EVEN
EVEN THE
EVEN THE HAPPIEST OF COUPLES FACE HARDSHIPS FROM TIME TO
TIME.
TIME.
TIME. IF
TIME. IF YOU HAVE A RECURRING ISSUE
THAT IS UNRESOLVED EVEN THOUGH
IT MIGHT SEEM SMALL EXPERTS SAY
IT CAN BE DAMAGING.
WHAT ARE SOME OF THE MOST COMMON
CONFLICTS? WEIGHING IN ON THIS
IS DENNA BABUL AND OUR FRIEND
DR. KIMES.
DR. KIMES. MAKE SURE TO WATCH DOCTOR
HEAVENLY ON BRAVO TV.
YOU WEAR A LOT OF HATS.
YOU ARE A DENTIST AND A
RELATIONSHIP ADVISOR.
RELATIONSHIP ADVISOR. >> THIS TOPIC IS GOOD BECAUSE I
THINK THE NUMBER ONE REASON
PEOPLE HAVE PROBLEMS IS
COMMUNICATION.
COMMUNICATION. I CAN TEXT MY HUSBAND BUT IT
MIGHT BE DELIVERED DIFFERENTLY.
YOU HAVE TO TALK TO PEOPLE AND
LOOK AT THEM.
IT'S NOT ALWAYS WHAT YOU ARE
SAYING BUT HOW YOU SAY IT.
>> YES, I WANT TO DIVE INTO
THIS.
THIS.
THIS. THE
THIS. THE FIRST ONE, OF COURSE, A
COMMON ISSUE MONEY.
EXPERTS SAY THE DISCUSSION
ABOUT THIS -- POWER DYNAMICS
AND PERSONALITIES.
AND PERSONALITIES. A COMMON ELEMENT -- A CARMEN
ARGUMENT.
ARGUMENT.
ARGUMENT. >> DO YOU FIGHT OVER MONEY?
>> WE WERE MARRIED EARLY.
WE DIDN'T HAVE ANY MONEY.
WE HAVE ALWAYS BEEN -- MAYBE
IT'S A THING WHEN YOU HAVE
SEPARATE ACCOUNTS OR YOUR OLDER
WHEN YOU GET MARRIED.
WE WERE SO YOUNG -- IT'S ALWAYS
A TOUCHY SUBJECT FOR EVERYBODY.
JUST HATES TO BRING IT UP.
I HATE WHEN HE BRINGS IT UP.
IT'S ALWAYS TRICKY.
>> JIM CONTROLS AT ALL.
IF HE CAN GIVE US A GOOD CREDIT
SCORE I SAY, HAVE ADDED.
>> I WANT THE CONTROL.
>> ME, TOO.
>> I WANT TO BE IN SEMI CONTROL
-- 50%.
-- 50%.
-- 50%. HONESTLY, IF YOU DON'T PUT YOUR
MONEY TOGETHER YOU DON'T KNOW
WHAT'S GOING ON.
I HAD A FRIEND WHOSE HUSBAND
WAS TAKING MONEY OUT OF THE ATM
AND GO TO TARGET AND BY A VISA
CARD AND USE IT FOR SOMETHING
ELSE.
ELSE.
ELSE. >>
ELSE. >> WATCH THE WITHDRAWALS.
>> THAT IS SNEAKY.
>> YES, IT'S THOSE LITTLE
THINGS THAT DON'T SEEM SO BAD.
IT IS CREATING DISHONESTY.
BARRIERS TO GETTING WHERE YOU
WANT TO BE.
>> I AGREE 100%.
I HAVE TO HAVE CONTROL.
I NEED TO KNOW WHERE THE MONEY
IS GOING.
IS GOING.
IS GOING. THAT'S JUST ME.
>> HOW IS YOUR HUSBAND WITH
THAT?
THAT?
THAT? >>
THAT? >> MY HUSBAND WOULD GIVE AWAY
THE WORLD.
THE WORLD. >> AS LONG AS YOU HAVE SOMEONE
MANAGING THEM.
MANAGING THEM. >> WE ARE LIKE FINE -- GO
AHEAD.
AHEAD.
AHEAD. WE
AHEAD. WE ARE CONFIDENCE.
>> WHOEVER IS BETTER ABOUT IT.
>> I THINK SOMETIMES WOMEN THINK
OLD-SCHOOL LIKE THE GUY HAS TO
CONTROL IT.
CONTROL IT. WHEN YOU REALLY NEED TO SEE
WHAT AM I GOOD AT AND WHAT IS
HE GOOD AT?
>> MOVING ON TO NUMBER 2 SEX
-- A TYPICAL -- A DIFFICULT
TOPIC.
