- Hey everybody, it's Wednesday
and you know what that means.
That's means I'm on the website, katimorton.com
under community, forums, Q and A for videos
and I'm also on YouTube.
So if you asked you questions below the video yesterday
I have taken a look at all of the questions.
I've tried to compile some of them,
'cause some of them were very similar.
And I'm gonna answer those for you right now.
So the first question I have is, hey Kati I feel stuck.
My therapist really wants me to be on antidepressants
but my aunt and guardian is very anti-medication.
She has me on supplements
but they just aren't doing the trick
and my therapist won't let up on asking me
about going on anti-depressants.
What do I do?
That choice, I know that it doesn't feel like it's up to you
but it is up to you.
If the supplements that you're on aren't enough,
I would start writing or journaling, like I always say,
what you'd wanna to say to your aunt.
And it can be anything from,
I mean you can be really persuasive.
I know you can, you're worth the fight,
you're worth the argument.
I've helped some of my clients
talk to their parents about this,
'cause a lot of people don't wanna us on medication.
But medication has its place
and I might talk to your aunt and say,
you know, I know that medication is very scary for you
and you're very homeopathic and I appreciate that
and I respect it,
but the supplements aren't doing me any favors.
They're not helping me and I'm feeling worse.
And I would even venture to say,
would you rather I stay in this homeopathic path
and potentially become suicidal
or would you rather that I get the help that I need
and go on medication?
And you could even bargain with her say,
hey what if I just tried it for
you know six months or a year and then we'll reassess.
This isn't a lifelong choice.
I would consider those options
and use your powers of persuasion.
If it's something that you really think will benefit you,
then it's worth the argument
and it's worth having that discussion.
If she's so stubborn she can't see outside of it,
that's a whole nother question.
Then we have to try to figure out
another way to convince her
or other things we can do to elevate our mood.
'Cause diet can help.
Certain kinds of exercise and like yoga
where we breathe while we move can help elevate our mood.
So those are other things we can do
if that doesn't work, okay.
Question number two.
How do you get over anxiety of something
you know that you need?
And this a question I've been getting a lot
and it's all about school.
We're stressed about tests.
Everybody's stressed about tests.
So I have a couple questions
that I'm gonna answer together as one.
So this person says she's having problems in school
with her grade and she thinks it maybe anxiety related
because the night before she has tutoring,
she gets so anxious she can't even sleep.
But then afterward she realizes it's no big deal.
So how do I get myself to know it's no big deal beforehand
so I can sleep, right?
And then another question I have.
She says I'm in year 12 and have my final exams coming up
and I'm really stressed and miserable.
My self worth is very tied into my academic achievements
but every time I open a book to study,
I just hear all those negative thoughts in my head
and it's amplified, you know.
You're stupid, you're worthless,
blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.
In the past, she's been sent to the hospital
by her psychologist during exam periods
and she doesn't wanna have to go through that,
so what could we better do to keep her afloat?
And I've been getting tons of questions form all of you
about stress and anxiety around school
and how do I cope better.
And if any of you are seeing a therapist,
this is something I do with my clients all the time,
I put together study plans with them
and we rip off one of those sheets that's like
a week or a month of plans.
It's like all boxes
and you can write down what you're to do that day
and how long to spend on it.
And I go through that with my clients.
And you can do it on your own.
You can put down today and also each week take a day off
from studying, 'cause our brains need to break.
They need a break
and know that we have to be reasonable.
We can only study and focus for 45 minutes at a time.
That's the truth.
I mean to actually recall the information
and feel like we've really absorbed it,
stop at 45 minutes, take a break, come back to it later.
So those are things that you can put into action now,
creating plans of when I'll study for what.
I'll work on this and I'll complete it by this day.
If I don't quite get it completed
I have another two hours I've blocked off
in this day to finish, etc., etc.
We can go through all the things that we have to dos, right.
As far as the anxiety levels,
we need to talk to somebody.
We need to have an outlet, whether it's a friend,
a therapist.
You might want to see your psychiatrist
and potentially start some medication for anxiety
or you can use my breathing techniques.
I have those videos on my channel.
You can search, I'm sure you can just search
breathing techniques and I think I have three of them up,
if my memory serves me.
Or you can do some of my yoga stretches,
I have that out there in my channel as well.
