- Rip the abs?
- Yeah. If you want me to I can rip the abs.
- Rip the abs.
Oh my gosh, wait.
Oh my gosh.
- I'm kind of like an open book
and I think it's easy for me to get to know people
and be vulnerable and be like ugh like this is me.
- Every person I go out with
either I'm really into them
and they're not into me
or they're really into me
and I'm not fully into them
and it's very difficult to try
to find that perfect match.
- There really hasn't been a pattern
to all the people that I've dated
other than they just want to be friends so .
I've actually had like at least
three people tell me this, they're like, "Okay,
"so this has been a really good time for me
"and it's like been really healing
"and I've had so much fun with you,
"but I just like don't really want to date right now."
And I'm always like, "Cool,
"I'm so glad this was wonderful for you."
- There's just this certain type of energy
I look for in someone's personality and beauty
and when I can really sense and feel that energy
I just,
you know, I feel it right here.
I feel it in the heart
and then I'm like, "All right.
"This has potential."
- Your name is Ashley
and this is your story.
You are 26.
For work, you are an actress.
You grew up in San Diego.
Your family heritage is German.
Your astrological sign is Capricorn
and you are 5'6".
- My name is Olivia and this is my story.
I am 28 years old.
For work, I am a Social Media Manager
and I actually manage SoulPancake's social media channels.
I grew up in Chicago
and my family is originally is from Poland and Lithuania.
My astrological sign, I am a Capricorn.
So you got that.
And I'm actually 5'10" on a good day.
Your name is Matt and this is your story.
You are 27 years old.
For work, you are a financial analyst.
You grew up in New York.
Your family heritage is Irish.
Your astrological sign is Cancer.
And your height is 5'9".
- My name is Michael and this is my story.
I'm 28 years old.
I am an executive assistant
at a venture capitalist hedge-fund.
I grew up in Milwaukee.
My family heritage is Scottish and Serbian.
My astrological sign is a Virgo.
And I am six feet tall.
- Honestly, I blacked out on like half of those answers.
This is so funny, ugh.
- I'm just like, I can't believe you think I'm 5'9".
I'm like, "Dang, I look short
when I'm sitting down, that's crazy."
- You thought I was 5'6" so.
- But, yeah, in my eye.
I guess people just assume they think
people are shorter than they actually are.
- I got the financial analyst kind of right,
you do work for, you said a hedge-fund?
- Yeah, I mean I'm an executive assistant
at a venture capitalist hedge-fund
which is, you know, it's all financial management.
- No way, that's awesome.
- So, how long have you lived in Los Angeles?
- Well I went to school out here
and I've been here for like 10 years now so--
- Nice.
- It's crazy. What about you?
- I went to school at the University of Wisconsin in Madison
and then I moved to LA
with a duffle bag, a suitcase and a backpack
and like, and then I found a place
and took the bus, took any job that I could get
and it just, now my life's like,
spectacular compared to that,
but hey, I'd go back to that
with the duffle bag, suitcase and backpack
and five grand and just go travel any day of the week.
- You do prefer texting to talking on the phone.
Your most used emoji is the cool emoji
or the thumbs up emoji.
In your personal life, you post
zero times a day, but I mean not zero,
but it's, you're like one of those types
that post maybe like once a year.
And you are not friends with your mom on Facebook.
Your favorite influencer
on social media is Steph Curry.
- All right, so these are my truths.
Okay I do not prefer texting to talking on the phone.
My most used emoji is a series of emojis,
I like the sun-glassed, cool face.
I like the winky face
and sometimes I'll rip the dragon, you know?
- Wait, "rip the dragon?"
- Yeah, you just gotta rip the dragon.
- Wait, what is that?
- It's the dragon, you know,
it's like a dragon, see?
So, I like the dragon emoji.
- Okay, great.
- And if a girl doesn't like it
then that girl is not right for me.
You know if a girl's cool
if you use the dragon emoji.
- Okay.
- And they don't think it's weird
and they get back to you.
- You're like, that's the dating deal-breaker.
- Yeah, if they don't like the dragon
then we're gonna be draggin' away,
you know, we're going.
In my personal life I would post,
yeah, like once every week maybe.
Honestly, I suck and I hate my Instagram.
And I'm not, yeah, my mom,
my mom doesn't even have a Facebook
so I'm not friends with her on Facebook.
I'm still trying to get her to get a smartphone
so I can Venmo her money, you know what I mean?
- Uh-huh, you Venmo her, yeah?
- Yeah, I mean, you know,
she's helped me out a lot
so I just try to help her out but--
- Wait, that's really nice.
- I don't really have favorite influencer on social media,
like I really don't follow many people, I guess.
- Okay, but like, who do you follow?
Like who would you go on Instagram and be like,
"Oh yeah, I'm excited to see."
- Just, my friends.
I know, it's weird.
- No that's not weird.
- I'm just not an Instagram guy.
- No that's cool, I'm kind of jealous of that actually.
- Yeah, well it's your job to be like
in the 'Gram, you know.
Instantly.
