Okay.
This is about to be the most behind the scenes video I think I've ever done on the habits
and the strategies that I use to not only goal set but to visualize and actually take
action on the things that I want.
If you watched this video on how I manifested a million dollars, met Oprah, Tony Robbins,
Marie Forleo and all these other crazy things ... Ended up in Italy ... And the vision board
that I created associated with it.
That's just one tiny little piece of the puzzle.
But in this video I'm going to show you the three things that I do that I have never shared
before, I don't think ever, that I have been doing for years and I do them regularly.
And honestly, if I look back, everything that I've achieved has been a part of and due to
the fact that I've used these techniques.
If you're into the law of attraction, if you're into goal setting, if you really have some
big things you want to achieve this year, I can guarantee you this might be the most
in-depth video you will ever watch on this topic because we're going to go through every
little nitty, gritty detail of how I do this and the three strategies to do it.
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We're going to get into truly how I've built a multi-million dollar business, how I've
attracted the love of my life, how I have managed to live in apartment that I absolutely
love every single day, how I wake up and just am so in love with what I do and the people
we serve in my business.
Obviously, not everything is puppy noses and rainbows all the time, but this thing that
I'm going to show you ... Or these three things that I'm going to show you are a big part
of why I am a very optimistic, positive, happy human being and I hope that you do them because
honestly, I know everybody says this, but honestly these things changed my life and
I think if you're in a place where you need something like this ... Or maybe you don't
even need this but you just want up-level your visualization, goal setting and attracting
the things you want in your life ... I know this is going to be really helpful.
Let's get to it.
First thing is all of these methods and tactics that I'm going to show you, you can totally
do them separately but they're way more powerful if you do them in this order and you do them
together.
This doesn't mean you have to do them all in one day.
They can happen over a couple of days.
But this is how I prefer to do them and I kind of do them all together.
Definitely more powerful that way.
The first thing is WWSD.
This is my goal setting method.
I don't think I've ever heard somebody approach goal setting in this way before and honestly
the only way I came to it was out of pure necessity because no other goal setting methods
really worked for me.
It does not stand for What Would Sunny Do? but if you need to remember it that way, you
can use that.
Instead, what it stands for is what do you really, really want?
Truly, what do you really want?
Because we all could say, "I want a Ferrari," but do you really want that?
So, what do you really, really want?
What are you willing to work for?
And what do you need to stop doing or subtract in order to actually achieve those goals and
the things you really want?
That's kind of how you think about it and then I get very nerdy with it and I actually
have a spreadsheet that I just populate all that into and I break it down into categories.
I break it down into relationships, business/career, health/fitness, financial and spiritual.
And I'll show you that in just a second.
But that's basically how I do this.
And I talked about this on Instagram and I shared this little graphic of one of my things
that I wanted to achieve with health and fitness and people loved it, so that's kind of what
the inspiration was behind creating this video for you as well with all these methodologies
in it.
If you can't think of something that you really, really, really, really want, this is going
to sound morbid but the best possible question you can ask yourself is if you were to die
in one year, what would be the must in each of those categories?
If you were to live your life to the fullest, be your best version of yourself over the
next year because you know there's an expiration date coming, what do you really want?
That's a really easy way to trigger your brain to be like, "Okay.
That's the case, I'm going to take all that stuff off the list and these are the only
things that I know that I really, really want to do to."
Then from there we figure out what are you willing to work for?
So the action that you really need to take.
And then we figure out what you're going to stop doing and subtract in order to actually
get it done.
And I made this video, Your Best Year Ever, about my equation for getting what you want
and goal setting and a lot of has to do with not really setting up a bunch of things that
you need to do or a new to-do list because that never works.
It's more about what are the things that you can subtract from your life and stop doing
and the activities you should stop doing in order to actually get what you want.
Let me show you the spreadsheet and exactly how I lay this out.
You'll see that it's broken into the categories relationship, business/career, health/fitness,
financial and spiritual.
Now, how I lay this out is ... And you can just put this into a spreadsheet.
You can do this on a piece of paper, use a notebook; whatever you need.
It doesn't have to be fancy.
The whole point of this is just to get the information out of your brain and down so
you can actually get a plan to do the things you want to do and achieve the things you
want to achieve.
Let's see.
The top bar is want, work, stop doing.
So, WWSD.
Relationships.
Let's just use that as an example because this is actually what I did when I decided,
you know what?
I don't want to be single anymore and I'm really ready to find my person.
This is all the stuff that I did and there were some other things, too, but I just wanted
to use this as an example if a partner is something that you really want in the next
year.
Want would be partner.
Work, the action I need to take, is let's read Calling in the One, which is a great
book.
I also have the author on my podcast.
I have a whole podcast about how I did call in the one on The Sunny Show if you want to
look that up on iTunes or Spotify and add that to the list of the work you want to do.
