hello in this video i'm going to explain how to remove your fear of driving a car i'm going to
explain what causes the fear of driving and also i'll give you a case study of somebody i worked
with online to help them overcome their fear of driving and when you find out what the cause of
it really is you might be quite surprised so just in case you haven't seen my videos before
my name's Paul and i spent over 20 years as a driving instructor where i specialised in teaching
people with driving anxiety in the last few years i've switched to working online with people
all over the world and i'm now a professional therapist so i help people overcome all kinds
of problems like the fear of driving on highways people who have panic attacks
when they drive people who have this problem where they feel they always need somewhere
to stop they always need somewhere to pull over but all of these things have one thing in common
they've got nothing to do with driving now i've said this before and i'll say it again because
it's true there are many people online who are self-appointed experts and they make these videos
where they sit in a car and they tell you the most ridiculous things like make sure your blood sugar
level is correct make sure you get a good night's sleep make sure you have a purpose to your journey
that proves that they don't know what they're talking about because driving anxiety has nothing
to do with driving driving anxiety is the symptom it's how another problem is showing up
another problem is a repressed emotion your driving anxiety is actually an emotion that's
been trapped in your mind sometimes for many many years sometimes decades and all you need to do to
get rid of the driving anxiety is to release that emotion and this is where so many people go wrong
driving instructors will take people out driving that's never going to get rid of driving anxiety
because that isn't the problem the best thing that might do is simply move the problem elsewhere
and you might find instead of having a fear of driving you then develop a fear of flying
because you're just moving the problem around your driving problem is a trapped emotion and this is
proven over and over again by the many people i've worked with online all over the world so
let me give you a case study of someone who had a fear of driving and let's have a look
at what happened to them this person came to me having done all of the classic things people do
they've been see a doctor they won't be able to help you because they deal with the body
not the mind they'd seen a psychologist a psychiatrist they'd done all the classic
hypnosis stuff lie down close your eyes you're feeling relaxed and calm none of that stuff
will do anything because none of that gets to the root cause of the problem but what i do does
so when i worked with the person what we did is we went back in their mind
and we found what this trapped emotion was and this is something to understand
this emotion will have nothing to do with driving because if you haven't got the message yet driving
anxiety has nothing to do with driving if you only take one thing away from this video let it be that
people who talk about driving anxiety being linked to driving don't know what they are talking about
in this person's case we went back and they had a memory come up at the time when they were a child
and they've gone shopping with their mother they'd gone into a shop and they bought some new clothes
and they thought that looked really good and they came out of the shop
really happy smiling you know what it's like when you're a kid and you've got new clothes
and they were walking down the street when a group of kids burst out laughing this person
for many many years had just thought those people were laughing at them and their new clothes
and he had really upset them and that's like crying and the mum would have to calm them down
and these people were laughing more and more now when we went back and analyzed this we actually
found out that those people were not even laughing at them they were laughing at something else
and that was the emotion that they had connected to driving now i know you might be thinking that
makes no sense whatsoever that's the whole point you see your driving anxiety is a subconscious
problem think about it like what sense does it make to be driving in a car and to be panicking
when you drive over a bridge or on a highway or when you feel that there's nowhere to pull over
what's the point of panicking it doesn't make any logical sense does it and i bet you if you've got
this problem you've been racking your brain for years thinking why do i keep getting nervous
and why is it that even when i have a good drive it comes back the next day it's because the
problem is subconscious it's not something you're aware of it's just something that's happening
like when you go walking you don't have to think pick up my left foot moving forwards pick up
my right foot move it forward you could never walk if you consciously had to think about it
the same way you could never drive if you consciously had to think about it
in my 20 years of being a driving instructor i taught over a thousand people to learn to drive
and one of the things i knew that the instructors didn't is that i was pushing the skill from the
conscious into the subconscious that's why people learned faster with me than other people because i
understood that driving was not a conscious skill it's a subconscious one and i knew how to push
things into the subconscious better than other instructors and that's where i got results now i'm
using the same skills and understandings to help people overcome their fear of driving so you see
if you've got this fear of driving and wanting removed all you have to do is find this repressed
emotion and i don't care if you don't even believe in this stuff because i've had people work with me
who have quite openly said i don't believe this and i say fine and say but i don't think it's
going to work fine how about this we'll do it and when it works then come back and tell me
what you think and i've had people who are just absolutely gobsmacked they cannot even speak for
five minutes i'm sitting there looking at them on the screen and i'm just smiling and they're going
and they can't even speak because they are just shocked at what they have thought of the memory
that they had forgotten about for decades they're crying they say why have i been crying they're
laughing and crying at the same time they can't even explain their emotions and when i ask them
how do you feel about driving a car now they say i don't believe it i just
it's not there that thought is to have that feeling i used to have
it's gone it's just it's gone and again this ecstatic look on the face now it's different
for everyone not everyone goes through that for many many people it actually happens later after
the session and this is something to understand which i'll go into in more detail in other videos
but many people have this false assumption that you come to me for a session we do some kind of
magic like a wave of magic wand click my fingers and the problem goes it doesn't actually work like
that the problem goes after the session not during it but that is for under the video so if you've
ever wondered why you struggled on removing the fear of driving well that's why because i
bet you you've never done that before but even if you've done therapy before you've probably
focused on the driving and they've probably read you a story about how you're a good driver
and you need to set a goal and set a destination and think positively that stuff is all nonsense
check out these other videos on the screen now for more help on the fear of driving and
if you'd like to work with me one to one online anywhere in the world just contact me through my
website 1stdrive.com thanks for watching and as always i'll see you again soon for more videos