- In the 'Gram.
- So now it's my turn, right?
- Yes.
- To find your truths.
- Okay, so you do prefer texting
to talking on the phone.
- Your most used emoji is the smiley face emoji.
In your personal life, you post
probably six times a day to social media.
You are friends with your mom on Facebook.
Your favorite influencer on social media,
is it King bach?
- Okay,
I, do not
prefer texting to talking on the phone.
My most used emoji is like the sparkle magic, like yeah.
- That's solid.
- In my personal life, I post,
I said "all day" on social media.
Six times is accurate.
- I wish I could be more like that.
- I mean, I'm kind of jealous of you
because you can unplug and, I don't know.
I am friends with my mom on Facebook
and that's actually been, like it's so funny
because she just got Facebook
and just learned how to friend all of my friends
and comment on all their photos.
It's like really sweet and endearing
and it's like, "Oh, she's so cute."
But it's also like, "Mom, like, low-key stop."
My favorite influencer on social media
is probably Dua Lipa, so.
- I have no idea who Dua Lipa is.
- She's a singer.
You need to go and just, you know,
listen to Dua Lipa after this.
- I'll get down with the get-down.
- Get down with Dua.
I think it was interesting that you don't post a lot
because I think I can kind of tell that you don't.
Not that like,
not that I could tell, I just feel like
I don't think, like, you have a pressure to post.
You're kinda like, "Yeah, this is
"my social media and it's there."
- Maybe I could pay someone
to follow me around with a phone
and then I'll start posting to like Facebook and stuff
because I feel like, I just don't like
the way I look when I take a photo or film myself and then,
you always do the duck face.
- Wait, you personally do the duck face?
- Not, no, I didn't know I was doing it,
just by accident, it just kind of happened.
- Wait, show me, I need to see this.
Like how would you smile in a photo?
- I mean, I'm like bad so I--
like, the duck face, you know?
- Yeah, but wait, are you gonna post about this?
- Am I gonna post about this? So--
- Do you have your phone?
- I left my phone in my bag.
- I think we should do the, what is it?
- [Both] Dragon.
- Rip the dragon, but with duck face.
- [Male Crew Member] Do you wanna use my phone?
- I went through your stuff
There you go.
- Okay, are we doing it straight to the 'Gram?
- No, no , no, never.
- Okay, are we just taking a photo?
- We need to find our light, hold on.
- It's right there, look.
- But, like, the best light, hold on. Okay.
- Gonna rip the abs.
- Rip the abs?
- If you want me to, I can rip the abs.
- Oh my gosh, wait.
- Are you scared of it?
- Yes, oh my gosh. - Yeah, yeah, I got some.
- [Michael] See people make fun of me
because I'll be like, "Hey, what's up dude, wait."
No, I'm kidding.
- I like don't even know what to say after that,
you just have like perfect abs.
You like, people can do laundry on those.
- I get, yeah, I do, like women pay me
to wash their clothes on my abs.
It's like, it's a crazy rip.
- Okay, you would rather go out
when you spend time with your significant other.
You have been in one serious relationship.
Your longest relationship was one year.
You delete your dating apps after three dates.
It is difficult to be single during the holidays.
And you are still single because you aren't settled
or you want to have fun.
- All right, so I would rather
stay in when I spend time with a significant other.
I have been in one serious relationship, god.
My longest relationship was one year, yup, holy crap, crap.
And I usually delete my dating app,
well I haven't, I got rid of those a long time ago.
It's not difficult being single during the holidays for me.
I'm still single because
I feel like I'm searching for the right partner
who seems, you know, like it would
be worth it for the long-term.
And maybe I'm like not settled
and kinda wanna have fun.
I like it.
- Okay.
- All right, so, you would rather go out
when you spend time with a significant other.
You've been in three serious relationships.
And the longest relationship you've been in was three years.
And I'd say you delete your dating apps after five dates.
It is difficult to be single for you during the holidays.
You're still single because
you recently broke up with your boyfriend
and you're taking your break time.
- I would rather go out
when I spend time with a significant other.
I've been in zero serious relationships.
And my longest relationship was maybe like three months.
I have actually never been on any dating apps
so, I don't know.
It is difficult for me to be single during the holidays.
And I'm still single because
I just haven't found that person, I guess.
- So you mentioned that it's, you know,
difficult for you to be single around the holidays.
- So I only see my parents like once a year
and so when I do go,
my brother actually lives in Los Angeles too,
but he'll bring his girlfriend
and then it's like my dad, my stepmom and my brother
and his girlfriend and, like, and then there was just me.
- That's cold-blooded.
- Yeah.
- That's like totally cold-blooded, dude.
That's not cool.
- Yeah, and like, honestly, it's fine for the most part
but I'm like very extroverted
and I hate feeling alone
and so I think in those moments
even though I'm like with really, with my family
and it's like an intimate setting.
It feels just like really lonely.
- I mean I can relate, for sure.
I loved holidays and then like,
yeah, after my dad passed away,
I kind of like drifted away from holidays
and tried, you know, but, you know,
I always think of, like, Christmas.