There a lot of things we can do to relax ourselves
and I think a lot of it has to do with talking ourselves
out of that anxiety cycle,
when we feel like our heart is beating
and we're having trouble sleeping.
I even have a video on that, how to go to sleep.
So check out some of my videos on relaxation techniques,
breathing, the yoga, my how to get to sleep.
Those will all help.
And journaling, talking to a therapist.
As far as talking yourself out of thinking
it's gonna be so terrible,
a lot of times it's talking back to that voice.
Like both of these questions,
we have to talk back to that negative voice
or that anxiety, this is gonna be horrible voice
and we have to say no, last time it went like this
and it was fine and it's worth this.
It's not worth me staying up all night and blah, blah, blah.
Or for the other one, I'm not worthless.
I've gotten this far in school.
I clearly am intelligent.
I need to push through, I need to do this,
and this is why.
And then I'm gonna take a break and reward myself
'cause I deserve it, right?
We have to get used to talking back to that voice
because every person has that negative voice in their head.
I always call it Negative Nancy.
And no offense if you're name is Nancy.
It just rhymes and it goes well.
So, talk back to that voice,
check out my old videos that have all those tips.
Question number four, or actually three,
but technically four.
How can I deal with weight gain,
especially the last bit into the healthy range?
It is really hard
and we have to do a lot of body image work.
If you haven't checked out my live broadcast
with Lisa Eich, she's on,
it's on my channel.
I forget what we called it,
but it's my live broadcast with her
and she talks a lot about this, so please watch that.
I have a video on building a better body image
and also you can do a lot of,
like Lisa talks about doing this mirror work
where you stand in front of a mirror
and you kinda talk back to that voice.
It helps you see yourself more clearly
and she'll talk about it.
So check that out, that will really help.
And for any of you who've overcome this,
give us your tips and tricks on what's helped, okay.
'Cause this is hard and this is a process
and it has a lot to do with us
accepting compliments, telling ourself compliments,
doing things to make us feel better,
whether it's painting our nails or it's
wearing that clothing you feel really comfortable in.
A lot of it has to do with shopping
and getting clothes that fit properly
that aren't tight and snug, because nobody likes that.
There are a lot of things you can do.
So check out those videos.
I think those will really, really help okay.
And I'll do more body image videos.
Everybody's been requesting that,
so they are coming out, don't worry.
Question number five.
I suffer from an eating disorder and depression
and I have no sex drive, like no urges.
Is this because of those things?
Will I ever get urges once I'm recovered,
'cause I've never had them.
Depression is a big catalyst for no sex drive
and anti-depressants,
which I don't know if you even say.
No, but if you're on an anti-depressant
that can also be a side effect of that.
And an eating disorder means
that we're not getting proper nutrition
and the side effect of not getting proper nutrition
is no sex drive.
So definitely, definitely, definitely
the sex drive can be due to those things.
It's very common.
And also, we have enough going on in our head and
with, you know, what we're managing
and talking back to that voice
and having it run our lives and ah,
that our sex drive is like the last thing
that we're gonna think of.
And this goes for boys and girls.
There's no difference between gender.
So that can definitely effect it.
And I would definitely work with a dietician
as well as a therapist to work on it,
'cause you will get it, don't worry.
Once you're healthy, you have a healthy mind
and a healthy body, sex drive will come back, okay.
So it's another goal, something to look forward to, okay.
And my journal topic for today, drum roll.
So on Instagram, I follow a couple yogi people,
'cause I like that stuff,
'cause I'm kinda weird like that
and I loved this quote.
Oh, I love this quote.
It says, "Life is a balance of holding on and letting go."
Oh, and it was like this yoga pose
where they're like balancing.
I was like wow, I can't even do that.
I'm so amazed by you.
But life is a balance of holding on and letting go
and I want each of you to take time today
and think about one thing that you can let go of today.
Is it that negative voice just for today?
Is it the everything has to be perfect voice?
What is it?
Think about it and let's let go of it.
Find a way that you can let go of it for today
and let's just practice letting go of things.
And then what's one thing you wanna make sure you hold onto?
Who's important to you?
What's important to you and why?
Kind of like yesterday when I told you
what helps you feel content and safe and happy.
Let's think along those same lines, okay.
I hope you have a wonderful evening everyone.
I will see you tomorrow.
I'll be on Twitter.
Tomorrow's Thursday so use the hashtag KatiFAQ
and I will answer your questions.
Love you, bye.