Do you want to know if your man is In love with you or falling in love with you?
Well stay right here because in this video You will learn the unmistakable signs that
a man is in love with you even if he hasn’t said those three magic words.. don’t go
anywhere… we’re starting right now.
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OK… on to the signs that a man is in love with you.
She loves me … she loves me not … she loves me… she loves me not… ahh… if
only finding the answer were as simple as plucking petals off a flower.
Why is it so hard to know if a person truly loves you?
Well, the truth is, love is a tricky thing.
A guy can say he loves you and not truly mean it, or a man can love you a lot but not be
ready to say it.
And when you aren’t sure how he feels, it’s scary and makes you feel vulnerable.
— So, you keep your guard up to avoid getting hurt.
Then, Instead of being present and connecting with him, you get stuck in your own worried
thoughts that produce fears and insecurities.
The good news… actions speak louder than words,,,, so, if you see the following signs,
you can be sure that he is in love or falling in love with you.. even if he hasn’t told
you.
10.
His Words Are Matched by His Behaviors.
In all relationships, we communicate simultaneously on at least two levels; what we say, and what
we do.
Usually, a person’s verbal and actual behaviors convey the same message which means they are
consistent and congruent.
So, if he’s saying he misses you and backs that up by making plans to see you and spend
time with you, then he is consistent and congruent.
If he tells you that he loves being with you, and then backs up these words by spending
lots of time with you, that’s a great sign.
Another obvious sign that he loves being around you or with you is evidenced by the way a
man touches you.
especially when we are talking about non-sexual touch, things like rubbing your shoulders,
caressing your arm, and stroking your hair.
When a guy starts to fall in love, He will want to be as close to you as possible.
Even if it means your body heat makes him sweat bullets.
Being physically close to you is all that matters to him.
So If you’ve noticed that he is being a lot more physically affectionate, then it’s
a clear sign of his growing feelings.
Now Touch alone does not signal love of course, but at the very least, it’s a clear sign
that he truly enjoys your company
9.
He wants to spend time with you, regardless of what you’re doing.
In other words, he wants to be with you even when what you’re doing is not fun..
When a man is in love with you, what matters most is spending time with you, not what you’re
doing…
So if he is there to help you when you have work to do….
If he is there to help you when you’re moving, if he is there to help you paint, you know
that he feels strongly about you.
Another example..
He will often go the 'extra mile' to help you with something — a project, a need,
an errand, etc.
Again... he just wants to be near you regardless.
Bottom line, If they are happy to see you, no matter what the two of you are doing, it’s
a good sign he may be love.
8.
He treats you like a priority…
He is consistently showing you that he is committed to putting the relationship as a
high priority.
And I don’t mean just empty promises.
He not only lets you know you are a priority, he demonstrates it in his daily, even hourly
commitment to keeping the relationship healthy and thriving.
And, He makes your relationship time a priority.
No matter how busy a person is, if you or your relationship is important and a high
priority, he will find the time or make the time for you.
So, if he is figuring it out... taking time to plan dates and to see you despite his busy
schedule, then obviously he cares about you a great deal.
He also demonstrates his commitment to you by consulting with you before making big decisions.
So decision making becomes cooperative rather than individual because you are now a joined
unit.
Couples that are loving and respectful of one another begin to consider not only what
is best for themselves, but also what the potential impact is on their partner.
As a team, you make choices together, especially big decisions.
And he recognizes the importance of being willing to make concessions to achieve the
common good.
7.
He keeps you informed of what he’s up to, not because he has to, but because he wants
to.
So He keeps you in the loop regarding his decisions even when it’s unnecessary, because
he’s considerate of your feelings.
For example, if he’s going to be away from his phone and unresponsive for an extended
time, he let’s you know in advanced if possible or… he explains his delayed response afterward
when he isn’t able to be as responsive as usual…not because you asked, but because
he doesn’t want you to think your feelings aren’t important.
So, he makes daily efforts to stay tuned in to you.
He finds ways to check in with you during the day.
The effort to stay tuned in accomplishes several things.
It allows you to know what’s going on with your partner.
It gives you an opportunity to offer support and Also, knowing that you have each other’s
back feels great!
6.
He Shares your Values and has Similar Goals It would be hard to take the next step in
a relationship if both partners didn’t have similar visions of what their futures look
like as well as the commitment to achieving those goals together.
Sharing values and goals means that you and your partner are on the same page, You both
know what you want out of life, you know what your common goals are, and what you wish to
accomplish in life.