Like I always think, "All right.
"Like I'm cool, but how does it affect my mom?
"How does it affect my older brother?
"How does it affect my granny?"
Like I love my dad, my dad was an amazing guy and,
you know, when he died, he told me like,
he was like, "Mike, I want you to know that I love you
"and your brother and your mom with all of my heart and
"but I wanted you to know
"that I might be leaving, but I won't be gone.
"Just look up at the brightest star at night
"and know that I'm up there, you know,
"watching over you."
And I just think like, "Focus on the good times
"I had with him and not on the bad."
And then I'd focus on someone who passes away,
I don't think about death,
I think about how much of a privilege
and honor it is to like live this life
we have right here, right now
and how can I live my life
to the best ability that I possibly can
and try to like, be of service
and be the best possible human being
I can possibly be
to all the people that I love
and, you know, love me so, yeah.
Your deal-breakers are
smoking,
not having a job
and not posting on social media.
Yeah.
- Mine are probably someone who's introverted
or doesn't like to go out.
Someone who's not a Christian
and someone who is bad at communicating.
- Damn, my god.
I've been swearing this whole time.
Oh my god, okay.
- Your deal-breakers are introverted,
someone your friends don't like
and someone who isn't active.
- My deal-breakers are
smoking,
someone who doesn't want kids.
I mean I want kids in the future
and like, I mean I'm open to adopting kids,
but like, I'd rather like,
I kind of want one of my,
I want to put this weird gene in someone,
you know what I'm saying?
- Oh my gosh.
- Gotta keep the light moving, yeah.
No, I'm just kidding.
And, you know, women that expect me
to pay for everything, man, like I just can't.
I'll pay for a lot of things, but like,
when a woman just like expects me to pay for everything,
she better expect not to see me again,
you know, I'm kidding.
I can't believe I just said that oh my God.
There's gonna be a lot of women that watch this
and are gonna be like, "That guy."
- No, they won't.
- This is not good.
- Honestly, I think you're gonna be like
the star of the season
and I'm not just saying that.
- Sorry, someone's calling me, but I--
- Wait who's calling you?
You have to answer it right now.
- Really?
- Yes.
- It's my friend Troy.
What's up Troy?
Yo, I'm on a dating show right now, dude and you're on it.
Yeah, dude. Yeah way.
- Okay wait, can I ask him a question?
- Okay Troy, she's gonna ask you questions about me now.
- [Troy] I don't know if I'm willing to answer.
- You don't know if you wanna answer.
- Just--
- [Troy] I'm just kidding, No, what's up?
- Hi Troy, my name's Olivia.
- Damn.
- [Troy] Hi, nice to meet you Olivia.
- Hi, so at the end of this I have to say
if I would or wouldn't go on another date with Michael.
Give me a reason why I should go on a date with him.
- [Troy] Because he's really nice
and I love him like a brother.
I used to actually stay with him, he was like family.
He always looked out for me
and he's always been basically like my brother, exactly.
- Thank you.
- And Troy just tell 'em about my abs, dude.
Tell 'em how big my abs are.
- We've seen your abs, there's, we have proof.
Michael, when I first saw you
I thought that I would date you
and now that I've gotten to know you,
I said that I still would date you.
- Well Olivia, when I first met you
I said that I would date you
and now that I've gotten to know you,
I said that I would date you.
- Yay.
- When I first saw you I thought, "All right,
"she's got pretty eyes, she's nice."
And then after I've gotten to know you
and learn more about you and like what you do,
you know, you just seem like a very genuine,
nice, kind, sweet person that has a lot of friends
and like does a lot of good things
and I would go on a date with you.
- Thanks.
Honestly I didn't know what to expect going into this,
but I've had so much fun.
I've just, like, I don't know,
you've made me laugh a lot, so.
- Then I guess I'm funny, I think.
- Just a little bit.
Just a tiny bit.
- Can we hug? - Yeah.
- It's not weird?
Oh yeah, you are tall.
- Yeah, see I'm taller than you?
Well hey, let's, I guess we walk off together.
I feel like whenever I meet a girl,
they're like, "Well, what's your IG?"
I'm like, " ", pardon my French.
I'm like, "Crap!"
But like I had it in neutral in the ,
in the darn thing.
- You got out of the car in the--
- In the car wash, yeah,
in the darn car wash, yes,
this is a PG ad.
Yeah, I have a problem with swearing,
I swear too much, I swear a lot.
Or darn, all right, right now I vow,
I'm not gonna swear one more time
we're in the rest of this show.
Okay? Pinky swear.
- And then wait, what happens if you do?
- Every time I swear, I'll have to post on Instagram.
- Of how, like, wonderful this time has been.
- Yeah. How wonderful this,
we'll do time has been, so that's one.
She'd called me and was like, "Mike,
get rid of that beard."
And I'm like, "What the ?"
because I had a beard,
just like, " Mom." like, "Leave me alone."
but my mom's cool,
she's a good person, she's .
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