Hey Dan here and in this video, you're going to
learn why it is so common for ENFPs to struggle to find the
perfect job.
If you were an ENFP in a career change, and you maybe changed
careers a couple more times, then friends or family think is
normal, a couple 60 or 70 more times, and they think you should
be doing that this video is going to be really valuable for
you. Reason number one, why ENFPs can struggle in our careers
is we think life is a movie turns out life and movies can
sometimes be a little bit different, I am still convinced
they're basically the same thing. That's my life goal
really, is to figure that out and prove it. But there can be
some differences. So we see a movie or a TV show, and how
someone like a lawyer or teacher or astronaut is portrayed. And
we think that's what I want to do. And we don't necessarily
figure out the day to day of that job that Oh, to be that
lawyer speaking in court, giving the big speech saving someone's
life, you have to study really hard for a long time and then do
a lot of paperwork for like another decade, and then maybe
you get to stand up in court and give a big speech. Well, in that
case, maybe it's not exactly what we signed up for. Number
two: we learn fast, and we're not exactly designed for a
typical career ladder, I've coached hundreds of ENFPs at
this point in my life. And one thing that a lot of us have in
common is we learn things quite quickly. And this is somewhat
tied to our intelligence, but also just our extroverted
intuition. We pick up information and learn things
very quickly. Most career ladders are based on having a
promotion about every two years. And most ENFPs are bored
after about two months. And that's usually around the stage
where they've learned most of what can be learned, you picked
up 90% of the job at that stage. And you've had that excitement
and you've been growing and learning. And it's really good
for you at that point. And then you look ahead and you're like,
wait, I just have to just keep doing the same thing now for
the next two years. I like the growing and learning part. That
was what was exciting. And they're just doing the same
thing over and over. Not exciting. So for this reason, a
lot of typical corporate jobs are not very appealing after the
first couple of months. So a lot of ENFPs have this really
exciting part of the job, they're new, it's enjoyable, and
then get really bored and just kind of dragging their feet for
the next year, year and a half until maybe a promotion. But
maybe you don't get that promotion because you've been
dragging your feet, and you're not really that excited by the
job. So an even worse situation to be in. So let's say you've
been at a job for a couple months, and you're bored now,
you've learned what you need to do, you're getting good praise
from the boss. But you know, you're bored, you're not
fulfilled, should you just stick with it like people are telling
you to do? I don't think so I think that to me, seems really
wasteful, isn't it? If you're capable of learning really quick
and doing a lot in two months? What would take other people a
year? Why would you just do nothing for the next 10 months?
What if you could be learning and growing for 12 months of the
year.
This is number three, you don't challenge ourselves enough. See
there are environment where your job would require you to be
learning and growing and challenged all the time. But
when an ENFP settles for a job somewhere in the middle,
something that friends and family maybe respect but isn't
really pushing them to their limit. That's when you end up
with his two months on 10 months off kind of cycle. But if you
find a company or boss who will really challenge you and push
you, and you're in a dynamic, diverse work environment where
you're doing a ton of different things, and always learning,
generally, small businesses, entrepreneurial companies tend
to be this way a lot more. in that kind of environment, you're
going to be able to grow consistently and not actually
get bored, because you'll keep being challenged. And you'll
keep evolving. And that brings us to number four, which is
you're trying to follow someone else's life path, or at the very
least some kind of compromise. You're reading articles about
the best jobs and career opportunities in 2021. And
you're talking to family members who are telling you what you
should do. And that leads to some kind of compromise where
you're trying to do a job that someone else thinks you should
do, that you don't really want to do. And so you're not that
good at it or that engaged or maybe you are good at it because
you're one of these damn ENFPs who's good at everything, but
just doesn't enjoy it and lives in hell in your own head because
everyone's like, wow, you're good at this. You should just
Keep that in mind, you'll have a great life. And in your mind,
you're like, I want to jump off a bridge right now I could be
doing so much more with my life. Which brings us to number five,
you won't admit what you really want. So you're sort of stuck in
this compromised zone where you won't jump fully into some kind