Both of you are firmly committed to achieving these goals.
If you feel empowered to work towards your goals and tackle life’s challenges with
your partner, then chances are you’ve found something good
And…
“It is okay to have different interests, different hobbies, or different tastes in
music, but similarity in key life values such as views on money, the importance of religion
or how you raise children is what keeps people together over the long-term
Now these first signs show that he really feels strongly for you.. but keep watching,
because the next signs are the ones that are unmistakable.. if he’s doing these things..
he’s either in love or falling in love with you.
5.
Your happiness is important to him…
When you love someone, when you really love someone, their happiness is your happiness.
This is especially true for men who need to feel like they can make a woman happy.
If you tell him that something makes you unhappy and he keeps doing it, this is not a sign
that he’s in love with you.
Instead, A man who loves you will avoid doing things that make you unhappy and he will learn
the things that make you happy, and he’ll make an effort to do those things.
4.
He includes you when talking about the future.
he includes you in his bigger life plan.
He doesn’t speak about the future vaguely; instead, he makes it clear that he envisions
a future with you in it.
So Pay attention to the way he talks about the future..
Does he use the word "we" when referring to some future discussion, or does he use the
word me.
Does he say things like…
In the future, I’m going to move to California… or does he instead ask you questions like..
would you ever consider living in California?
Do you see the difference here?
The first one might make you feel threatened.. like he’s going to leave and move to California
regardless of what you want.
The second indicates that he is considering you in his thoughts about the future.
So, if he is speaking about a possible future with you, it's a sign that he is falling in
love or is already in love with you."
3.
He wants to immerse himself in your life.
He wants to meet your family and all of your friends, and he really wants them to like
him.
He makes an effort to get to know them and make a good impression.
He wants to know all about your passions and hobbies and tries to connect to these areas
of your life as much as possible.
At the same time, he also wants to immerse you in his life and for you to meet all of
his people.
He wants you to be best friends with everyone he’s close to and he wants the people in
his life to love you the way he does.
2.
He misses you when you’re apart.
When you love someone, you yearn to be near them and you miss them when they’re gone.
Now, that doesn’t mean you are constantly thinking about them to the point where you
can’t get anything done, because that would be an unhealthy obsession.
but thoughts of them aren’t far from Your mind.
Thoughts of them always lingers in the background.
Things remind you of them, something happens and you want to tell them, or you just feel
a constant connection even when you’re apart.
For example, He sends you funny things he finds online or links to articles he thinks
you’d like, or he’ll tell you about something funny that happened to him that he thought
you’d appreciate… it’s a connection you can feel.
So, if he tells you he misses you when you’re apart, or he does things that show you he
misses you, it’s a great sign.
Before we get to the last and most important sign, I want to remind you that if you’re
a subscriber struggling with a dating or relationship issue, you can get my opinion on your situation
by sending your questions to me Antonioborrello@icloud.com.
It might take me a day or two, but I do respond to all of my emails personally.
Ok.
On to number 1.
This next sign is a sure sign that he is either in love with you or he’s falling in love
with you.
So, if he is doing this, he may not be in love with you yet, but it indicates that you’re
a serious contender.
And that is.
He invests in you and in the relationship.
He invests into the relationship in terms of time, energy, effort, and other important
resources.
Because The more we invest in someone, the more we appreciate them.
The more effort we put into a relationship, the more we like and appreciate our partner
and the relationship as a result.
For example, he goes above and beyond in gestures of thoughtfulness.
He anticipates your needs and takes actions to do things that are helpful.
He does small favors for you when he can and approaches your responsibilities (such as
taking care of a home, cleaning, auto maintenance) in a way where he tries to take burden off
of you.
For example, if you don’t live near one another, he doesn’t mind driving to pick
you up and drop you off.
So he’s showing you his effort.
He’s making effort to weave your two lives together… to share in activities, friendships,
hobbies, passions… those are huge investments in the relationship and make it far too costly
to lose… we don’t make investments like that into relationships that are meaningless..
So yeah.. if he’s doing these things…he may not be in love with you yet, but he’s
falling in love with you.
By the way..
I’ve also made a video that explains the things you can do to encourage a man to fall
in love with you.
Click here to watch that video now.
So.. are you in a relationship where these things are happening but he hasn’t yet told
you he loves you?
If so, I’d love to hear about it..
Please leave a comment and tell us your experience.
I promise to respond to all of you.
Thanks for watching.. see you in the next video.