But read that book, do the exercises, hire a dating and relationship coach, that's an
option.
Commit to going on one date a week.
Sign up for Bumble.
The whole purpose of this is, really, to get focused.
I made this video, which we'll put right here, on really getting focused.
And it's all about the one thing thing that I figured out in order to become a millionaire
but it applies to everything in your life.
If you're really focused on one thing, you're going to make it happen and you find all of
the things that you need to actually do in order to make it happen rather than being
scattered in between a bunch of different activities and goals because that makes it
impossible to actually achieve anything.
The final category is stop doing, so I'm going to stop complaining about the fact that I
don't have a partner because complaining about it and being negative means I'm never going
to meet anybody.
And I'm going to make time for everything else ... Or stop making time for everything
else but dating.
I found that when I was single, I was making time for friends, family, all of the things.
Myself, my self care, which is good and you should do that, but I was prioritizing random
networking events over actually meeting people and actually finding the person I wanted to
be with.
Or actually doing any of this work.
You have to stop doing some stuff in order to make time for the work and the action you
need to take to achieve this.
The next thing is prioritizing friends over my love life.
That was another thing.
Friends will always be really important to me, but I knew at this time my focus was one
thing I wanted to find and a partner.
And so, I needed to really prioritize that above all else.
So, Want, Work/Action, Stop Doing.
The next one, you can see here, is health and fitness.
Toned arms is something I really want to achieve.
I'm fit but I've never really had muscle tone in my arms so what do I need to do?
Schedule arm days with personal trainer and do an arm day on my own.
What does that mean?
I need to stop ... Oh, I need to add that in there.
But I would stop doing ... This would say here ... I would stop scheduling a cardio
and a leg day.
I would take those out of my calendar so I could fit in a personal trainer arm day and
an arm day on my own.
And I would fit in cardio in between.
But I have to take something off my calendar in order to actually achieve this goal.
The next thing is eight to nine hours of sleep.
Get into bed 30 minutes before I need to fall asleep and commit to tea and meditation two
times per day because I know when I do my tea and meditation practice twice a day I
sleep so much better.
And that's my meditation form is tea and meditation; transcendental.
And then what I need to stop doing ... Sorry, it keeps getting out of focus ... Is going
to bed at random times because that does not help me get into a flow of actually sleeping
eight to nine hours, avoiding my bedtime routine.
I have one, I just sometimes don't do it.
And checking my phone before bed.
This always triggers me and it doesn't help me sleep.
That's as simple as it is.
It makes it so easy to actually achieve the things you want.
Breaking it into these categories and then Want, Work, Stop Doing.
That is my little nerdy spreadsheet.
If you're just like me and want to create a spreadsheet, that's a great way to do it.
If you more so would like to just do it pen and paper, that's cool, too.
Whatever works for you.
The next thing you're going to do is what I call the 90-day letter.
You can use a notebook and pen and paper or you can put this on your laptop as well, which
is nice because then you can just store it there and that's where you'll read it every
day.
But before we get there, what is it?
I found that writing five-year goals or even a year-long goal was so overwhelming for me
that I just wouldn't do them and I'd forget about them to be totally honest.
So, 90-day letters are my version of sprints to achieve these micro-goals instead of trying
to achieve this big, overwhelming, audacious goal that feels to overwhelming to actually
do.
90-day letters are insanely powerful.
I do write them basically every days ... Write a new one.
And it's amazing to look back on them and how far you've come.
Basically, you're going to take the goals that you wrote in your WWSD exercise, so Want,
Work, Stop Doing exercise, and you are going to add them into a letter.
And the letter is going to be from your future self to your current self.
You're going to pretend that it is 90 days from now and in this next 90 days, where are
you?
What have you achieved?
What things on your WWSD exercise have you achieved?
For example, it could be something like I'm so grateful that I have been going on one
date a week and I've been meeting a lot of really, really great people and I'm very clear
on what I do and what I don't want in my partner.
And it's making the process so much easier and I know my soulmate is on his way to me
or her way to me; whatever it may be.
And you write it with gratitude as if it's already happened because one thing with manifestation,
law of attraction, is that when you speak it as if it's already happened the universe
doesn't know.
And so, they think it has already happened and it sends out this energy, this vibration,
this frequency as if it's already happened so it helps it catapult forward to actually
come to fruition and be a reality.
That's really, really important to understand so you want to write it with gratitude as
if all these things have already happened.
You basically are writing this letter as your future self and you're going to read it daily.
I read mine pretty much every morning.
It's part of my morning routine.
But I can also read it whenever I want during the day because it reminds me, as well, and
it keeps the things that I want to achieve top of mind, which I find is a huge issue
with people setting goals.
They'll write these crazy goals and then they just forget about them.
So I write the letter.
It's usually half a page long.
It covers all those different areas that we talked about in the WWSD exercise; you kind
of already have what you want there.