of creative career entrepreneurial venture, maybe,
you know, hey, I would love to be doing coaching. But I don't
really want to admit that to myself, or to friends and
family. So you end up going down this compromised career path,
following someone else's dream. Because yes, maybe you can blame
them a little bit. But ultimately, it's a little bit
your fault, too, for not admitting what it is, you really
want. And this often happens because we don't know how to get
what we want. So if we don't know how to get it, we just say,
Well, I guess I don't want it. Because that just seems like the
way to do things. And while this is a topic that deserves its own
video, the quick advice here around this is when you're
thinking about what you want in life, don't think about how to
get it, just think about what you want. If there's a career
that you want, focus on that figure out what it would look
like, why you want it and get really excited and really
committed to it. Then once you've committed to it, figure
out how to get it. If you mix your how your what and your why
all together in your mind, you're basically just going to
compromise in life and not do anything worthy of mention
whatsoever. Because you'll constantly be stopping short of
a bigger dream, because you get stuck in the house. And the how
you will figure out you're an ENFP you've got the how, don't
worry about that. But you've got to commit first and have some
pressure. And then you'll figure out the how. Number six and I
have an entire video on this I'll link to here is a lot of
the career lists for ENFPs are complete and utter garbage. They
are archaic. They are based on lists generated decades ago and
then copied from each other, like some crazy mess and not
providing you nearly enough information, you need to
actually find that right job. Sometimes people will see that
list. See some movies come up with their career plan and 15
years later, and a lot of student debt. Realize, wait,
this job is actually terrible for me. So check out that other
video for some clarification on that and how you can make better
decisions. And number seven, and I'm going to do something
different here. One thing you might notice about this channel
is I rarely blame outside factors or make excuses or say
the world sucks. Life is so hard. It's not my attitude. But
I'm including one here, which is that the system kind of sucks
for ENFPs. I'll give you an example of that. As companies
getting bigger, it's worthwhile to have people specialize. In
fact, people who are more floater position to do a lot of
different things and jump around and learn things really quickly,
are very valuable as entrepreneurs like myself, or
working for small businesses working with entrepreneurs and
being able to jump around. But as companies grow, roles need to
become more specialized. And this isn't some evil conspiracy.
This is just how it works. I'm even finding that in my own
business as we get more and more people on my team and finding
the need to specialize roles and really specify hey, here's what
you do, here's what you don't do. Whereas earlier on, when we
were just three people, it was a lot more jumping around and
doing a lot of different things. And that's what we needed at the
time. So as companies get larger and larger, the roles become
more and more specific. And as the internet makes everyone shop
in the same places there are less than less small businesses
and more and more large companies. And so we have this
sort of Amazon effect, where basically you get a very defined
role, which can basically be done by a robot as soon as that
robot is invented. And very specialized careers tend not to
be as interesting to ENFP unless the actual day to day is very
interesting. So perhaps as a coach or psychologist, even
though that's very specialized, you basically are doing one
thing that can be really interesting to ENFPs because
each person has a different challenge. Each conversation is
very different. But within the system within larger
corporations having a very specialized role can actually be
really limiting for us and it makes it more challenging as
well. I think our educational system at least in Canada, at
least where I grew up, there was a lot just talking about what
jobs pay well and what jobs are in demand. And that's sort of
what you should do without really focusing on who you are.
Because if you're really good at something that's not in demand
very much, you're probably still going to make more money and
have a more fulfilling life than going after something that is in
demand. But you hate doing it and five years in are going to
have a breakdown and quit right but we tend not to get That
advice anywhere when we're growing up. So there are some
things in the system that make it a little more difficult for
us being a bit of a unique personality, let's say, to
figure out exactly what we want to do and what's best for us,
which is one of the many reasons that I made this channel and do
what I do. And my mission here if you are new is to help you
become the best version of yourself all while creating the
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