TOPIC.
TOPIC. SHOULD THERE BE A SAID
AGREEMENT ON WHEN AND HOW OFTEN
?
?
? >>
? >> YOU
? >> YOU MEAN LIKE EVERY THURSDAY
AND SATURDAY?
AND SATURDAY? >> SCHEDULE IT -- SHARED
CALENDARS.
CALENDARS. >> WE HAVE A SHARED CALENDAR.
WE WOULD HAVE TO HAVE A
DIFFERENT CALENDAR FOR THAT.
>> THAT'S WHAT I'M SAYING.
THE KIDS WOULD SAY I DON'T WANT
TO SEE THAT.
>> DOCTOR, WHAT DO YOU SEE?
YOU REALLY WANT TO BE ON THE
SAME PAGE BUT WHEN IT COMES TO
SCHEDULING IT, IS THAT
APPROPRIATE?
APPROPRIATE? >> WE ALL LEANED A BUSY LIFE BUT
IF SEX HAS CEASED THERE IS
DEFINITELY A PROBLEM.
>> YOU NEED TO HAVE A HEALTHY
SEX LIVES BUT YOU CAN'T PUT
NUMBERS ON IT.
>> I HATE THAT PERSON THAT DOES
THAT.
THAT.
THAT. THE
THAT. THE PERSON STARTS TO SAY HOW
MANY TIMES --
>> THERE ARE EBBS AND FLOWS AND
EVERYONE IS DIFFERENT.
WHAT IS GOING ON IN SOMEONE'S
LIFE -- WHATEVER IS BEST FOR YOU
--
--
-- >>
-- >> WHAT ARE THEY DISCUSSING IN
THE CONTROL ROOM THAT MADE
SARAH LAUGH?
SARAH LAUGH? >> IT DRIVES ME NUTS.
YOU DON'T ASK PEOPLE THOSE
QUESTIONS.
QUESTIONS. THEN SOMEONE IS LEAVING AND
CRYING AND SAYING I DON'T GET
ENOUGH ATTENTION.
ENOUGH ATTENTION. >> YOU DON'T WANT TO COMPARE
THIS.
THIS.
THIS. >>
THIS. >> MY UNCLE IS ALMOST 80 AND
EVERY TIME I GET ON THE PHONE
WITH HIM HE SAYS HOW ARE YOU?
ARE YOU STILL HAVING SEX? YOU
KNOW I DO.
>> I SAY OKAY.
>> THIS IS CUTE BEDROOM
TEMPERATURE.
TEMPERATURE. >> I USED TO SLEEP -- BEING
FROM FLORIDA OR CALIFORNIA HE
HAD IT COLD.
I DIDN'T THINK I COULD BE WITH
HIM.
HIM.
HIM. NOW
HIM. NOW I LIKE IT COLD BECAUSE I
LIKE TO SNUGGLE.
>> YES, THAT'S GREAT.
>> IT'S THE COOL TIME OF YEAR
SO I'VE GOT MY JERSEY SHEETS.
>>>>> SOCIAL MEDIA.
ALL OF YOU HAVE GREAT
BUSINESSES AND GREAT BRANDS.
WHAT DO YOU DO?
MY HUSBAND SAYS LAY OFF AND
TALK TO ME.
>> MY HUSBAND IS NOT ON SOCIAL
MEDIA.
MEDIA.
MEDIA. HE
MEDIA. HE HAS NO DESIRE TO BE ON IT.
I AM ON A BECAUSE OF BUSINESS.
SOCIAL MEDIA CAN BE HARSH.
>> IN THE ARTICLE THEY SENT
IT COULD BE A YOUNGER MARRIED
COUPLE SITUATION.
COUPLE SITUATION. IT DIDN'T EXIST WHEN WE GOT
MARRIED.
MARRIED.
MARRIED. >> I ASKED MY HUSBAND TO LIKE
MY PAGE.
MY PAGE.
MY PAGE. HE SAID I'M SORRY, HONEY.
>> I'VE GOTTEN STUCK ON SOCIAL
MEDIA BEFORE.
MEDIA BEFORE. YOU KNOW ME.
MY HUSBAND'S FAMILY IS IN A
DIFFERENT STATE AND THEY GOT
BACK ON SOCIAL MEDIA AND TOOK
PICTURES OF THE KIDS.
EVERYBODY SAYS WHERE IS DENNA.
I TELL THEM I AM NOT IN THE
PICTURE.
PICTURE.
PICTURE. THEY WONDER WHY HE'S TAKING --
POSTING ALL THE PICTURES.
