it sounds like my wife would find out
what bar he was at and show up there in the hopes of having sex with him in her
car no less i heard my wife trash talk other women
she felt were sluts more times than i can remember
but what she did with this guy is some of the lowest scummy cheating i've ever
heard of you have to remember you tack on
years of building our life together but what she did here is so disgusting
that i just lost every ounce of respect i have for her
she insists she never cheated before or since but you're telling me a woman
capable of doing what she did there stayed loyal
and knowing what she did yet accused me of cheating when she had no reason to
think i would i love her and want to stay with her but
at the same time i'm sickened by her i just need some input