Then you just write it as if it's already happened and if it's already true.
And if this is something that you really want to dive into, which I highly recommend you
do, we've actually created a whole guide on how to write your 90-day letter.
So you can grab that right here ... Well, grab it below.
In the description there will be a link.
But it's really great because it walks you through the process step by step and gives
you really good prompts and questions to ask yourself to write a great letter.
But amazing exercise.
That's the second step is the 90-day letter.
Okay.
The next thing is we're going to kind of tie all this together with visualization.
This is where your vision board comes in.
This is my vision board where all this stuff came true in one way or another, which is
honestly so crazy.
Met Oprah, went to Italy.
The water looked like that there.
Learned to ski, so I was in Whistler a lot more.
Got a personal trainer, also very serendipitous how that happened and I met my personal trainer.
I'm still working out with them.
So, yeah.
Just kind of cool to see how it all came to fruition.
And a lot of the words on here for me are really things that I've adopted in the last,
say, six months since I've had this to really make sure that I'm living them.
And that's what I wanted to live.
Your vision board's so important because it activates something called you reticular activating
system, which has a lot do with seeing things and then making them actually a reality because
it kind of tricks your subconscious mind into thinking that it's a real thing and then you
start to attract it everywhere and you start to see it everywhere.
The example I always give is if you decided a kind of car you want or a kind a dog you
want, you're going to start seeing that car everywhere and you're going to start seeing
that dog everywhere even if you didn't before because your reticular activating system is
now set up to show up ... Have those things show up for you so you actually can make them
happen and attract them into your life.
What you need for your vision board is you're going to need magazines, a stack of magazines.
And I made a little story for you on Instagram of how I picked them.
It's not scientific at all.
My process for vision boarding is I always go to just what I'm drawn to ... Hi, Beyonce
... And the things that match to what I want to achieve so I can get visual images of those
things based on the 90-day letter and my goals.
So, that's my process.
And then you're going to need poster board, of course, to put it on.
I don't like to use huge poster board.
It's too overwhelming and it gets really cluttered.
So, I just like to keep it really clean and simple.
You're going to need scissors and you're going to need a glue stick.
You can use tape, too, but this is what I like to use.
And then you basically just peruse through the magazines, cut out the things that spark
something for you, kind of Marie Kondo-ish, like spark joy.
For me, if I picked the magazines ... They stood out to me and I chose them ... I'm going
to sift through them and I'm only going to cut out the things that actually mean something
to me or spark something within me or trigger me in some kind of way positively.
It doesn't even need to make sense.
It doesn't even need to make sense to you or to anybody else.
It's just that if it is attractive to you, if you feel the need to cut it out, if your
intuition is telling you to cut it out, cut it out.And then you're going to have all these
little clippings and you're going to add them to your vision board and that will complete
it.
Because this activates your reticular activating system, which I finish my vision board I usually
put somewhere I can see it every day.
It's kind of front and center in my bathroom and it's right beside my sink and where I
do my make-up, and so I see it every single day and it really does trigger me to remember
my goals and to visualize exactly what I'm trying to attract.
So, let's do it.
Ta-dah!
The vision board is done.
Now, here's what you need to know.
This doesn't need to make sense to anybody else.
If you cut out a bunch of stuff, you didn't use all of it or if it didn't fit, that's
okay, too.
Half the stuff I cut out didn't go on here.
It just needs to make sense to you; needs to feel right to you.
So, just finish it when it feels complete to you.
This is all based on your intuition.
And even if stuff doesn't make sense right now ... Like half the stuff on here doesn't
make total sense to me but I cut it out because I had this instinct to do it ... It probably
will later.
When I put Italy on here on my last vision board and I had no idea I was going to be
going to Italy.
Then it made sense.
Don't worry about doing that.
Don't worry about repeating things on every vision board.
I have Oprah on every vision board I've ever created.
I repeated this little quote because I saw it in a new magazine and thought that was
a sign, so I put it on here.
And again, just don't worry about it making sense to anybody else.
Don't worry about this being perfect.
The perfection of it doesn't matter.
It just needs to be personal, not perfect, to you.
This visually ties together everything that we just talked about; all your WWSD goals,
your 90-day letter.
And you want to keep to somewhere that you can see it every day.
Like I said, mine goes in my bathroom.
I see it every single day and that's just a constant reminder and a visual representation
of what I'm trying to achieve.
The key to this: have a really strong why behind what you're doing because if you're
just doing it for material or aesthetic reasons or superficial reasons, you probably won't
stick to it.
And celebrate every little mini victory along the way because that's how you build momentum.
First YouTube subscriber, first client, first day at the gym; celebrate yourself.
Do something to celebrate that moment.
Tell your family.
Tell your friends.
Because the more you celebrate, the more upward momentum you're going to get and the more
things you're going to attract that you actually want in your life.
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