THAT'S BECAUSE I'M TAKING THE
PICTURES.
PICTURES.
PICTURES. MY FRIENDS SAID WHAT'S GOING
ON.
ON.
ON. >>
ON. >> LET'S TAKE THIS DOWN FURTHER.
IF HE'S NOT ON SOCIAL MEDIA
DOES HE GET BOTHERED WHEN HE'S
TRYING TO HAVE A MOMENT WITH YOU
?
?
? >>
? >> YES,
? >> YES, HE DOES.
HE SAYS LET'S JUST ENJOY THE
MOMENT..
MOMENT..
MOMENT.. I STARTED A FACEBOOK PAGE FOR
HIM.
HIM.
HIM. SOCIAL MEDIA CAN BE TOO MUCH AT
TIMES.
TIMES.
TIMES. >>
TIMES. >> DON'T YOU THINK I BET IF
WE TOOK A POLL IF TRENT WAS HERE
I BET IT'S ONE OF THE BIGGEST
ISSUES IN MARRIAGES.
HOW MUCH TIME PEOPLE SPEND
ONLINE DOING SOMETHING ELSE
OTHER THAN NURTURING, FACE-TO-
FACE TIME WITH YOUR PARTNER.
THAT WOULD BE MY GUESS.
>> I WOULD AGREE WITH THAT.
>> NOT ACCEPTING UNHEALTHY
HABITS.
HABITS.
HABITS. WHETHER IT IS SMOKING,
DRINKING, GAMBLING OR OTHER
ADDICTIVE BEHAVIORS.
ADDICTIVE BEHAVIORS. >> DRIVING THROUGH THE
McDONALD'S?
McDONALD'S? >> WE ARE VICTIMS OFReporter:
EATS.
EATS.
EATS. I
EATS. I DON'T KNOW WHO CAME UP WITH
THAT.
THAT.
THAT. >>
THAT. >> I KNOW.
>> IF YOUR SPOUSE HAD A BAD
HABIT -- IF I THOUGHT IT WAS
UNHEALTHY I WOULD SAY NOT IN
A NAGGING WAY, BUT I WOULD SAY
I'M LOOKING OUT FOR YOU.
WOULDN'T YOU DO THAT?
>> I EVEN NAG MINE FRIEND'S
HUSBAND.
HUSBAND.
HUSBAND. HE WAS VAPING.
WITH MY MEDICAL BACKGROUND I
COULDN'T HELP IT.
>> OUR WORST HABIT IS THAT WE
TOO MUCH.
TOO MUCH.
TOO MUCH. IT'S THE EATING.
I TRY TO MAKE THE MEALS BUT THAT
UBER EATS IS SO EASY.
>> WE JUST HAD A CONVERSATION
-- JUST -- JEFF HAS BEEN
WORKING EVERY NIGHT UNTIL
MIDNIGHT.
MIDNIGHT.
MIDNIGHT. MY BIGGEST THING IS -- WHAT ARE
YOU EATING?
YOU EATING? TELL ME YOU EATING SOMETHING
DECENT INSTEAD OF GOING OUT TO
GET FAST FOOD.
I DON'T WANT HIM EATING FAST
FOOD.
FOOD.
FOOD. >>
FOOD. >> IHOB.
>> IHOB.
>> IHOB. >> LAST -- I THOUGHT THIS WAS
INTERESTING.
INTERESTING. SPENDING TOO MUCH TIME TOGETHER
OR TOO MUCH TIME APART.
AGAIN, THESE ARE COMMON
CONFLICTS.
CONFLICTS. WHAT DO YOU THINK?
>> I THINK THAT CAN BE A
PROBLEM.
PROBLEM.
PROBLEM. THERE ARE TIMES WHEN MY HUSBAND
WILL GET UP ON SATURDAYS AND
TAKE THE KIDS TO BREAKFAST.
I GOT A LITTLE LAZY.
THEN I'M NOT SPENDING FAMILY
TIME.
TIME.
TIME. I
TIME. I HAVE TO CHECK MYSELF A LITTLE
BIT.
BIT.
BIT. >>
BIT. >> ON THE COUPLES SPECTRUM THAT
IS PROBABLY A PROSPECTIVE FROM
SOMEONE WITHOUT KIDS.
WHEN THE KIDS ARE GOING IN ALL
THESE DIRECTIONS -- THERE IS NO
WAY YOU CAN'T DO THAT.
>> I TELL HIM I'VE GOT A MINUTE
-- LET'S GO HOME.
>> I SENT HIM A TEXT AND SAY I
CAN'T WAIT TO HAVE SOME ALONE
TIME WITH YOU --