- Have you ever found yourself
overthinking the text messages that he's sending you
and wondering, well, what does he mean,
and is he flirting, and what should I send him back,
and you're kind of in that anxious place?
If you've ever been there,
what I'm gonna teach you today
is going to change everything for you.
This method is gonna give you the confidence
to know exactly what to text him back.
Check it out.
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Hey, there I'm Mat Boggs,
and I'm the founder of the Love and Relationships Division
here at the Brave Thinking Institute,
where our mission is empowering people
to create and live a life they love,
and that includes your love life.
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Recently, I was talking to one of my VIP clients,
and she was sharing how she met this great guy,
and he's handsome, and he's sexy,
and they have all these things in common,
but she's taking it real slow with him
and they're building this friendship,
but he's sending her text messages that are really flirty
and she can feel the electricity
and the chemistry between them,
but she's just not quite sure how to respond.
And she said, "Mat, I'm overthinking these texts,
I found myself anxious
and I don't know how to respond.
In fact, here's his last text to me."
And it was about getting together
and cooking some fish together,
and he ended the text with a little kissy X in his text,
and she goes, "Should I send that back?
I'm just not sure."
And so I took her through a process
that helped her get grounded, number one,
access her confidence,
and then get really clear on what to send him back.
And so here's the deal,
sometimes it's important to know
the actual words to send someone back,
but there's never enough scripts that you can receive
to know all the scenarios for how to respond
when guys text you.
What's way better is a process that can help you connect
to your best self,
so that you can actually source your authentic answer
and how to respond to him.
So I asked my client, I said,
"How do you feel in this moment
when you're not sure how to text him?
What's the feeling you're experiencing?"
And she goes, "Well, I'm feeling like I'm overthinking,
I'm feeling full of doubt, and I'm feeling insecure."
And I said, "How do you want to feel
when you are responding to him in text?
If you could just wave a magic wand
and feel any way that you wanna feel in this relationship,
how would you feel?"
And she said, "I would feel easy,
I would feel natural, and I wanna feel authentic,
like I'm just myself."
And I said, "And if you responded from a place
of being easy, and natural, and authentic,
what's the fear?"
And she goes,
"Well, the fear is if I say something wrong,
then I scare him away."
And I said, "Here's the cool part.
If you came from this place
and you wrote a text and you said,
'Does this text feel easy, natural, and authentic?'
And the answer was yes,
and you scared him away,
do you want a man who will be scared away
by your easy, natural, and authentic self?"
And she laughed and she goes,
"No, I don't want a man who would be scared away
by my easy, authentic, and natural self."
And I said, "Exactly."
So therefore, you can have certainty
that the right energy
will lead you on the right path to the right guy.
Notice that for a moment,
the right energy leads you to the right path
to the right guy.
If you're easy, natural, and authentic,
and you send something,
and the guy scares off, that ain't your guy.
So I said to her, "What would you,
coming from a space of being easy, natural, and authentic,
he sends you the text about getting together
for cook the fish, and ends it with little X kissy face,
what would you send him back?"
And she tapped in, she closed her eyes,
(Matt inhaling)
she took a deep breath
and she connected to easy, natural, authentic energy.
And she goes, "Oh, well, I would text him back this
and I'd end it with a little kissy face."
And I said, "There you go.
If you come from that energy,
you come from the right energy,
it leads you on the right path to the right guy.
How does that feel?"
And she goes, "That feels really, really good.
I feel confident, I feel grounded,
I don't have the doubt.
I feel certain."
And that is a magic method that you can use.
So when you receive a text from a guy,
you're not quite sure what to send,
step into the version of you that you would love to be
and say, how does the version of me where it all works out,
how does she feel?
The best version of me, what is she feeling?
And then tune into that feeling and say,
from that space, what would I write?
Well, you know what,
I actually wouldn't be too worried about what I would write.
And I'd probably write this,
write that text that's connected to that energy
and it will never lead you to the wrong place.
So my question for you is,
what are some texts that you have sent guys
to maybe get clarity on where things are
when you're coming from your confident, easy,
natural, authentic self?
Go ahead and share those in the comment section below.
This community is amazing.
When you read the comments,
there's so many brilliant ideas and strategies
that get shared,
because you were all pouring into one another.
So I appreciate you, thanks for watching,
here's to your amazing love life.
And I'll see you soon.
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